Did I make the correct choice breaking up with my 2.5 yr?

[proteinshake25]

This relationship wasnt the last one to cause me grief. But it's the one I miss the most. As the others were shorter. Anyways. There were many times when I was with my ex, very early on in the relationship. That I knew I had to breakup with her. There were times where I'd see another girl at a restaurant with her family and just want to be with a girl like that and a jovial family like she was with. I would tell my best friend that me and my ex would eventually get married. However, I knew. That at some point I had to breakup with her. I eventually re kindled with an old flame and went with her over my ex. After the breakup it felt like such a relief. As it had been 2.5 yrs that part of me was wanting to execute. I believe I had gigs. But I sometimes think, what if I was to just stick with the relationship and eventually mature and get over my problems.

 

As I've never been married. My question is, did I make the right choice? Was it fair for her to be in love with me when I had doubts? And has anyone ever had the same feelings and been able to work throught it?

[rach24680]

You did the right thing, its never fair to string someone along for the sake of it if you know deep down that you dont want to be with them, even having doubts, because doubts lead to cheating and being untrustworthy. Sometimes you only miss what youve got when you no linger gave it, maybe this us why you miss her? Or is it when you feel lonely and havent got another girl that you miss her? Do you actually want her back? or are you just longing for a family?

[proteinshake25]

I actually want her back. I had my doubts during. But I've changed drastically. Re-establishing my relationship with God and becoming.more righteous Has opened my eyes as to what really love is and what is important in a relationship. I have a great family, but she does not. Thats why I made that reference. I can think of many times where she'd just love to argue with me, or almost get upset when I was having too much fun doing something. Thoose are things I could not.live with. But at the same time I think to myself no relationship is perfect. So maybe I just needdd to work on thoose things with her. Either way...she's been with another guy now for about a year. I know she's way past moved on from me. But I told her many times during the breakup that I'd always love her, and I still do.

 

To answer your question. When I'm with other girls,some but not all, I'm able to not miss my ex, and even then it's still very difficult. I guess my main question here is that were my feelings normal, but I just gave up on the relationship? Or were my feelings a red flag as that things had to end.