timchambo Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 (edited) brief history: Was in long term relationship (7+ years) that ended about 14 months ago. Have been on numerous dates in that time, never really feeling ready or interested in any of the girls. I met a new girl about 2 weeks ago while I was out at the store. Exchanged contact information, she reached out later that night. I took her out on our first date 2 days later. We have been on ~6-7 dates total. Have slept together a couple times now. Seems to be moving pretty quick on the physical end. She seemed "curious" prior to dropping the panties if I was just looking for a F buddy. I am not, and I think she believes it. She claims she is not either. here is my problem...she still seems to be playing games. I have texted or called her once almost every day (before and after we started having sex), each time her taking at least a couple hours to return a text. She wasn't working, or in school. This has been going on the entire 2 weeks. She was the one that reached out originally, and has suggested to meet up at least half of the times we have see each other. I have dropped a hint about how hard she is to get a hold of, to acknowledge her efforts in playing hard to get. Today I woke up feeling like I am growing tired of the chase. I think she knows it too per my previous comment. Is this normal at this point? I know its only been a couple weeks. If it was say 50% of the contact was like this, no big deal. This is literally every phone call or text message...100%. If it was based only on the communication, I would say she wasn't interested at all, but she is so responsive physically. Maybe I am expecting too much too soon. Admittedly 14 months after such a serious relationship is relatively soon, but I truly feel ready for someone else now. Edited February 23, 2012 by timchambo
ditzchic Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 I don't know if I would call it game playing... but it doesn't seem like she is all that interested in you and she probably doesn't want to get more serious based on her behavior. It's up to you if you want to keep it as a casual dating situation with her or not. If you're only interested in something that has long term potential, I would say drop her. Btw, are you guys exclusive?
ctes300 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 i am slowly figuring out that when someone doesn't want to make the time for me. it seems you're willing to make time for her but it's not taking the same priority in her life. you might be able to distance yourself and get her interest back but contact every day in a two week relationship is too much. you are too available and its turning her off. this is game play, and essentially that is not what you're looking.
Author timchambo Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 I don't know if I would call it game playing... but it doesn't seem like she is all that interested in you and she probably doesn't want to get more serious based on her behavior. It's up to you if you want to keep it as a casual dating situation with her or not. If you're only interested in something that has long term potential, I would say drop her. Btw, are you guys exclusive? I would agree that she has hit her limit with how serious she wants to get. We have both denied dating other people at the moment. We have seen each other like every other day or so. She has gone out of her way to be available and ask me what I was doing the next day to set up plans. i am slowly figuring out that when someone doesn't want to make the time for me. it seems you're willing to make time for her but it's not taking the same priority in her life. you might be able to distance yourself and get her interest back but contact every day in a two week relationship is too much. you are too available and its turning her off. this is game play, and essentially that is not what you're looking. she has made the time for me and our plans have all gone through. At least 3 of the times we have met up have been her calling and asking what I was doing, or what my plans were the next day. I guess that's what confuses me. She has texted me first on a number of occasions, but usually its me. That is when I end up waiting a few hours for a response. I thought keeping an open line of communication would be important to show interest. I know for sure I am her best option she has had in the last few years. Not trying to pat myself on the back, just speaking realistically. Maybe this factors into the game playing since she knows that I know her history. I have been too available since our windows of opportunity to see each other are pretty tight. I am 50/50 on her at the moment. Just new to the game again and trying to understand, that is all..
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