Kage111 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 So my most recent ex just asked me if I would like her to set me up with one of her friends... She was actually very eager and thought it would be fun since she really liked me as a friend and didn't just want me to cut her out completely (which I have found the easiest thing to do...) I told her no... I don't meet a lot of women, I mean, I can count every girl I currently know on one hand (and that includes my male friends girl friends...) but my wounds from my ex are still fresh and I wouldn't want to see her more than I already do... Although I suppose that by her asking me this, I should be able to infer that there is no chance of reconciling with her... But I digress, after telling her no I said we shouldn't talk anymore and I deleted her number (which luckily I don't have memorized), so it's not like I can renege on my decision anyways... I suppose I just would like to know what anyone's thoughts on this situation were... Has anyone said yes to this kind of offer and not had it be terribly awkward or painful having to see your ex so often? i.e. Did I do the right thing?
ditzchic Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 You absolutely did the right thing. She's likely only doing this to absolve herself of some guilt she feels for dumping you. Let her deal with that guilt on her own. You told her you wanted no contact and she didn't respect that decision. She's not your friend. There's no reason to act like she is. 1
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Eddie Edirol Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Yeah Like Ditz said, shes trying to avoid guilt by seeing you get over her quick. If this is the same woman that was the boomerang to you, she feels guilty for not telling you that she used you as a filler bf between bf's. Stop talking to her. You dont need her setting you up with one of her crazy friends. They might do the boomerang thing to you as well.
Author Kage111 Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 Yeah Like Ditz said, shes trying to avoid guilt by seeing you get over her quick. If this is the same woman that was the boomerang to you, she feels guilty for not telling you that she used you as a filler bf between bf's. Stop talking to her. You dont need her setting you up with one of her crazy friends. They might do the boomerang thing to you as well. Haha, yep same girl... I thought about that too, if I don't like the way she treated me, why would I expect her friends to be different?
Eddie Edirol Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Haha, yep same girl... I thought about that too, if I don't like the way she treated me, why would I expect her friends to be different? Well not only that, but chances are she told her friends about what she didnt like about you long ago, so they could be laughing about you behind your back. BUT, on the other hand, sincfe you need a rebound, she might be setting you up with one of her friends that needs a rebound also......
gaius Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I would be insulted too if an ex tried to pass me off to one of her friends. I feel for you and agree with ditz, you did the right thing.
Ranchero44 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I suppose I just would like to know what anyone's thoughts on this situation were... i.e. Did I do the right thing? Yes, you did the right thing! If it is tremendously painful to see your ex (and it sounds like it is), then you should limit contact with her as much as possible. Seeing her over and over is going to open and re-open the wounds again. It doubly hurts, I bet, that she wanted to set you up with someone else. I'm sure she's a good person, but . . . . isn't this just a tad insensitive? What was she thinking? Major blunder on her part. Don't do it.
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