audiojunky Posted June 5, 2004 Posted June 5, 2004 Before I post my note - these forums have been great. Thanks for people who have responded to me and given some good advice in filling me in. Everyone has an ex gf or bf. Some people keep in contact, some don't. I don't often keep in contact with my ex girlfriend from high school.. just an occasional email once in a while. I never tell my GF about it because I just don't find that it is necessary and it is harmless. (for instance, she just got married and I sent her a congratulations note, etc.) My gf doesn't keep in contact with her ex bf, which is a good thing. She does keep in contact with an ex from her early college years.. and that really doesn't bug me too much either because it is not so often. She does keep in contact with one girl she had a brief relationship with, and for some reason it does bug me. I'm not the type of person that likes to be reminded of someone else's recent past relationships, or long ago relationships. I never told her to not contact this person.. she did ask me once if it would be ok if she had lunch with her before she moved to a new city because they were really good friends before their brief relationship.. and I said that I would be uncomfortable. I did not tell her that I think she should stop contacting her or talking to her occasionally like they had been, but last night she told me that the girl she was previously with was mad at her and was not contacting her because she didn't get back to her about lunch. I told her that I was not to blame because I never told her not to contact her, and that I could care less if the girl was mad at her or not. I did also tell her that if she is going to occasionally from time to time email or maybe talk on the phone with someone that I didn't want to hear about it. She told me that she would feel bad about talking to the person behind my back.. but I know I have issues with hearing about anyone from the past regardless of a person's committment to me and that I just didn't want to hear it. How do the rest of you approach subjects like GFs or BFs keeping in contact with EXs?
UCFKevin Posted June 5, 2004 Posted June 5, 2004 Well, luckily my ex never really kept in touch with her exes, at least she didn't tell me about it. I wouldn't be too comfortable with it if she did. There's a past there, and I'm sure the ex and maybe even she would have some unfinished feelings/intentions. It's always possible. Not too likely, but still.
CurlyIam Posted June 5, 2004 Posted June 5, 2004 difficult question. I have a big exin my past. Although I am in a realtionship right now, it's been very difficult for me to accept the fact that he isn't in my life and tht I'm not in his anymore,although what we had was dead and burried! So for a while we didn't contact each other,than he contacted me. Tried to get back together. That didn't work! After a while I contacted him - was very depressed and scared - I was almost convinced I was really really sick, but wasn't so we talked and he cooled me down. Another round of messages and emails. In the end I chose not to answer his. Conclusion: bad sign, always a bad sign!
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