SilverAngelus Posted June 6, 2004 Posted June 6, 2004 Hi, well I have been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 months. We have only gotten into one major fight and although we tend to disagree on minor subjects I have found that we are very compatable and usualy work togather amazingly in a relationship. However. One day he did somthing that pissed me off (a few days ago) and in my female bitchyness (it didnt help that I was PMSing) I wrote him a long letter telling him some of the stuff I didnt like about our realtionship. Really it was only 3 things but they had like 2-3 paragraphs each. Yeah- stupid thing to do. Well he got pissed and said somthing things. Not the least of which was that he haddnt been feeling the same for me latly (even though in the past few weeks we had become very intimate and started confessing strong feelings for each other often) and that since I was leaving in a few weeks to visit my mother for a month and a half he didnt know if our relationship was worth saving or not. He said we should either take a break or break up and be friends. Well now that my bitchy rage was past...I freaked! I mean I really care about this guy and really dont want to loose him! He has had alot of stress on him...he recenlty quit his part time job (although it was more like a full time job, he worked from 2:30-7:00 and then after hours after the store closed and both days on weekend and holidays) and his sister is going to collage...which means that since his parents got divorced years ago it will be only him and his mother paying the bills. And he just quit his job bc he is big into ROTC, as I am, and he is trying to get a scolarship to The Citadel, a prestgious military collage in the south near where we live. Also we will both be attending a One week boot camp at the Citadel this monday...which he will possibly commanding. Keep in mind this sint some one school camp...we have schools from as far as Texas and Lousiana that come to South carolina to go to this camp, and one senior cadet (this coming year is his senior year) and they are considering HIM to command it. Also this *is* his senior year, so thats alot of stress on its own. Not to mention the fact that he has a bad habit of saying things he doesnt mean when he is angry or upset. So now I see that I chose a major bad time to bitch. Normaly i wouldnt worry about it, except for the comments he made about "not having felt it in the past month, only hanging on to see if the fire would come back, ect" (Which contradics his comments and actions of the past few weeks, but I dont know) and him saying maybe we should take time apart, he didnt know if our relationship was worth saving, ect., Keep in mind he was very upset when he wrote this. The last I heard from him he just said he didnt know what was going on and he needed time to think. he is spending the weekend at a friends house. I asked him if we could meet to talk the Friday of camp (when they give us a few hours of free time on the last day) but he hasnt written me back yet and he isnt jome to answer his phone. So...I am wondering... Should I worry or does it sound like we will be okay? Again or should I worry that maybe we are breaking up? Bc I really dont want to loose him... Any thoughts/comments/advice/ect? thanks a bunch and sorry this is so long... Angel
pocoestrella Posted June 6, 2004 Posted June 6, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font] Angel, Give him some time... No one can really say if the two of you will be okay... but know that no matter what happens YOU will be okay... Don't take so much upon yourself here... obviously when you wrote him the letter you were upset and needed to vent... so lesson learned... next time you feel this way write it all down, then put it aside and re read it when you're not so upset see if you still feel that way later... Since it was a letter of frustration that you are feeling so badly about right now... write him a letter about how you feel at this moment when you're not upset... Good Luck
Author SilverAngelus Posted June 6, 2004 Author Posted June 6, 2004 hi, thanks. I did that- I wrote him the most amazing "I'm sorry I love you Please forgive me" letters ever...it was like 2 pages long and really good. But he just wrote back saying he didnt know. Hopefully his friend will talk some sense into him... Angel _________________ L ove I s E ternal (read the first letter up and down)
pocoestrella Posted June 6, 2004 Posted June 6, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font] You're welcome:) You've done your part... give him some time now, I think he will come around.
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