Author kaylan Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 (edited) ^ I tried those creams....the chemicals burned my face and didnt really remove all the hair. Plus since it removed the entire hair from the follicle, when my hair grew back I had ingrown along with the sensitive skin from the harsh cream. =( I tried though =/ Edited February 24, 2012 by kaylan
ThaWholigan Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 (edited) I always grow my beard. I have one haircut every 3 months these days. As a result, my don't have great problems with it, I wash it a lot, I even comb it when it's long enough. Right now my beard is pretty thick. It's probably why I don't get much attention from girls at the moment, I look pretty old (running joke among my friends and family is that I'm really 35 and secretly married to a puerto rican woman and have 5 kids in a house in Clapham). Whenever I have a haircut and shave from barbers, I'm always noticed, as I look much younger (and prettier - yes homo LOL) As for creams, I just use oils, olive or almond oil. I'm blessed with a very smooth face, not particularly bumpy, probably because I let the beard grow. Edited February 24, 2012 by ThaWholigan 1
Star Gazer Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I think your facial hair on a first meeting needs to look like the facial hair in your profile... whatever that is, is what's she's going to be expecting.
Els Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Meh, if you're doing all that and it still isn't working, keep the beard, just trim it so it doesn't look like a huge gnarly bush. Shaving completely clean doesn't work for me either due to very sensitive skin, so I leave my legs be and keep the pits trimmed. No point making yourself suffer for aesthetics.
Star Gazer Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Also, I'm assuming you've tried the product Tend Skin? It's literally amazing.
Author kaylan Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 (edited) I always grow my beard. I have one haircut every 3 months these days. As a result, my don't have great problems with it, I wash it a lot, I even comb it when it's long enough. Right now my beard is pretty thick. It's probably why I don't get much attention from girls at the moment, I look pretty old (running joke among my friends and family is that I'm really 35 and secretly married to a puerto rican woman and have 5 kids in a house in Clapham). Whenever I have a haircut and shave from barbers, I'm always noticed, as I look much younger (and prettier - yes homo LOL) As for creams, I just use oils, olive or almond oil. I'm blessed with a very smooth face, not particularly bumpy, probably because I let the beard grow. Gold post bro. You had me laughing mad hard at the puerto rican wife with 5 kids part. But yeah, I think Ima tough it out with the beard for now and just trim it up. I pretty tempted to shave though, since I do like the attention I usually get when I do shave. I just dont know if its worth the pain of the ingrown hairs. Ima try brushing it more too..Gotta stay fresh...and pretty (all homo - lmao) Also, I'm assuming you've tried the product Tend Skin? It's literally amazing. No I havent. Ima see if I can find info on it over at this shaving forum I found. Theres forums for anything nowadays. I was surprised when I first found it, since they are so in depth about products and the whole shaving process. A lot of the guys shave old school with straight razors or double edged razors. With the fluffy brush and shaving suds too. But yeah...Ill try and pick this stuff up though. Doesnt hurt to try something new. Edited February 24, 2012 by kaylan
Star Gazer Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Who says Im going on a date? If you actually read my OP in full, youd see this was a general question asking what women like when they first meet a guy. My being in-depth about an issue Im dealing with has nothing to do with my potential success in dating. Get a grip sister. Oh boy, here come the angry responses again. Ariadne read your opening post in the DATING forum titled "shave or beard on first meeting," and based on the information you provided in your opening post in the DATING forum, asking whether or not you should shave or not shave for a "first meeting" with a woman, and asking whether other men "rock a beard" when "dating," and concluded that you were wondering whether or not you should shave or not for a DATE. Why you are confused about why she would think you were asking about whether to shave or not for a date is beyond me. Her conclusion was perfectly reasonable based on the information you provided, and dare I say, the only reasonable interpretation. I thought the same thing, and I'm sure 99% of the people who read your OP thought the same thing. But of course, instead of just addressing her inquiry, you're going to hurl insults at her. That is your MO, after all.
johan Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Sorry to say but... A guy that writes and essay of 10+ paragraphs about "should I shave or not shave?" before going to a date, and endlessly discussing about ingrown hairs is not going to be successful in this date or any dates. You have a point. It's not unlike starting a thread with a long post about whether to wear the black shoes or the brown shoes. I don't claim to know exactly what any particlar woman is going to expect on a date, but there are a couple of things you can do to make her wonder about you: 1) obsess about insignificant things, and 2) prove to be indecisive and I guess a third 3) lash out at people with disrespect and anger over minor slights. On my next date, I might or might not shave, and I don't expect I'll be writing any dissertations about it beforehand.
Ariadne Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 You have a point.. Nah, the thing is why I got it with brother kaylan. Maybe it's because he stopped being Muslim? Dunno. I'm kind of stressed today and having problems. Poor kaylan. Love you kaylan. Sorry.
gaius Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Nah, the thing is why I got it with brother kaylan. Maybe it's because he stopped being Muslim? Dunno. I'm kind of stressed today and having problems. Poor kaylan. Love you kaylan. Sorry. Perhaps you're attracted to him?
