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GorillaTheater Established Member

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Do you have kids because thats pretty much all it takes to be alpha in nature. If you don't have kids you're not alpha.

 

This is true. And the more kids you have, the more Alpha you are. Punk.

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dreamingoftigers Established Member

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This is true. And the more kids you have, the more Alpha you are. Punk.

 

Who would've thought that myself as a chubby housewife would be "Alpha" as well. :laugh:

 

Awesome. I better start reading the PUA stuff, at least I know that I am not falling behind all of the PUA boys on my quest to be a hardcore Alpha.

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This is true. And the more kids you have, the more Alpha you are. Punk.

 

Hey, since you are going to be a Grandfather, does that mean you get some kind of Super-charged Alpha status?

GorillaTheater Established Member

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Hey, since you are going to be a Grandfather, does that mean you get some kind of Super-charged Alpha status?

 

"My dick is so big, it has it's own dick. And my dick's dick is bigger than your dick."

 

Tony's not around much anymore, right?

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danny in van Established Member

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This is true. And the more kids you have, the more Alpha you are. Punk.

 

right- so the poor white trailer trash dad that has more kids than he can support (lesser educated have more kids than yuppies 2.4 kids) and takes social handouts is actually the 'leader of the pack' alpha? I didn't know that's where you find the alpha!

Right- and I guess he also has his pick of the litter amongst the beautiful sought after downtown women, and is likely running a company and is affluent- which are also some of the other traits of alphas I read over and over.

I guess you failed to wrap it up (thought the stork brought the baby?) so you wanna believe you're alpha. R U reading this in the food stamp line?

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right- so the poor white trailer trash dad that has more kids than he can support (lesser educated have more kids than yuppies 2.4 kids) and takes social handouts is actually the 'leader of the pack' alpha? I didn't know that's where you find the alpha!

Right- and I guess he also has his pick of the litter amongst the beautiful sought after downtown women, and is likely running a company and is affluent- which are also some of the other traits of alphas I read over and over.

I guess you failed to wrap it up (thought the stork brought the baby?) so you wanna believe you're alpha. R U reading this in the food stamp line?

 

Alphas like me don't need to work when we have wage slaves toiling to provide for us via government assistance. Now get back to work.

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danny in van Established Member

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Alphas like me don't need to work when we have wage slaves toiling to provide for us via government assistance. Now get back to work.

 

you didn't comprehend my words...Alphas are supposed to be intelligent is my understanding.

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you didn't comprehend my words...Alphas are supposed to be intelligent is my understanding.

 

Alphas also know how to communicate effectively, so that others understand what we're talking about.

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InJest Established Member

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Let it go, Danny. Your dream girl doesn't see you as her dream guy.

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danny in van Established Member

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Let it go, Danny. Your dream girl doesn't see you as her dream guy.

 

after hundreds of contributions to this topic, this is what you have to say?? haha how the hell would you know what she's thinking? You don't have a clue-that's the only thing I get from this.

dreamingoftigers Established Member

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"My dick is so big, it has it's own dick. And my dick's dick is bigger than your dick."

 

Tony's not around much anymore, right?

 

Lol. I won't tell.... :laugh:

 

If Tony had to moderate stupid, half the forum would be shut down in less then 24 hours. :laugh:

 

Maybe we can combine our Alpha Powers like Captain Planet and his Rings to bring Social Assistance to groups of like-minded Alphas Worldwide.

 

To The Trailer Park!

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you wrote "There, how's that for intelligent debate?" did you not...?

Yes.... But did you miss how it came immediately after I used some form of "douche" or "douchey" 4 times in a row? Did you miss the obvious self-mocking sarcasm there?

 

And 95% of people assume gf means monogamy? - gee I wonder if you could cite a source for that stat? You'd make a faulty lawyer- and I mention lawyers because they must be very accurate with words (the only thing we can judge on LS) or lose. Pulling stats out of thin air works in jr high maybe...

Yes, that was a "stat" that I quoted, intending it to be numerically accurate and traceable, just like evidence in a legal case. (Now that is mocking sarcasm, but not directed at myself this time...) But in dancing around it, you don't address the actual point that I believe that MOST (do I need to define "most" for you?) people who say or hear "girlfriend" assume that it is being used to describe a mutually agreed, exclusive relationship.

