barbossa Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 (edited) Neither myself nor my ex partner had green cards, she knew this getting into a relationship with me, she said she wanted one and subsequently broke up with me after 1. 5 years. I remained in love with her and I thought she cared for me. we remained friends or so i thought? She is now with a man who is twice her age and broke ( she is 25) and He has children living with him from previous relations. he controls who she talks to and checks her phones emails etc. Which is why we stopped talking she feared him. Now she has tells me she is in love with him and wants nothing to do with me no phone calls, emails etc. She been with him half a year now. I am dumbfounded at this. Angry. hurt. I thought she loved me. I no longer want her but.. Is she attracted to the bad/controlling treatment? What should i do if i see her somewhere? Comments? Edited February 23, 2012 by barbossa
carhill Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 He has something she wants. He may seem 'broke' but things aren't always as they seem. Such is the way of things. Ignore her. Welcome to LS
jerbear Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 In addition to ignoring her, you have to move on and delete her contact information. But things that remind you of her in a box and store it somewhere. He has something she wants and is willing to deal with him. She is experiencing a different part of life right now for a lack of better words. She might also be longing for a "father" figure.
wilsonx Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 (edited) Now she has tells me she is in love with him and wants nothing to do with me no phone calls, emails etc. She been with him half a year now. I am dumbfounded at this. Angry. hurt. I thought she loved me. I no longer want her but.. Is she attracted to the bad/controlling treatment? What should i do if i see her somewhere? Comments? Right now, respect her wishes and stop contacting her. Let her deal with her guilt. If you see her somewhere, still respect her wishes for the time being, let her reach out to you. When she does, communicate with her but let her reach out first. Edited February 23, 2012 by wilsonx
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