Arkaeology Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 First of all, I'm a newbie here. I wasn't aware of Loveshack until about 2 weeks ago. I've got my fair share of reading and I decided to sign up and "contribute." So here's the deal, I met this wonderful woman 5 weeks ago. First meet was coffee which was not really great because I stared at her a lot and there was a lot of dead silence in between the conversation. That happens to me on the first meet/date when I'm really interested in the person. She agreed to a 1st date and also a second. On these two nights, conversation went better and we were laughing and all but I wasn't able to get a "read" on her. Maybe I was getting mixed signals or maybe she wasn't giving any at all. These nights started and ended with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. I told her she was only seeing 70% of me and the other 30% is split between my passion and me being a "relationship" type of guy. Asked her for a 3rd date and I knew that if nothing happened that I was out. It was way too much effort for me. Good thing I made my move, held her hand and kissed her and hung out in the car and kissed her more and she loved it. It was smooth sailing ever since. Since that night I think she can't get enough of me and same thing with me. I'm a very affectionate guy and she loves it. I would also love to think that I'm good at communicating. Here's the kicker though, she's one of these women who waits until marriage to be intimate with someone. I'm very comfortable with my sexuality and definitely enjoy the act. I told her that I'm really pushing my boundaries by curbing my desire to be intimate because I really like her and that I wouldn't want to "mess" whatever we have. I know she want it too but she manages to catch herself. Oh and if it matters, I don't have sex/make love with someone who I don't consider a potential long term relationship. If anything, she's definitely marriage material. She likes me, I like her, she likes where things are going, told me we're still in the getting to know stage and that she'll let me know if she's ready for something more serious which I think is inevitable. So I think I have a good thing going right? Nowadays she schedules our dates and I plan what we can do since we're about 60 miles apart and that my weekends are usually filled with work outs and races. I think Saturdays will be our day since she's busy with church on Sundays. Now she's thinking about driving over to me on weekdays since I did most of the driving on the earlier weeks and my company sends me out of town throughout the work week. Everything sounds pretty good right? I should just let it run its course and see where things go? I can see a lot of positive things happening between us that's for sure. I can even see a future for us but I think I'll hold my horses for now and see how long I can hold the urge in...
veggirl Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Are you religious too, or do you guys differ on that? 5 weeks is too soon to know if someone is marriage material, IMO. Say it's 6 months in the future, will you still be okay with not having sex with her? Or are you thinking / hoping if you guys get serious / fall in love she will change her mind?
Author Arkaeology Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 I'm not religious but I'm open to it. Plus I think there's always a compromise that can be worked out between two individuals. When I say marriage material, I meant she pretty much has all the qualities that I'm looking for. I have been in enough long term relationships to know what I want. Am I gonna marry her, who knows. I was seriously thinking that 6 months is the longest I can hold it. After that, we're probably gonna have a serious talk. She acknowledges the fact that it's a "break it" type of subject from her previous relationships. I'm seriously hoping she would change her mind. Who wouldn't want to have this sexy athlete body of mine? Hahaha! Are you religious too, or do you guys differ on that? 5 weeks is too soon to know if someone is marriage material, IMO. Say it's 6 months in the future, will you still be okay with not having sex with her? Or are you thinking / hoping if you guys get serious / fall in love she will change her mind?
kwayne Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 I don't think it's fair to think that she'll be willing after 6 months. She's a commitment type of girl that's obviously held out in prior relationships and trust me, it's just as hard for girls to hold out as it is for guys. I think it's too early to concern yourself with sex tho. Does she allow oral sex? Or no sex at all? If oral sex is allowed, you're a lucky man because that should allow you to have a long relationship while also being satisfied. Don't push her into the idea of oral sex either tho because she probably doesn't allow any sex. Good Luck!
Author Arkaeology Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 No sex at all bro. Not even touching which can be frustrating (and she knows it) but we're definitely a good fit though Luck... Yes I would need that. I don't think it's fair to think that she'll be willing after 6 months. She's a commitment type of girl that's obviously held out in prior relationships and trust me, it's just as hard for girls to hold out as it is for guys. I think it's too early to concern yourself with sex tho. Does she allow oral sex? Or no sex at all? If oral sex is allowed, you're a lucky man because that should allow you to have a long relationship while also being satisfied. Don't push her into the idea of oral sex either tho because she probably doesn't allow any sex. Good Luck!
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