Girls, my dream girl has a bf. Shall I tell her why I can't see her anymore- ?

[danny in van]

lool, you have my vote! this was awesome. hahaha

 

PS I know it is not fair that women's stock falls by 30...and a man's can (but doesn't always) increase after 30. Hopefully you had a good run up until 30 -and dated or married down as is common so your man feels he can do no better.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Poor guy … it's kind of sad.

[mesmerized]

PS I know it is not fair that women's stock falls by 30...and a man's can (but doesn't always) increase after 30. Hopefully you had a good run up until 30 -and dated or married down as is common so your man feels he can do no better.

 

Is that directed towards me? lool man, you couldn't be more dumb.

 

Poor guy … it's kind of sad.

 

lol, honestly, I'm literally laughing here.

 

I sincerely belief that women in general underestimate their man's sex drive. Like I wrote in the other thread, even if a man is TRULY IN LOVE he will still want to have random sex with any hot woman. He many not act on it but the thought is there and he probably fantasizes about those women when he is with you.

 

I have known guys who have backed up what Danny In Van is saying; if most guys had the chance to cheat and get away with it; they most likely will. Once that don't, well they don't because they don't have the opportunity to (not rich or good looking enough).

 

A lot of women live in a fantasy land and pretend that there is a happy ending. Hate to break it to you but there isn't.

 

Can you repeat yourself a few more times please? I think your message isn't clear yet.

[mesmerized]

no- you know it wasn't particularly witty. What you mean is 'I'm glad there are other people (women) here who back up my weakening position that my man only thinks of me- and would NEVER get with another girl'...

 

Remember: I am a guy so I know a lot more about what goes thru your man's head than possibly you do...AND he has an obvious reason to say 'honey there's no one else but you...' thus u must take w a grain of salt.

 

What are you even talking about? I'm perfectly fine with my man thinking about sex with other women. And every boyfriend I've had was very clear that I like the idea of having sex with other men too! Not only that, they even thought about making it open at times so I can have what I want. Having desire to have sex with other men/women is one thing, secretly thinking about/trying to actually get them in reality behind someone else's back is another.

 

PS-I have a huge sex drive and every guy who ends up with me will have so little cum left in his balls that he probably won't have energy/desire to think about other women lol

[danny in van]

Poor guy … it's kind of sad.

 

hmm lemme try that brilliant tact...

 

Poor girl...it's kind of sad.

 

No just doesn't do it- no flair; no thought process involved; no wit.

 

How about: poor girl, lost her looks; became obsolete in this physical world. Mamma never warned her her romantic value lasts about as long as a linebacker.

And it only gets worse with time...

 

Men become 'distinguished'; women haggard. But I didn't invent this double standard. But there are some double standards that work in favour of women...so maybe it all evens out?

[danny in van]

What are you even talking about? I'm perfectly fine with my man thinking about sex with other women. And every boyfriend I've had was very clear that I like the idea of having sex with other men too! Not only that, they even thought about making it open at times so I can have what I want. Having desire to have sex with other men/women is one thing, secretly thinking about/trying to actually get them in reality behind someone else's back is another.

 

PS-I have a huge sex drive and every guy who ends up with me will have so little cum left in his balls that he probably won't have energy/desire to think about other women lol

 

well of course you wanna make the one acceptable (as it doesn't threaten you) and the other "taboo and immoral" because it threatens your status quo.

And then u insert words like 'til death do us part' and 'forever' to ensure your monogamous status quo- and he agrees in order to get regular sex etc.

 

But you seem to think your sex skills render these threats as harmless anyway haha!

But I bet u remember the Hugh Grant and E Hurley example. Made women shudder around the world. Why? Because it showcased that a man wants variety (and that he did it with a hooker that looked like Marvin Haggler with a wig!!). So for the good of the social fabric we labelled him a 'sex addict' - to hopefully curtail other men thinking of doing the same...

 

And the women of LS try to peg me as the deviant in order to comfort themselves. I get it.

[mesmerized]

well of course you wanna make the one acceptable (as it doesn't threaten you) and the other "taboo and immoral" because it threatens your status quo.

