setsenia Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 (edited) I have had this friend for close to 2 years. We started off as coworkers before becoming good friends. We have a lot in common and have always had a lot of fun together. She's very trustworthy and we like each other a lot. I got her a job at my new job (before my boss showed his true colors) and she knows that's not my fault, but I think she regrets taking the job, even though it's better pay. I know she was hesitant, but at the time I thought it was a good job and it is for the most part. Lately, she's been acting strange. She doesn't talk to me as much at work and sometimes seems more agitated than others. I've noticed that she goes through a lot of mood swings. One time I asked her if I did anything to upset her and she just said she wasn't feeling good. Sometimes I never know what to expect or when she'll be "in a mood". When she's unhappy or not feeling spiffy, she acts very different than the person I know and this has been off and on lately. Sometimes I feel like I did something wrong to offend her, but I'm not really sure what to think. Usually we chat on our lunch hour unless she says she's going to leave work for lunch. I know she's not obligated to tell me her agenda, but today when I was waiting for her at lunch, she just left. It was really weird since she usually tells me that she'll be leaving for lunch, otherwise we hang out and chat. I don't know, I'm feeling a little shined and don't know what to think. Last week she was accusing me of staring at her computer screen and that's why she was hiding it from me. I did my best to assure her that was not the case and that I wasn't intentionally spying on her. When I walk to my desk, her computer is within sight and my gaze might briefly turn in that direction, but she acts as if she doesn't trust me. I really think that's how she is though, sometimes she gets annoyed or offended over the slightest things. I felt really offended, because she acted as if I wasn't trustworthy and I thought we were good friends. Edited February 21, 2012 by setsenia
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 It is possible that your friend is bi polar, or has some other mental illness? You haven't done anything wrong, this is her issue not yours.. She is moody so just back off abit when you feel her mood change or she doesn't seem like herself, give her space and allow her to come to you. I worked with a guy who was extremely moody, infact he'd give us all a heads up when he was in one of his moods to just stay away and not talk to him unless it was related to work related things.
Author setsenia Posted February 21, 2012 Author Posted February 21, 2012 Thanks for the advice. Sometimes I might take it personally, because she seems fine with my boss, but than again, she can't get moody with the boss. LOL. Another thing that concerns me is that she gossips to me about some of her other friends and the things they do to annoy/upset her. I would hate to be one of those friends she does that to someday. It's really a shame, because we really get along on many other levels, but I have noticed her moods. She gets upset really easily if she gets a customer who is upset and yelling. One time she actually cried in the office. But that's a good suggestion to give her space. I don't want to be the overbearing friend who never leaves her alone! LOL
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