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Finally moved on from one guy, chose between A and B and now A who I chose is being cold. Or at least I think he is...Can someone tell me if I am just being insecure or if these recent vibes are legit.

 

Went out with new guy over the weekend with a bunch of friends. Kind of caught a friend of mine having a little one on one convo...the "don't hurt my friend" kind of convo. I'm not a fan but blew it off. Now for the last three days he's been less communicative and when he does write or respond they are very brief. Last night was my tipping point...I asked him if he wanted to hang out since we were both off from work early (rare for me) and he asks me..."what would we do if we hung out?" ...REALLY! We are both pretty low key, but I didn't think dinner was a horrible option so I suggested a few nice low key things and said since I work late so often it's nice to take advantage when I'm off early. His response "Yeah I can imagine".

 

Maybe I'm sensitive, but this coming from a guy that was telling me he wanted to see me when he could and we've hung out during the week before.

 

So I haven't responded because honestly I'm not sure what to say! It's like he was all into it and now he's not.

 

To respond or not respond. I'm so hypersensitive to rejection and am afraid that i'm just over reacting, but maybe i'm not....maybe he's just not interested.

 

Thanks for listening and any advice would be awesome. Feeling a bit like damaged goods at the moment.

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I'm confused. I recall you posting about Guy A and B over the summer. And was the guy you moved on from the special ops guy, or is that Guy A?

 

Guys sometimes do pull away after we won you to an extent. Before we were wondering how we could get you, now we are wondering if we really want this.

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Haha... special ops is gone for now. Too much going on and it was not working after a year. More recenlty I had Guy A and B.

 

Went with Guy A and he's great but like I said all the sudden it's like...."eh, I could see you or not" or that's how I feel... and I haven't even slept with him so he hasn't "gotten me". It's only been a month. What is with men not courting women? a date wouldn't kill the guy.

 

So do I respond to his "yeah I can imagine" or at all? I thinking if he's interested he'll call or text me today.

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Haha... special ops is gone for now. Too much going on and it was not working after a year. More recenlty I had Guy A and B.

 

Went with Guy A and he's great but like I said all the sudden it's like...."eh, I could see you or not" or that's how I feel... and I haven't even slept with him so he hasn't "gotten me". It's only been a month. What is with men not courting women? a date wouldn't kill the guy.

 

So do I respond to his "yeah I can imagine" or at all? I thinking if he's interested he'll call or text me today.

 

Well, put it in reverse: Why not hold out for a guy who will take you on a date?

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True...just not sure they exist anymore. I see your point though.

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True...just not sure they exist anymore. I see your point though.

 

I mean, from your picture you're obviously cute, you did online dating... Surely there are some nice guys out there no?

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Thanks....yeah I have done it all. Online, through friends, bars etc. I'm active in my community, I volunteer, own a business, college educated etc. with a lot of love to give someone.

 

We shall see.

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So how did you meet Guy A, if I may ask...

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Thanks....yeah I have done it all. Online, through friends, bars etc. I'm active in my community, I volunteer, own a business, college educated etc. with a lot of love to give someone.

 

We shall see.

 

Pretty sure your picture is of a famous actress.

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Actually met him at a Bar...we were both DD's :)

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Pretty sure your picture is of a famous actress.

 

It is (Amy Adams) but I use it because it's who people tell me i look like.

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