setsenia Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 I've been with my husband since he was 22 and have really been trying to work on him getting his eating habits changed. He's 28 now. He says he "eats what's in the house" But the problem is he opts for the junk food all the time whereas I consciously moderate what I am eating. We have some sweets in the fridge and whereas I only opt for one sweet treat a day, he goes for several. He is still slender. He's gained about 30 pounds since we met. Went from really slender of 130 to 160. He's still really slim, but it seems most to the weight went to the waistline. He doesn't have a huge gut or anything, but he's gotten a bit of a belly and I told him it's not healthy just to gain weight in one area and live a sedentary lifestyle. He only has a soda once every few days, but he opts for the sweet treats a few times a day and is horrendously picky when it comes to eating. I've been really frustrated about this, but I don't want to be the over-nagging wife. Does anyone else have a similar issue and have advice?
denise_xo Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 You can't really change people. They have to want to change themselves. Have you suggested that you cook something nice together a couple of times a week, or do some physical exercises together (maybe a nice long walk in nature)?
JazzyFox Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 If he doesn't want to change, there is nothing you can do. That said, you can make healthier options easier for him. Stock the fridge with good stuff. Buy (or make) smaller batches of the sweet stuff, and only buy them once every two weeks (or month). If he really wants it, he can go get it himself. You can also be a good role model, always making healthy meals and getting plenty of exercise. You can organize your weekends and time together doing outdoor activities that he enjoys doing. But until he gets a health scare, or wake-up call, there really isnt anything you can do. I would just focus on yourself and your eating habits. The only exception I would make, is if his bad eating habits are a bad influence on you, and if you need to make important changes to your habits for your health. In that case, you need to ask for his support and help.
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 I've been with my husband since he was 22 and have really been trying to work on him getting his eating habits changed. He's 28 now. He says he "eats what's in the house" But the problem is he opts for the junk food all the time whereas I consciously moderate what I am eating. We have some sweets in the fridge and whereas I only opt for one sweet treat a day, he goes for several. He is still slender. He's gained about 30 pounds since we met. Went from really slender of 130 to 160. He's still really slim, but it seems most to the weight went to the waistline. He doesn't have a huge gut or anything, but he's gotten a bit of a belly and I told him it's not healthy just to gain weight in one area and live a sedentary lifestyle. He only has a soda once every few days, but he opts for the sweet treats a few times a day and is horrendously picky when it comes to eating. I've been really frustrated about this, but I don't want to be the over-nagging wife. Does anyone else have a similar issue and have advice? Who does the shopping? If it's you most of the time, just start buying healthier food and better snacks. Cook meals that are healthy and full of flavour and variety..
JazzyFox Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Here's a trick. Next time you want to buy a sweet treat ... buy chocolate tofu pudding made with stevia.
JazzyFox Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 "You are becoming fat & lazy and this is sexually unattractive to me. I am starting to look at other men who are in great shape and I wonder what it would be like to have hot sex with a muscular, fit man like you used to be. These feelings are getting stronger and stronger as I become more and more disgusted with your sloth and laziness. What do you think we should do about this?" Ouch ... where is the love and affection in that statement?
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