xztjohn Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 (edited) i havent really talked to my ex in about 2 months she texted me twoce diring that periods saying "i hope you are doing well" and asking for hw help which i just helped her out through text, but that was it.these past couple of days ive been missing her alot. she is my first girlfriend, she has been dating aomeone else after our break up. any advice to keep strong? i know i should not break it but i am feeling little weak lately Edited February 23, 2012 by xztjohn
flitzanu Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 i havent really talked to my ex in about 2 months she texted me twoce diring that periods saying "i hope you are doing well" and asking for hw help which i just helped her out through text, but that was it.these past couple of days ive been missing her alot. she is my first girlfriend, she has been dating aomeone else after our break up. any advice to keep strong? i know i should not break it but i am feeling little weak lately you stay strong by remembering she has no desire to talk to you. do you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to talk to you? ever watch some guy try to talk to a girl that has no interest in talking to him? that's you right now, if you try talking to her. don't give her the power or satisfaction.
cerridwen Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 i havent really talked to my ex in about 2 months she texted me twoce diring that periods saying "i hope you are doing well" and asking for hw help which i just helped her out through text, but that was it.these past couple of days ive been missing her alot. she is my first girlfriend, she has been dating aomeone else after our break up. any advice to keep strong? i know i should not break it but i am feeling little weak lately There are two things I do which work best because of my particular psychology. At the tiniest twinge of missing him, I cut it off by 1) Thinking of him with someone else. That evokes an instant feeling of "eff you." I don't tolerate being second to anyone. Sure, in a more mature moment, I can accept incompatibility led us in different directions but in a moment of feeling weak enough to contact? Forget it. I call on my ego, my sense of pride and dig my heels in. 2) The passion I once had for him goes to something else. All the energy once spent loving the guy up now goes to me. Massages, facials, new electronics, trips with the girls, new linens, new Trikke, mine. But it's not just about acquiring things--use them with passion. Every moment occupied with something else, is a moment you're not being tempted to call. Get into kayaking and adventure travel. So many places to see! Get into rock climbing, surfing, guitar, fort building, I dunno, anything! There are already things you like, have always wanted to try, why not now? It will help on so many levels. It has me. Good luck and hang in there. 1
madball2289 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Trust me don't do it. If you haven't talked to her in two months and she is already dating someone else don't even bother with her. I haven't talked to my ex in almost just about two months and I know for a fact she is already talking to someone else or at least "messing" around again. If she is already dating someone else that's shows you how much she really cared, which means she didn't. The hell with her, move on, and find someone better.
Frank13 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 You will have good days and bad days in regards to wanting to break NC. What helps me the most is coming here and reading the messages and replying if I think I can help. When I have really wanted to break NC, I go to the "Coping" forum and post under the topic "Post here instead of contacting your ex" or something similar. I just write what I want to say and post it there which does help. There are days I think I am over her and days I really miss her.
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