june123 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 (edited) My husband of 21 years just packed up one day and left while I was working. In the past 4 months he has said hurtful things to our 12 year daughter & myself. He is very jealous of our daughter. He tells me I don't want to be with you but then also tells me I don't love him. WTF!!! But when it's time to do serious stuff like child support, or a quit claim deed on the house. His reply is. WE'LL SEE. What does that mean??? (he is 38) Edited February 21, 2012 by june123 spelling
rach24680 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Why is he jealous of ur daughter? Is it his daughter too? Does that have anythibg to do with him leaving? Do you know why he left? do you want to get back together? Sounds like ur sending mixed signals - or recieving them - when you say he tells you you didnt love him?? as for the legal things, go above his head to get what your entitled to if hes being awkward!! 1
Author june123 Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 I think the jealousy come from him being abandon as a child by his mother. I gave him all the attention for the first 9 years of our marriage. Then the baby came so I had to focus on raising her and she is in 4h which takes up alot of time. Instead of him going and being a supportive father he goes to his friends house every weekend to get drunk.
madball2289 Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 (edited) I think he obviously doesn't give a damn about you or your daughter. I would remove him from your life for good. Edited February 22, 2012 by madball2289
Author june123 Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 He did show up this weekend for her state fair event. late & hung over. I was so mad. I think he trying to balance being there for her & getting wasted. Why bother??
wilsonx Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 (edited) Your husband is going through what we refer to on this forum as GIGS. I like to call it a Burnout. Its the same thing. A couple things, it has nothing to do with YOU, your daughter, its his demons, his emotional past catching up with him. You are going to get people in here that say divorce him, hes a loser, an pos, etc. Whether or not you divorce him and kick him completely out of your life is up to you. At the same time I understand your hurt from this and how you feel. Trust me, I do. I ve been on both sides of this and both sides hurt just as equally. His pain and suffering will come in a psychological form now and physically later when he completely burns out. He will burn out though, they always do He doesnt care about anything right now but himself and thats what happens in this whole process, its about him. What you choose to do based on the information you are given is up to you Edited February 22, 2012 by wilsonx
Philosoraptor Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 But when it's time to do serious stuff like child support, or a quit claim deed on the house. His reply is. WE'LL SEE. What does that mean??? (he is 38) Get a lawyer if you do not have one already. Have your lawyer contact him and get a court date. It's the only way you can take control of this situation and make progress. It's not cheap but it will smack some sense into him and allow the next chapter of this process to begin.
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