And then u insert words like 'til death do us part' and 'forever' to ensure your monogamous status quo- and he agrees in order to get regular sex etc.

 

But you seem to think your sex skills render these threats as harmless anyway haha!

But I bet u remember the Hugh Grant and E Hurley example. Made women shudder around the world. Why? Because it showcased that a man wants variety (and that he did it with a hooker that looked like Marvin Haggler with a wig!!). So for the good of the social fabric we labelled him a 'sex addict' - to hopefully curtail other men thinking of doing the same...

 

And the women of LS try to peg me as the deviant in order to comfort themselves. I get it.

 

You're out of your mind, perhaps due to old age. You don't even read posts, just talk and talk, bla bla bla lol. Don't take yourself too seriously, I doubt any of the LS women are taking you seriously at all. The way you post and contradict yourself is rather comical.

[mesmerized]

I think what he is saying makes sense. Even gorgeous women like Megan Fox are not immune from cheating because often men will cheat with women who are less attractive then their spouse simply because they want something DIFFERENT like Hugh Grant did. His wife is considered gorgeous but he cheated with an ugly woman. Being WILD in bed is not enough (doesn't matter if you swallow cum or take it up the arse), men just want something different.

 

Men can tire of a filet mignon and want a $2 street taco or McDonals hamburger even if it will give him dhiarreha after. The thrill will be worth; the trill of illicit and forbidden sex. Some guys will risk their lives for that thrill and have sex bareback with high risk women etc.

 

lol, my point was, I don't care if a guy likes to have sex with other women cause I'm the same way! It's in most of people's nature and I don't deny it. And the PS part was what my exes told me. When we talked about having other people/being open, they said I'm too much for them to handle alone. They didn't have enough energy/stamina to keep up with me let alone adding other people to the mix. I didn't pull it out of my ass.

 

And, not all men are the same way. You risk sounding stupid when you say all men or all women. I have enough examples where the man is totally happy in the relationship and the women cheats and wants more. Just recently my friend cheated and let the husband know numerous times that he can have what he wants too and he said he didn't want to and wants to work on their marriage only.

 

OP is just hilarious because he thinks he is proving us a point and he is trying too hard after he caught redhanded.

[danny in van]

You're out of your mind, perhaps due to old age. You don't even read posts, just talk and talk, bla bla bla lol. Don't take yourself too seriously, I doubt any of the LS women are taking you seriously at all. The way you post and contradict yourself is rather comical.

 

where/how have I contradicted myself? Since you make the claim go ahead and back it up.

 

And yes I know the LS women are very likely gonna want to disagree with what I'm saying. To agree with me would make them have to look at their mates in a whole new disagreeable way. The truth stings - but I didn't invent the truth. Blame your god.

[danny in van]

where/how have I contradicted myself? Since you make the claim go ahead and back it up.

 

And yes I know the LS women are very likely gonna want to disagree with what I'm saying. To agree with me would make them have to look at their mates in a whole new disagreeable way. The truth stings - but I didn't invent the truth. Blame your god.

 

Don't know if that was a conscious slip, but I notice you didn't say 'the men of LS aren't taking you seriously'. Cuz deep down you know they agree. And that's been my whole point: I'm not claiming to know what women think - but I do know how most men think.

[mesmerized]

Don't know if that was a conscious slip, but I notice you didn't say 'the men of LS aren't taking you seriously'. Cuz deep down you know they agree. And that's been my whole point: I'm not claiming to know what women think - but I do know how most men think.

 

LOL, you addressed women of LS and said they don't like you for this and that reason and that's the reason I mentioned the women not men.

 

Honestly, I think you're crazy. I'm not gonna waste more of my precious time on you. Gonna go get ready for my hot date instead. Have fun trying too hard repeating yourself.

[danny in van]

LOL, you addressed women of LS and said they don't like you for this and that reason and that's the reason I mentioned the women not men.

 

Honestly, I think you're crazy. I'm not gonna waste more of my precious time on you. Gonna go get ready for my hot date instead. Have fun trying too hard repeating yourself.

