Magda70 Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Has anyone ever compared the syntoms of the so called (I guess coined by user homebrew over here) GIGs with the so called - again - midlife-crisis? Midlife crisis - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Because they seem pretty similar to me...maybe they just happen - by given definition - at different ages... Cheers, Magda
Philosoraptor Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 People mature at different rates. Some do it younger and never have the mid life crisis and others delay it until later. There are also many who do neither as they have chosen a more positive path to emotional maturity and are able to accurately gauge and react to their feelings. It is true that it is rare to be able to have full control over your emotions, but you always have full control over your actions. The issue I have with both terms is that it allows a scapegoat rather than taking responsibility for your actions. People blame both for cheating and ending relationships, but those were choices that were picked by the person. 2
Author Magda70 Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 It is true that it is rare to be able to have full control over your emotions, but you always have full control over your actions. The issue I have with both terms is that it allows a scapegoat rather than taking responsibility for your actions. People blame both for cheating and ending relationships, but those were choices that were picked by the person. I fully agree with all what you said but my point is: at the very end of the story, gigs and midlife crisis are very same thing! Just the latter is a bit of a more official term than not gigs which was coined on LS and thought for younger individuals. Magda
wilsonx Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 I fully agree with all what you said but my point is: at the very end of the story, gigs and midlife crisis are very same thing! Just the latter is a bit of a more official term than not gigs which was coined on LS and thought for younger individuals. Magda A midlife crisis is the same thing as GIGS. I like the term Burnout. Its a life/emotional burnout.
smokey bear Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 I agree its the same, just different ages and as philosorapter says, everyone matures at different ages.
Cmac Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 (edited) I'd say they share similarities but I wouldn;t go as far as saying they are both the same thing Edited February 22, 2012 by Cmac
Philosoraptor Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 I'd say they share similarities but I wouldn;t go as far as saying they are both the same thing What differences do you see? I'm curious myself as when looking at both I see a person who did not take the time to foster their own growth and therefore is unable to handle themselves in a mature manner.
Author Magda70 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 @wilsox interesting: burnout as synonyms as midlife-crisis and gigs. Afterall, I read than even midlife crisis is not a term which is medically accurate; burnout is instead. What differences do you see? I try it myself even if differences are funny when the definition of gigs was born here on LS...but please don't shoot me if you disagree...:-) 1)gigs 2) midlifecrisis Gender: 1) mostly women 2) mostly men Average Age: 1) mid-20.ies 2) mid-40.ies Main symptoms: 1) eager to experiences 2) identity loss Others?
Philosoraptor Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I believe all of the differences listed can be explained by normal human psychology. I think we can all agree that science has shown that men and women are wired differently. Due to this women are said to mature faster in an emotional way. This can explain the number of women going through their "growing up" period earlier than males. Males on the other hand go through this "growing up" period later in life which normally happens after they are on a career path. Ever notice that it is the well off career minded man who hits this wall at some point. Because they did not go through it during their college years when they would have had spare time to go through the motions and figure out who they are and what they wanted out of life. It normally takes an important event (turning 40, a family member dies, a stroke, etc.) to trigger this as personal growth generally takes the back of the line compared to responsibilities once you've reached this age. The thing I would disagree with are the symptoms. Both are a lack of personal identity and emotional growth. For those who have not made the choice to work on themselves emotionally, it's quite a wakeup call. It's like hitting a wall and realizing you haven't a clue who you are or what you want out of this world. Females are lucky to go through it earlier as the odds are they have less on their plate and less that can go wrong by going off the wall. The issue comes from not knowing what will come out of the other side. Families get destroyed because mommy or daddy never grew up and finally took the time to see that he or she wasn't happy with their life. It's heartbreaking to watch and to see the family and ex partner wait for months or years only to never get their life back. It wasn't their fault that their partner never took the time to grow emotionally. I count my blessings for having a mother who fostered emotional growth and intelligence. She planted the seed and let me run with it and with that seed I was able to become well rooted.
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