notebookgirl Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 i have a good friend that i have had feelings for about three years now. we met at the beginning of college and now its almost time for graduation. i had a boyfriend at the time, so i didn't say anything. i ended up transferring schools about a year ago and before i left we had dinner together as friends but i didn't want to say anything for fear of ruining our friendship. since then, i have not been able to get him out of my head and was planning to tell him some time during our senior year but now he has a girlfriend who came into the picture about 5 months ago. i want to tell him how i feel but i don't know how to do that without being disrespectful of their relationship. i don't expect him to leave her for me, its more to just get these emotions off of my chest so that i can move on and let him know that i cared for him deeply at one point in my life. at the same time, i don't want to be a horrible person. it has already been so long since these emotions started and we're not even near each other physically anymore, i'm afraid if i wait any longer it won't make sense to say anything ever. what should i do?
Philosoraptor Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 If you respect him as a person you will just let it fade away. You're not near one another so a relationship would be very tough. But don't lie to yourself, it's not to just let these emotions off your chest. You can let them go without saying a word to him. You want to plant a seed in his head and give him something to think about. Just wish him the best and move on in your life.
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Say nothing. He is in a relationship and it's unfair and selfish of you to put this on him. It will ruin how things are now and change the dynamic completely. If he and his gf break up in the future, then talk to him about how you feel, don't tell him while he's already with someone.
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 its more to just get these emotions off of my chest so that i can move on and let him know that i cared for him deeply at one point in my life. You make yourself get over him by thinking of him less, you don't let yourself fantasize about him.. You need to detach and focus on other things in your life. You can move on without pouring your heart out to him.
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