I love affection from my partner, but not intimacy

[SecretlySad]

I could cuddle my boyfriend of nearly 8 years all day long. However, when he wants to take it further I am very uncomfortable. I don't find myself physically attracted to him at all anymore and I don't want to have sex with him, yet my libido is raging (no I am not cheating and never would, I am just horny all the time).

 

I don't know what that means?? If I feel like our relationship has become platonic why am I still ok with the affection?

[gaius]

Affection is nice, even if you don't want to have sex with the person. Did he gain weight or something? Or is the relationship just stale?

[SecretlySad]

Affection is nice, even if you don't want to have sex with the person. Did he gain weight or something? Or is the relationship just stale?

 

He has always been overweight, but he has been promising to lose the weight since pretty much the day we met yet never has. He makes an effort for a few weeks then slowly slips back into his old eating habits.

 

I was very young when we met, and was and always have been much more attracted to his personality than his looks. But now I am at an age where I want more sex… just maybe not with him. I miss it

[FitChick]

But now I am at an age where I want more sex… just maybe not with him. I miss it

 

Why don't you tell him?