 

way to backpeddle once again!

[Mme. Chaucer]

I've got to thank you, Danny. You've provided hours of hilarity. I hope you have a great evening in your Econoline.

[danny in van]

I've got to thank you, Danny. You've provided hours of hilarity. I hope you have a great evening in your Econoline.

 

and you too -as you continue to misdiagnose why men let u down.

[danny in van]

lol, my point was, I don't care if a guy likes to have sex with other women cause I'm the same way! It's in most of people's nature and I don't deny it. And the PS part was what my exes told me. When we talked about having other people/being open, they said I'm too much for them to handle alone. They didn't have enough energy/stamina to keep up with me let alone adding other people to the mix. I didn't pull it out of my ass.

 

And, not all men are the same way. You risk sounding stupid when you say all men or all women. I have enough examples where the man is totally happy in the relationship and the women cheats and wants more. Just recently my friend cheated and let the husband know numerous times that he can have what he wants too and he said he didn't want to and wants to work on their marriage only.

 

OP is just hilarious because he thinks he is proving us a point and he is trying too hard after he caught redhanded.

 

Have u not heard or understand the expression ' the exception proves the rule'?

[Nightsky]

Danny becomes more out of touch with reality with every post it seems.

 

Girls, my dream girl has a bf. I have a gf. Shall I tell her why I can't see her anymore-?

 

I think she'll figure it out.

[only_quotes_jerks]

Boy am I late to this party.

[danny in van]

Danny becomes more out of touch with reality with every post it seems.

 

Girls, my dream girl has a bf. I have a gf. Shall I tell her why I can't see her anymore-?

 

I think she'll figure it out.

 

hmm yet you keep writing. Would I converse with someone if I thought they were outta touch? No- but you do. If I did I'd really have to admit my life is pretty darn empty...

[Trimmer]

Plus - I'm new here and am only now realizing there are weirdos on this site like you who chime in out of spite.

Ahhhh... is this your first internet account, then?

 

Indidentally, here's one of your contradictions:

You're simple so's last time I'm responding to you!

heh heh...

 

Who uses alpha and beta terms? It comes from higher academia, and the anthro dep't actually.

No, the question was: who calls himself "Alpha", and his rivals "Beta", as seen here:

 

Who the heck calls himself "Alpha" and other guys "Beta?"

Someone who's compensating for something.

 

I know the attacks are all from females or their patsies. It's so obvious as they hate that what I've said here is what lurks in their SO's mind (but his hen pecked self can't say it).

Yeah we guys are just sitting back, watching in amusement, as your spit hits your monitor, and your posts grow more and more desperate.

 

Don't know if that was a conscious slip, but I notice you didn't say 'the men of LS aren't taking you seriously'. Cuz deep down you know they agree.

I agree that many men - even when in a relationship - look at and think about other women. However, I think you're still a douche if (a) you're in a relationship that you've represented to each other as being exclusive, and you are making plans to hit on someone else (apparently not your situation, although it did sound like that at the start), or (b) if you are making plans to hit on a woman who is already in a relationship, especially when she's told you, "No, we can't do this, I'm in a relationship now." Douche. Douchey. Douchey-Douche. There, how's that for intelligent debate?

Edited February 28, 2012 by Trimmer

[danny in van]

Ahhhh... is this your first internet account, then?

 

Indidentally, here's one of your contradictions:

 

heh heh...

 

 

No, the question was: who calls himself "Alpha", and his rivals "Beta", as seen here:

 

 

Someone who's compensating for something.

 

 

Yeah we guys are just sitting back, watching in amusement, as your spit hits your monitor, and your posts grow more and more desperate.

 

 

I agree that many men - even when in a relationship - look at and think about other women. However, I think you're still a douche if (a) you're in a relationship that you've represented to each other as being exclusive, and you are making plans to hit on someone else (apparently not your situation, although it did sound like that at the start), or (b) if you are making plans to hit on a woman who is already in a relationship, especially when she's told you, "No, we can't do this, I'm in a relationship now." Douche. Douchey. Douchey-Douche. There, how's that for intelligent debate?

