cdanner09 Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 My boyfriend and I live together and I am feeling a little unsteady about the relationship at this point. I have found several messages to other girls where he flirts shamelessly and continuously asks them to go out with him. When asked if he has a girlfriend, he always says negative things about me - like "we've grown apart, she's more of a roommate" or "I don't really have feelings for her anymore, but I live with her Im stuck". I've confronted him about this before but he insists that nothing has ever happened, that he just likes to flirt and it's all in fun and he's never actually gone out with any of them. Two of our mutual guy friends have also confronted him about it and he insists he's never cheated on me. I recently found some text messages from last month where he had made arrangements with callgirls for "sensual massages" and "rubdowns" and "upgrades". THese have made me wonder about whether I should continue the relationship. He treats me good, goes out of his way to make me happy. He constantly tells me how I'm the most gorgeous thing he has ever seen and we have a great sex life. We have talked about marriage and he tells me I am the love of his life, so why is he doing these things? Am I being lied to?
Philosoraptor Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Is this real? If you can allow cheating then you have no issue staying. If you respect yourself you know what you need to do.
Author cdanner09 Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 It's just so hard when I can't picture myself being with anyone else...
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Why on earth would you put up with this? You've put up with it for so long, he'll never stop now. You've taught him that he can walk all over you. Get some therapy and work on your self-esteem. Learn to respect yourself enough to not put up with crap like this. Oh, and dump this chump. Like, yesterday.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 It's just so hard when I can't picture myself being with anyone else... That's fine. You don't need to be with anyone else, until you stop seeing the "good" in a guy who talks such trash about you and your relationship. Take a few years off from relationships and concentrate on intensive therapy. Good luck.
veggirl Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Read this: he always says negative things about me she's more of a roommate" "I don't really have feelings for her anymore, but I live with her Im stuck". I recently found some text messages from last month where he had made arrangements with callgirls And then this: He treats me good, goes out of his way to make me happy. *IF* your boyfriend isn't currently cheating on you (big if IMO), then he is actively TRYING to. That's....treating you good? That makes you happy? Really? Dump this as.shole, omg! You don't need to be with someone else! You need to be in therapy to figure out why your self esteem is so ridiculously low that you make excuses for shiz like the above. Unbelievable.
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