Sugarkane Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Probably coz of Valentines Day which isn't the most fun time of year to be single. I really wanted to post a happy ending on here, but so frustrated I don't have one yet. I get disillusioned sometimes and want to give up.
Cocollective Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Dude while you're still breathing there is always hope. But try to fill up your life with other things besides THAT relationship, and hopefully you'll find that THAT relationship comes to you. Rich
oldguy Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 (edited) Sugarkane is a dudette not a dude:laugh: You could have given grandma or mom a hug on Valentines day, even someone else s if need be, they need one too:) I don't know your situation but I'm guessing your a person with a whole future filled with options before you. The journey is almost always more enjoyable than the destination, remember fondly the past, dream & plan of the future but live & enjoy the moment for what it is. damn I'm sounding like an old fart:lmao: I hope your day gets better. Edited February 21, 2012 by oldguy
Buttercup84 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Hi sugar , I'm sorry you are feeling down . Your happy ending isn't here yet , and it isn't in form of a man . As the oldguy says , it's about the journey . I simetimes feel like the only way to feel better is to get married , and that I don't have a happy ending yet because I'm single . Enjoy every moment of being single because you might never get those moments back , it could happen any day that you meet someone . You will be okay ! Xxx
ScienceGal Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Probably coz of Valentines Day which isn't the most fun time of year to be single. I really wanted to post a happy ending on here, but so frustrated I don't have one yet. I get disillusioned sometimes and want to give up. I was dating someone on Valentine's Day and I was still alone, and still received nothing, not even a call or a message. At least if you're single, you're in a better position to meet someone wonderful You have a good heart and you will be happy again soon. I promise.
Author Sugarkane Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 Thankyou for your kind words. But so frustrating when I read on here that someone has come out of a serious relationship and somehow manages to have a new relationship mere months later. How the hell do you do it? I've dated but haven't been in a relationship as of yet.
Exit Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 Try not to look at it like that so much. Finding your happiness again is not so much about how soon you can find another relationship. I get what you're saying, it sucks to see other people who can pick up and move on and find themselves enjoying someone else's company so soon after a breakup, but there's nothing you can do to force it. And if you're still feeling down about things, I'm sure part of you knows it wouldn't be a good time to start seeing someone anyway. Relationships should be about sharing happiness together. I'm sure you'd never want to intentionally use someone as nothing more than a tool, but waiting for someone to come along and fill the gap in our lives and make us whole again kinda is taking advantage of them. Try to find happiness in whatever you've got going on right now and work on rebuilding yourself and just being happy with that and maybe then the stars will align and you will attract a new person into your life. Maybe the people who find someone else so quickly manage to do so because they aren't sitting around depressed and remorseful like so many of us are. They probably got back out there in the world and started living life and sure enough they met someone else. Or the darker side of this equation could be that many of these people are insecure and are just rebounding with random people to get a distraction from their own heartache. You say you have no relationship but that you have been dating. Well, you're one step ahead of me. I've been single since November and I can't even find the desire to think about going on a date with anyone else. Still too messed up.
CopingGal Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Thankyou for your kind words. But so frustrating when I read on here that someone has come out of a serious relationship and somehow manages to have a new relationship mere months later. How the hell do you do it? I've dated but haven't been in a relationship as of yet. Sugarkane, don't worry about that. You have to be patient with yourself. I read that after a relationship that lasts years, you should give your recovery at least a year. I said to myself...that is way too long...but it turns out that I needed a longggg recovery. I don't want to rush it. I've been in recovery for 7 months and I have much longer to go. I don't want to rush it. I just want to have a relationship with myself and like my roommate said, "give time, time.":) 1
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