 

Sorry- still not very intelligent. Why? Because you ASSUMED when I said girlfriend that it meant exclusive. I never said that. There are lots of people in non exclusive relationships- so it's your error.

Your second point is also groundless. Because no where did I write that she said or even suggested "No, we can't do this, I'm in a relationship now."

In fact her words and actions are encouraging me...She referred to me as her kindred spirit. She has said more than once "I just want a guy who will..." Big difference from "I'm glad I've found a guy who..."

Once you live a few years you will recognize that alot of people are treading water in relationships and not super thrilled. Trust me- I'm not gonna roofie this girl to get her...But if she ends up choosing me over him, will I give a damn about him? No- and why should I? I don't know him.

 

So before you congratulate yourself for intelligence, get a proof reader.

[danny in van]

Ahhhh... is this your first internet account, then?

 

Indidentally, here's one of your contradictions:

 

heh heh...

 

 

No, the question was: who calls himself "Alpha", and his rivals "Beta", as seen here:

 

 

Someone who's compensating for something.

 

 

Yeah we guys are just sitting back, watching in amusement, as your spit hits your monitor, and your posts grow more and more desperate.

 

 

I agree that many men - even when in a relationship - look at and think about other women. However, I think you're still a douche if (a) you're in a relationship that you've represented to each other as being exclusive, and you are making plans to hit on someone else (apparently not your situation, although it did sound like that at the start), or (b) if you are making plans to hit on a woman who is already in a relationship, especially when she's told you, "No, we can't do this, I'm in a relationship now." Douche. Douchey. Douchey-Douche. There, how's that for intelligent debate?

 

So my only contradiction you can find is that I said I wouldn't respond to that poster again - but I did? haha Thanks for that!! You're on my side!!

 

And who refers to themselves as alpha? Well if the shoe fits right? I've read all sorts of descriptions of both, and so it happens that I fit the alpha bill . Someone has to.

They say the only thing worse than arrogance is false modesty. Why? Cuz the latter is lying.

[Nightsky]

So my only contradiction you can find is that I said I wouldn't respond to that poster again - but I did? haha Thanks for that!! You're on my side!!

 

And who refers to themselves as alpha? Well if the shoe fits right? I've read all sorts of descriptions of both, and so it happens that I fit the alpha bill . Someone has to.

They say the only thing worse than arrogance is false modesty. Why? Cuz the latter is lying.

 

Do you have kids because thats pretty much all it takes to be alpha in nature. If you don't have kids you're not alpha. Not that having kids some how makes you some great guy, but thats natures definition of the Alpha wolf. The father. Any wolf that leaves the pack to start one of its own will also be alpha.

[danny in van]

Do you have kids because thats pretty much all it takes to be alpha in nature. If you don't have kids you're not alpha. Not that having kids some how makes you some great guy, but thats natures definition of the Alpha wolf. The father. Any wolf that leaves the pack to start one of its own will also be alpha.

 

That is definitely NOT the definition - or at least in the countless times I've read on the subject I've never seen that as explanation.

But again - we're digressing (which seems to be the norm on LS). I don't think alpha and beta is b&w anyway. And more importantly, whether I am or not is irrelevant to my original posting.

[Trimmer]

Sorry- still not very intelligent. Why? Because you ASSUMED when I said girlfriend that it meant exclusive. I never said that. There are lots of people in non exclusive relationships- so it's your error.

Yep, you said "girlfriend", and it's everyone else's problem that they misinterpreted that to mean what it means to 95% of the population, and it's not at all a miscommunication on your part that you didn't specify that you are in the other 5%. Mea culpa.

 

Your second point is also groundless. Because no where did I write that she said or even suggested "No, we can't do this, I'm in a relationship now."

OK, I'll take you at your word. Then can you please elaborate on this statement from your OP and what you inferred from it at the time:

then I started to really like her and come on to her again- then she says 'now I have a bf' ugh!

I guess I just assumed that meant.... that she was turning you down by telling you she had a boyfriend. I now see that nowhere did you write or even suggest that she said "no we can't do this, I'm in a relationship now." :rolleyes: Yeah, completely different. Completely different. Qantas. Qantas never crashed.

