musicSaves12 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Well it has been awhile since I posted something. Things have been good and I have been working on making myself a better person. However, I have been hanging out with my ex from time to time. Things have been good but we did have a talk and she is still telling me she doesn't want anything from anyone (relationship). Even though I have been doing my own thing we still are talking and hanging out. Last night we hung out went around town (we did not get drunk) and had a lot of fun. After coming back to my place we began to make out and things got a little heavy. She stoped anything from going further and I didn't say anything and didn't act like I was upset because we didn't have sex. Didn't make the last hour she was there unconfortable. She left and we actually kissed goodbye. Now that could have been the last kiss we have I'm not sure. Trying to play my cards right, hopefully I didn't use them all up. She always hints that she is interested in me but it also can just be the "love you but not in love you with you" deal. I don't want to have the "we are dating or we are nothing" talk a day after but I know I need to have that conversation soon. Thanks everyone, have a great day!
BewitchedandBothered Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 An ex is an ex for a reason. You are only hurting yourself by 'hanging out' with this person and getting mixed messages, false hopes and probably a bad case of blue balls. How can you heal if she is hanging around? No more contact until she gets her head together--either she wants to be with you or she doesn't. The more you hang with her, the more difficult it will be; you heart will get in deeper and she will keep pulling away. Sounds like head games to me. Get away from this person and get to healing. You owe that to yourself. You are probably a nice catch and can meet someone new, more compatible for you. Your heart and head is in a lot of turmoil, meanwhile she gets to do whatever/feel whatever.
Author musicSaves12 Posted February 21, 2012 Author Posted February 21, 2012 Not the best thing but we didn't defriend eachother on facebook, (she says she's always looking at my page) anyway noticed her status went from single to no status at all. Probably means the same thing and I just need to get her out of my life. Thanks bewitched.
M2155 Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 You're a comfy friend she gets to kick it with till she gets bored or something better comes along. Even if she wanted the all or nothing, she doesn't have to give it to you since you are showing each other you are cool with what you have right now. I've been there, it's not good and is communicating mixed messages (instead of communicating). If you have a good relationship I would just say stop being so available to her. Hang out with other people and just catch up I passing. Let her see that you are moving on with your life and not waiting to see what she does next. Women notice when a man is slipping away, and you're sure to see if she comes around or not.
Author musicSaves12 Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 Thanks! Yeah I really do just need to stop talking to her, again, the first time I did NC she came back after about 2 months with no real change in her attitude and still showing mixed messages.
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