 

If you're calling someone your "girlfriend" and she doesn't know about it, (i.e. not mutually agreed) that's just creepy. If you agree together that she's your girlfriend, and you are out chasing other tail (not exclusive) then unless you've discussed that as not being a boundary in your relationship, its douchey. I believe (stating my opinion here, let's leave statistics out so as not to confuse the point) that MOST people have this impression of the words girlfriend and boyfriend. If your opinion about MOST peoples interpretation is different, then state it. (I understand that your opinion is different - I'm just wondering how you perceive that most people interpret those terms...)

 

Regardless, people can be in exclusive LTR and get out. And they often get out because they see someone 'better' for them. Is that news to you? Do you think that's rare?

Not news, not particularly rare, not overwhelmingly common. It happens.

 

But your dream-girl only said she's got a "boyfriend." Why are you assuming that it's a LTR? By your definition, it seems, girlfriend and boyfriend mean almost nothing, unless one specifically states that you are monogamous.

 

And yes she did say 'I have a bf' but it was said with a regretful 'why didn't you step up and maker a move when I didn't have a bf?' (you'll have to take my word on that)...My original question (lost on you) was 'should I disappear with or w/out an explanation?' and you write nothing about that. Lose the plot much?

 

Oh, you wound me with your razor-sharp sarcasm... I did address your original question - miss the point much? I'll reiterate: you are looking to walk away from something that, by your definition of "boyfriend/girlfriend" isn't exclusive. You've convinced me! So, Alpha, why are you wimping out and looking for a way to walk away? Go for it. You're not exclusive with anyone - your girlfriend is "just" a girlfriend - and your dream girl only has a "boyfriend" so by your definition, she's not assumed to be exclusive either; why aren't you going for it? Why are you looking for an excuse to run away and hide?

 

you didn't comprehend my words...

That seems to happen to you a lot. It must be everybody else's fault.

 

And yes it took me to a certain age to recognize and see many couples I know get together, go thru child rearing, hit patches of complacency and contempt for each other - and 'stick it out' even though they seem to loathe their partner. Only by my later 30s had I watched these full life cycles take place with my peers. It's like fashion and music too- after you've been around long enough you know the latest craze is not new - cuz you lived through its predecessor. Maybe you know that now.

I'm nearly 50, divorced, with 2 kids, so yeah.

 

"I've seen things you people wouldn't believe..." (<= in case it needs a sign post, that is self-mocking again. Extra points for naming the source, but using Google gets you a zero on the extra credit...)

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That seems to happen to you a lot. It must be everybody else's fault.

 

I think it's clear that this is because he is intellectually superior to everyone else on LoveShack. You can tell by his unique use of the English language and logic.

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Yes.... But did you miss how it came immediately after I used some form of "douche" or "douchey" 4 times in a row? Did you miss the obvious self-mocking sarcasm there?

 

 

Yes, that was a "stat" that I quoted, intending it to be numerically accurate and traceable, just like evidence in a legal case. (Now that is mocking sarcasm, but not directed at myself this time...) But in dancing around it, you don't address the actual point that I believe that MOST (do I need to define "most" for you?) people who say or hear "girlfriend" assume that it is being used to describe a mutually agreed, exclusive relationship.

 

If you're calling someone your "girlfriend" and she doesn't know about it, (i.e. not mutually agreed) that's just creepy. If you agree together that she's your girlfriend, and you are out chasing other tail (not exclusive) then unless you've discussed that as not being a boundary in your relationship, its douchey. I believe (stating my opinion here, let's leave statistics out so as not to confuse the point) that MOST people have this impression of the words girlfriend and boyfriend. If your opinion about MOST peoples interpretation is different, then state it. (I understand that your opinion is different - I'm just wondering how you perceive that most people interpret those terms...)

 

 

Not news, not particularly rare, not overwhelmingly common. It happens.

 

But your dream-girl only said she's got a "boyfriend." Why are you assuming that it's a LTR? By your definition, it seems, girlfriend and boyfriend mean almost nothing, unless one specifically states that you are monogamous.