 

In fact her words and actions are encouraging me...She referred to me as her kindred spirit. She has said more than once "I just want a guy who will..." Big difference from "I'm glad I've found a guy who..."

So what the heck is your issue then? You are not in an exclusive relationship with anyone now, you are interested in a woman who sounds like she is interested in you. Assuming she's of sound moral character, we'll assume that she has a similar "not exclusive" relationship with the one you call her "boyfriend" (because now we know that when you say "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", it's not exclusive unless you specifically say so, right?)

 

So what's the issue here? If you're an "alpha", why are you thinking you should turn away from a situation like this? Sounds kind of passive/submissive/wimpy to me...

 

Once you live a few years you will recognize that alot of people are treading water in relationships and not super thrilled.

Oh, you think I need to live a few years, huh? Heh heh... You think when I get to your ripe age, I'll have more wisdom and experience? You think I wouldn't be able to understand that now, huh? OK, I guess I can look forward to that enlightenment when I've seen what you've seen and done what you've done in life, and lived a few more years.

 

So before you congratulate yourself for intelligence, get a proof reader.

Heh, where did I claim to be intelligent?

[danny in van]

Yep, you said "girlfriend", and it's everyone else's problem that they misinterpreted that to mean what it means to 95% of the population, and it's not at all a miscommunication on your part that you didn't specify that you are in the other 5%. Mea culpa.

 

 

OK, I'll take you at your word. Then can you please elaborate on this statement from your OP and what you inferred from it at the time:

 

I guess I just assumed that meant.... that she was turning you down by telling you she had a boyfriend. I now see that nowhere did you write or even suggest that she said "no we can't do this, I'm in a relationship now." :rolleyes: Yeah, completely different. Completely different. Qantas. Qantas never crashed.

 

 

So what the heck is your issue then? You are not in an exclusive relationship with anyone now, you are interested in a woman who sounds like she is interested in you. Assuming she's of sound moral character, we'll assume that she has a similar "not exclusive" relationship with the one you call her "boyfriend" (because now we know that when you say "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", it's not exclusive unless you specifically say so, right?)

 

So what's the issue here? If you're an "alpha", why are you thinking you should turn away from a situation like this? Sounds kind of passive/submissive/wimpy to me...

 

 

Oh, you think I need to live a few years, huh? Heh heh... You think when I get to your ripe age, I'll have more wisdom and experience? You think I wouldn't be able to understand that now, huh? OK, I guess I can look forward to that enlightenment when I've seen what you've seen and done what you've done in life, and lived a few more years.

 

 

Heh, where did I claim to be intelligent?

 

you wrote "There, how's that for intelligent debate?" did you not...?

 

And 95% of people assume gf means monogamy? - gee I wonder if you could cite a source for that stat? You'd make a faulty lawyer- and I mention lawyers because they must be very accurate with words (the only thing we can judge on LS) or lose. Pulling stats out of thin air works in jr high maybe...

Regardless, people can be in exclusive LTR and get out. And they often get out because they see someone 'better' for them. Is that news to you? Do you think that's rare? Only if I married someone and promised til death do we part and then I broke it off could u have a moral issue w me. And you know what- that happens too believe it or not. So why don't you go to some marriage/divorce forum and be righteous there? You'd have at least some leg to stand on...

 

And yes she did say 'I have a bf' but it was said with a regretful 'why didn't you step up and maker a move when I didn't have a bf?' (you'll have to take my word on that)...My original question (lost on you) was 'should I disappear with or w/out an explanation?' and you write nothing about that. Lose the plot much?

 

 

And yes it took me to a certain age to recognize and see many couples I know get together, go thru child rearing, hit patches of complacency and contempt for each other - and 'stick it out' even though they seem to loathe their partner. Only by my later 30s had I watched these full life cycles take place with my peers. It's like fashion and music too- after you've been around long enough you know the latest craze is not new - cuz you lived through its predecessor. Maybe you know that now. It doesn't matter to the main point though.