Love triangle?

[astronetster]

I gotta make this story short. Me, my friend and his girlfriend used to hang out alot. I started to know this girl via my friend. After they dated for like 10 months, she broke up with him. Probably, when she broke up, she might have already falling for me then. She was emotional and upset about breakup even though she was the one to dump him. So almost everyday, I had to console her while my friend was being supported by other friends.

 

This is where we fell in love with each other. After about 2 and a half month, I proposed her and we became a couple. (You see, I broke the social rule, I betrayed my friend unknowingly. We became enemies and I had lost all my friends. It doesn't matter while I was happy with her). So at first, everything was fine. We had a lo of fun together. But lately, due to my own personal problems and unable to get a proper job, I was in deep depression. So I put all my worries on her (probably, I took her for granted). We had lots of arguments. Finally, she said she couldn't go on any longer and so we broke off. We dated for like 6 mths or so.

 

After we broke off, she told me that she had been missing her ex whenever we had arguments or she was in depression. After that, she felt pity for him and she was starting to have feeling for him again. Until now, she had been honest with me and our arguments and fights are now no more.

 

I am trying to go No Contact with her. All my remaining friends told me to stop the losses and move on. But deep inside me, I still know that I love her a lot. So here are the fact:

 

1) Recent arguments and time conflicts had made us further away from each other unlike the previous times.

2) She said she still loves me but she also misses him.

3) She texted her ex after we broke up and he told her not to come back to him and to stick with me (that might probably stop her from coming to me altogether)

4) She doesnt want to go back to him neither (Avoid the same mistake from happening again)

5) She said she won't choose both of us right now.

6) She wishes me to be back to normal guy when we started dated (Yeah, I changed due to a lot of personal problems and being jobless)

7) I am not initiating contact with her but sometimes she texted me and called me. Then her emotions break down and cry again. (Then she said she loves me again)

8) We broke up for a little bit over a week (Oh yeah, its on valentines day!!!)

9) All my friends say that this relationship can't be rebuilt and put all the blame on her for being playful minded and childish

 

So, here are the questions;

1) Am I in a rebound relationship with her?

2) Why did she feel for her ex again?

3) Going NC is a good meaning for me?

4) Will she come back to me?

5) Should I dump her and move on? While I still love her :'(

[wilsonx]

(You see, I broke the social rule, I betrayed my friend unknowingly. We became enemies and I had lost all my friends.

 

So, here are the questions;

1) Am I in a rebound relationship with her?

2) Why did she feel for her ex again?

3) Going NC is a good meaning for me?

4) Will she come back to me?

5) Should I dump her and move on? While I still love her :'(

 

See what I bolded and underlined? Now that you dont have her, what do you have? Bros before Hoes

 

1) yes

2) because thats what happens in rebounds

3) yes

4) nope, you have no trust issues with yourself or your own friends

5) shes going to dump you before you dump her

[astronetster]

So what is the best options do I have?

[wilsonx]

you tell me?

 

what are your options?

 

what are you willing to do?

[astronetster]

4) nope, you have no trust issues with yourself or your own friends

 

Could you please advice me upon this??

[astronetster]

you tell me?

 

what are your options?

 

what are you willing to do?

 

Well, I don't have much options rather than to leave her alone for now. If she says she love me then she would come back to me in future I hope. But I am not sure for how long.

[wilsonx]

Could you please advice me upon this??

 

I misstyped this

 

4) nope, you have trust issues with yourself and your own friends

 

How can a girl much less your friends trust you if you dont trust yourself enough not to steal their girlfriend.

 

That girl will never trust you in a long term relationship. She will always wonder, will he do this to someone else in the future and screw me like he screwed his own friends.

 

You need to learn to not screw your friends over. Only you can figure out how to do this

[astronetster]

I misstyped this

 

That girl will never trust you in a long term relationship. She will always wonder, will he do this to someone else in the future and screw me like he screwed his own friends.

 

You need to learn to not screw your friends over. Only you can figure out how to do this

 

In this case, I have apologized to all the people involved in the first place. Perhaps, now is the time for me to take responsibility and move on. One of my friends told me is that in the beginning all the blames were upon me.

 

But right now, since she had changed her mind, he said it was all her fault to be so playful since she was the one who loved me in the first place over him.

[wilsonx]

In this case, I have apologized to all the people involved in the first place. Perhaps, now is the time for me to take responsibility and move on.

 

For you! This is a good start and all that matters. Now figure out what next to do and do it!

[astronetster]

For you! This is a good start and all that matters. Now figure out what next to do and do it!

 

i should leave her alone for now. Even if she chooses to go back (probably wont), i will stay by myself.

she told me that she liked me for being me. Anf unknowingly, i had chaneged just like her ex whilr her ex became himself again. And this is where everything went wrong.

if she could settle her mind, then i would approach her again in the future when the situation favors me. She would reconsider me i hope.

[astronetster]

Trying to move on right now is my best option :'(

[Thatguyintx]

Trying to move on right now is my best option :'(

 

YES! Now start living your life!