delly del Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 (edited) Hey all, Ive been with my fiancee, for 9months total. i met her online over 2years ago. when i made the first 6hr drive to see her i felt she would be my wife. our acquaintance has always been riddled with arguments. I felt like she was immature and disrespectful to me. I dont care for cursing and i am type A ex AirForce and 34 years old. she is 22 and has never really taken responsibility seriously. Well no i gets so easily enraged I curse like a sailor and over a month ago i moved her to my city and we have had our ups and downs as anyone should. I discovered her being promiscuous twice on the internet which i forgave her for and i never rub what she did in. I dont even base my anger off of that. in addition, my sexdrive is dead, she complains i dont take her anywhere and that we dont have sex, and i complain that she is lazy and messy. I work generally 10 hours a day anywhere from 6 to 7 days a week so when i am off i just want to rest, which i feel guilty for and i resent that. she has a part time job, but i pay for most of the bills, food, and etc. i prefer it that way, so in no way am i complaining about that. my complaint is we arent getting along, i feel she is petty and messy. i dont know how to handle my aggravation without being moody and saying the wrong things. so i just shut down which makes her assume i dont care. also, my attraction to her has gone south, i think she is pretty but i dont get aroused anymore. I dont know what to do she left her engagement ring for me to find this morning. it hurts and im scared that i dont care. but i do love her and she doesnt have a place to go, her family is too far away. what should i do? Edited February 22, 2012 by delly del
marqueemoon4 Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Be glad you got your ring back and you didn't marry her. She's too young for you, and absolutely isn't ready for the responsibility of marriage. She has a lot of growing up to do first.
KathyM Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Just let her go. You are not a match, not only because of the age difference, but the level of maturity, and if you are arguing/fighting frequently at this point, your marriage would not have lasted anyway. Next time, look for women closer to your own age. They tend to be more mature and more responsible.
Philosoraptor Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Did you hear the bullet whiz by your head? Take some time alone to heal, then find someone who is at the same level of maturity as yourself. 1
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