Author kaylan Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 (edited) Oh boy, here come the angry responses again. Ariadne read your opening post in the DATING forum titled "shave or beard on first meeting," and based on the information you provided in your opening post in the DATING forum, asking whether or not you should shave or not shave for a "first meeting" with a woman, and asking whether other men "rock a beard" when "dating," and concluded that you were wondering whether or not you should shave or not for a DATE. Yes, for A date. Not for a PARTICULAR date like she was saying. If you read her response...she says "this date" when I never mentioned any particular date that I was about to go on. My Op was a general question. Plus her post was rather rude, so that warranted the tone in my response to her. Why you are confused about why she would think you were asking about whether to shave or not for a date is beyond me. Her conclusion was perfectly reasonable based on the information you provided, and dare I say, the only reasonable interpretation. I thought the same thing, and I'm sure 99% of the people who read your OP thought the same thing. But of course, instead of just addressing her inquiry, you're going to hurl insults at her. That is your MO, after all.Im not confused about anything. You must be confused as to why I responded to her rude post the way I did. No one else responded to me that way but her, so no...99% of the people reading my OP did not think the same thing. Of course you of all people waltz in here and decide to stir crap up instead of leaving things be. Especially afrer she apologized to me and accepted fault for her attitude. Dont be a troll now...the issue was dead. You have a point. It's not unlike starting a thread with a long post about whether to wear the black shoes or the brown shoes. I don't claim to know exactly what any particlar woman is going to expect on a date, but there are a couple of things you can do to make her wonder about you: 1) obsess about insignificant things, and 2) prove to be indecisive and I guess a third 3) lash out at people with disrespect and anger over minor slights. On my next date, I might or might not shave, and I don't expect I'll be writing any dissertations about it beforehand. I dont see whats wrong with writing a detailed post about a particular issue most dont deal with in order to limit questions that would be asked of me. But from your response I can guess you arent black. Seeing as the one brother who did respond was easily able to relate to me on growing a beard. Like I said before, most folks here arent black and hence they would not understand what black dudes deal with when it comes to shaving. I actually joined a shaving forum and there are posts way longer than my OP, especially the ones that go over a guys shave routine. Edited February 24, 2012 by kaylan
Ariadne Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Perhaps you're attracted to him? Dunno, he also talks about women working and stuff, and I want a man to support me so maybe that? Like he goes against what I believe the roles should be (or want them to be). He could be my son btw, so doubt that is the reason.
Star Gazer Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 You have a point. It's not unlike starting a thread with a long post about whether to wear the black shoes or the brown shoes. I don't claim to know exactly what any particlar woman is going to expect on a date, but there are a couple of things you can do to make her wonder about you: 1) obsess about insignificant things, and 2) prove to be indecisive and I guess a third 3) lash out at people with disrespect and anger over minor slights. On my next date, I might or might not shave, and I don't expect I'll be writing any dissertations about it beforehand. So on point, I love it.
Star Gazer Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 You must be confused... Dont be a troll now... More insults! Not surprised!
Author kaylan Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 More insults! Not surprised! Whatever you say love. Stirring up drama after an issue was already amicably laid to rest is what most would call trolling.
Els Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 You have a point. It's not unlike starting a thread with a long post about whether to wear the black shoes or the brown shoes. I don't claim to know exactly what any particlar woman is going to expect on a date, but there are a couple of things you can do to make her wonder about you: 1) obsess about insignificant things, and 2) prove to be indecisive and I guess a third 3) lash out at people with disrespect and anger over minor slights. On my next date, I might or might not shave, and I don't expect I'll be writing any dissertations about it beforehand. I do think it's reasonable to expect that the post is about dating, but I wouldn't be so harsh on him for it. Plenty of posts about 'should I wear this dress or this dress' or 'how much skin should I be showing' and such, regarding that dreaded first date. I don't see this as any different.
gaius Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Dunno, he also talks about women working and stuff, and I want a man to support me so maybe that? Like he goes against what I believe the roles should be (or want them to be). He could be my son btw, so doubt that is the reason. Hey opposites can attract sometimes! Especially ones it's taboo to be with. Kaylan is my go to guy if I'm in the mood for an argument. He never gives up.
Tybalt Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 If it's a OLD first date, I agree with the poster who mentioned showing up looking like whatever photos you posted. In other words, similar facial hair, weight, age, etc. I actually found this post interesting. As often as I wonder if men realize how irritating their stubble can be on my skin if we kiss, now I realize that keeping a close shave can be a tough one for men too. Oh, how we suffer together to please one another.
Star Gazer Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 Whatever you say love. Stirring up drama after an issue was already amicably laid to rest is what most would call trolling. Love? Your condescension is palpable. Forgive me for not reading an entire thread before responding to make sure YOU'd made nice with Ariadne (which YOU didn't). My point still stands. You hurl insults rather than engage in dialogue.
Star Gazer Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I do think it's reasonable to expect that the post is about dating, If it's a OLD first date, I agree with the poster who mentioned showing up looking like whatever photos you posted. You silly girls, this thread wasn't about a date at all!!
Author kaylan Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 (edited) You silly girls, this thread wasn't about a date at all!! You still dont understand. Oh wells. Its not like I could take you any less seriously. Love? Your condescension is palpable. Forgive me for not reading an entire thread before responding to make sure YOU'd made nice with Ariadne (which YOU didn't). My point still stands. You hurl insults rather than engage in dialogue. Of course I wouldnt expect a troll to read an entire thread. Thats odd considering you gave me advice before even quoting her rude comment and my response. I mean if you took the time to read the thread that far...it doesnt make sense to be so lazy as to not read a few posts forward to see the issue was done with. She apologized, so I left it at that. I wasnt going to address it further because I did not need people like you yammering on about it. Your point stands on brittle toothpicks. I did not hurl an insult at Ariadne. Since when is asking someone to get a grip and chill out an insult? And I accurately labeled you a troll. No one else commented on the issue until you decided to stir the pot. Thats what trolls do, they create unnecessary drama. The matter was already over and dealt with but of course you had to post. Get out of here with this nonsense. Edited February 24, 2012 by kaylan
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