 

 

 

Oh, you wound me with your razor-sharp sarcasm... I did address your original question - miss the point much? I'll reiterate: you are looking to walk away from something that, by your definition of "boyfriend/girlfriend" isn't exclusive. You've convinced me! So, Alpha, why are you wimping out and looking for a way to walk away? Go for it. You're not exclusive with anyone - your girlfriend is "just" a girlfriend - and your dream girl only has a "boyfriend" so by your definition, she's not assumed to be exclusive either; why aren't you going for it? Why are you looking for an excuse to run away and hide?

 

 

That seems to happen to you a lot. It must be everybody else's fault.

 

 

I'm nearly 50, divorced, with 2 kids, so yeah.

 

"I've seen things you people wouldn't believe..." (<= in case it needs a sign post, that is self-mocking again. Extra points for naming the source, but using Google gets you a zero on the extra credit...)

 

50 and using the overused teen 'douche' over and over ...sigh. That term has been battered around the malls of America for too long...Anyway your anger at life is so evident- and being divorced at 50 might explain some of that...I'm outta this strange bitter LS forum where it took me a while to see that people jump into discussions just to fight. Again- exclus or not- I have the right to keep my eyes open for someone more appropriate. I don't suffer from the same 'moral' (yes sarcastic) code you try to righteously claim. Since u seem to have missed my original question it was : should I disappear w an explanation or not - you fcking weirdo!! Ciao. And sorry - yeah I am the guy gobbling up the dates and girls leaving you little. I know why you're pissed!

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.I'm outta this strange bitter LS forum where it took me a while to see that people jump into discussions just to fight. Since u seem to have missed my original question it was : should I disappear w an explanation or not - you fcking weirdo!! Ciao. And sorry - yeah I am the guy gobbling up the dates and girls leaving you little. I know why you're pissed!

 

Now there was the groundbreaking part.

 

Did you happen to notice the only one pissed or indignant or this board has been you? Over and over?

 

And as for that presexual history: overbearing mother, shed be on your ass about nearly every choice you made and made you feel wrong for it. Makes it hard to attach to other women because you feel like they are judging you. The auto-response is to shut down and act like "who gives a fck?"

 

In some cases it may actually be caused by being raised by one's grandparents instead of one's original parents.

 

Either way, I don't see a strong make role-model in your youth. Pre-adolescent youth anyways (when most of those patterns get set). Maybe a father who was largely absentee emotionally or in any way by financially or a series of stepfathers.

 

Could be wrong but that's my guess.

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after hundreds of contributions to this topic, this is what you have to say?? haha how the hell would you know what she's thinking? You don't have a clue-that's the only thing I get from this.

 

You're a moron. I don't have to know what she's thinking. I know what she is not thinking. If she thought she really wanted to be with you, she would be. That's the end of it, as far as what is. The rest is all, what could be, in your head. Let go. Stop talking to her, and if she asks you why, then tell her that you'll only talk to her if she wants to date you. It's simple. Stop stressing about a girl that you only kissed a year ago, and has a boyfriend now. Find another girl, there's plenty of them, Alphadog. Go get some.

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You're a moron. I don't have to know what she's thinking. I know what she is not thinking. If she thought she really wanted to be with you, she would be. That's the end of it, as far as what is. The rest is all, what could be, in your head. Let go. Stop talking to her, and if she asks you why, then tell her that you'll only talk to her if she wants to date you. It's simple. Stop stressing about a girl that you only kissed a year ago, and has a boyfriend now. Find another girl, there's plenty of them, Alphadog. Go get some.

 

well I am getting more than some...but wow- here's someone who answered my original question.!! Stop talking to her you said...Might do that- but it involves stopping the work we do that brings us together. Still I may hafta for the greater good.

 

And no you don't know what she is or isn't thinking btw. And you think it's impossible that she's waiting/hoping for me to make a move on her? Impossible that she's with a guy - but is not completely entranced with him. That's not possible? I met him once- he was short, pimply and generally seemed f'ning boring. I'm not any of those things...yet ALL men meet some enigma who makes them unsure, alpha, beta, zeta whatever. That's why I wrote in the 1st place.

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I personally say dont follow that "alpha male" bs, its all bs. Guys like that get kicked in the ass sooner or later by karma. In other words, dont go and steals someones gf.

 

A real "alpha male" for lack of better terms, would just go and find another girl. Why hit on someones girl, just move on.

 

A buddy of mine is a big player, he finally got a gf recently, and shes cheating on him, guys hearts broken. I wont tell him of course, but if you ask me, the guy deserves it.

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