nate101 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 hi i never dated in my life i join dating sites match.com and speeddate.com. i paid 39.99 for 30day trail on match.com and speedate i paid 1.99 3 day trail. heres what i dont get...... WHY THE HELL NO ONE IS NOT REPLYING TO IMS OR TALKING TO YOU OR AT LEST EMAILING YOU BACK. yes i IM girl say hello no replys and they are online. i send emails no replys. every IM and every email and every girl no replys or talking to you. are these sites scams what am im doing wrong? has any one had any problems? are there better places? my money ghas beenh a waste to match.com and speedate.com any better ways on getting dates or a way find what im doing wrong that no one is talking but me. thank you
SJC2008 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 I don't know where you live but in my area match.com is 90% college graduates 24+ who want at least a bachelors. Try OkC, I've had Way more succes getting dates. Read the critique my online messages thread and USE my message, it works! Like I said in that thread, if they want to swept off their feet via email they're missing the boat! Lastly, unless you are a stud, don't expect greater than a 30% return rate. My all time best was 4 responses out of 11 msgs, that's about 36% and I'm no stud, I'm average/cute. Don't let it get you down, I have learned to have thicker skin and am thankful for it! For some reason, online womens standards go up at least double IMO. There are woman whom I've messaged and Know I could "pull" on the street blow me off. So keep your head up and good luck!
andwilson90 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 hi i never dated in my life i join dating sites match.com and speeddate.com. i paid 39.99 for 30day trail on match.com and speedate i paid 1.99 3 day trail. heres what i dont get...... WHY THE HELL NO ONE IS NOT REPLYING TO IMS OR TALKING TO YOU OR AT LEST EMAILING YOU BACK. yes i IM girl say hello no replys and they are online. i send emails no replys. every IM and every email and every girl no replys or talking to you. are these sites scams what am im doing wrong? has any one had any problems? are there better places? my money ghas beenh a waste to match.com and speedate.com any better ways on getting dates or a way find what im doing wrong that no one is talking but me. thank you These all sites make money only, but they don't make friends. Best way to make friends is do friendship by surfing some social networking sites.
Author nate101 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 These all sites make money only, but they don't make friends. Best way to make friends is do friendship by surfing some social networking sites. what are the social sites?
Author nate101 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 You're new here, aren't you? ya im new on here
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Well for starters, I hope the messages you sent weren't written in the same style as your post here. I wouldn't respond to a message that reads as though written by a 7 year old. Proper grammar and spelling is attractive. But the overall consensus on this forum seems to be that online dating is not very fruitful for men, unless they are very good looking. The reasons are many, but the main one seems to be that women are in the minority on dating sites and therefore receive a lot of messages and attention. Consequently, they are more selective than they might be in real life.
Author nate101 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 (edited) Well for starters, I hope the messages you sent weren't written in the same style as your post here. I wouldn't respond to a message that reads as though written by a 7 year old. Proper grammar and spelling is attractive. But the overall consensus on this forum seems to be that online dating is not very fruitful for men, unless they are very good looking. The reasons are many, but the main one seems to be that women are in the minority on dating sites and therefore receive a lot of messages and attention. Consequently, they are more selective than they might be in real life. well i dont think i wood not have u bother me if u was gonna make fun of the way i type. its the inside not the outside Edited February 23, 2012 by nate101
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 well i dont think i wood not have u bother me if u was gonna make fun of the way i type. so ask u any way I have no idea what you just said. its the inside not the outside I agree. Ability to communicate and express yourself via the written/spoken word is a skill...an internal trait. Meaning it is on the "inside." I wasn't trying to make fun of you, merely trying to be constructive. How old are you? Is English your primary language? If so, I honestly suggest trying to construct your messages in a more legible manner. You might notice a difference.
Author nate101 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 I have no idea what you just said. I agree. Ability to communicate and express yourself via the written/spoken word is a skill...an internal trait. Meaning it is on the "inside." I wasn't trying to make fun of you, merely trying to be constructive. How old are you? Is English your primary language? If so, I honestly suggest trying to construct your messages in a more legible manner. You might notice a difference. OK i will look into that but i think these people are gonna be the same way no replys and such. I IM these people while they are online no replys back.
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 OK i will look into that but i think these people are gonna be the same way no replys and such. I IM these people while they are online no replys back. Well, what that probably means is that you're not extremely good-looking (shocker...most of us aren't), and a mere "hey" IM message is not going to be enough to get a girl to have a conversation with you. You didn't ask either of my questions about your age or your familiarity with the English language so it's going to be difficult for me to help you. You need to have a well-constructed profile that shows that you are intelligent, educated (are you?), and capable of carrying on a conversation. Again, to be blatantly honest, if your profile is written the way you write your posts on here, that's probably a huge problem. I can't even understand half of what you've written. As an example, I'll translate your last post. OK i will look into that but i think these people are gonna be the same way no replys and such. I IM these people while they are online no replys back. Here's a revised version: OK, I will look into that, but I think these people might be the same way and still not reply. I IM these people while they are online, but none of them reply. If you'd like to PM me the text of your profile, I'd be happy to help you revise it.
USCGAviator Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 I wouldn't jump right into dating sites that cost money. I've had plenty of success on okstupid and pof. Your profile itself isn't nearly as important as your pictures. Your only as good as your worst pic so choose them wisely. I can't take good pics to save my life but good enough to get alot of dates and then them blow them away in person. It also wouldn't hurt to hide your profile and browse your competition to get an idea of how to stand out. You'll be surprised how many people have the same ol boring profiles. Good luck!!
Author nate101 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 Well, what that probably means is that you're not extremely good-looking (shocker...most of us aren't), and a mere "hey" IM message is not going to be enough to get a girl to have a conversation with you. You didn't ask either of my questions about your age or your familiarity with the English language so it's going to be difficult for me to help you. You need to have a well-constructed profile that shows that you are intelligent, educated (are you?), and capable of carrying on a conversation. Again, to be blatantly honest, if your profile is written the way you write your posts on here, that's probably a huge problem. I can't even understand half of what you've written. As an example, I'll translate your last post. Here's a revised version: If you'd like to PM me the text of your profile, I'd be happy to help you revise it. Hi, Can i get back to u later. I really like help from you but right now im busy with some other stuff. I wont be long i will contact u when im ready. I just wonna thank u for your time
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