DDOWE Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Hi all, I desperately need advise on what to do! I was seeing this girl for about 5 months and things were going amazing! She made it very clear form the beginning that she wasnt interested in a relationship which i said ok to but truthfully expecting it to go that way! About 2 months ago I said to her that id like us to become an official couple to which things ended as she didnt want to be leading me along when it wasnt something she wanted! We finished dating and it ended very well and have been constantly in touch since. Then 2 weeks ago I went on a date with a friend of a friend of mine, she was very nice and smart and pretty but I had no intrest what so ever, the more i sat there on the date the more I realised that it wasnt because I was hung up on my ex but purely because ( and I know this sounds bad ) I had no intrest in listening to her telling my about her life, i just simply didnt care. Thats not what I was looking for, I realised what I wanted was something casual and easy and fun. So then yesterday I was talking to my ex and told her that I wanted to take her out on a date and explained its because I want to go out and enjoy myself with a woman I find attractive and just have fun with none of that first date "does he like me, does she like me" type of thing. I made it very clear that I am not looking to get back together but that its a proper date and I am staying in her place as we live about an hour away from each other. The ideal situation is that we go back to what we had before where it was fun and casual and just nice, until i messed it up by trying to become something more which i realise now is not what i even wanted. So my question is-is this a good idea or will she think i am playing games so we can start up a relationship again??
emily_m Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 No one can tell you what the girl may or may not think. Just relax, stop over thinking things and go on the date! Time will tell.
ThatDudeXO Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Go on the date and enjoy it for what it is, a night out with an attractive woman with the possibility of sex. Don't think about it too deeply or expect anything else. Also I think it would be wise to keep your options open for other girls too, never pin your hopes on an ex.
Emilia Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Hi all, The ideal situation is that we go back to what we had before where it was fun and casual and just nice, until i messed it up by trying to become something more which i realise now is not what i even wanted. So my question is-is this a good idea or will she think i am playing games so we can start up a relationship again?? No. you can't go backwards from complicated to non-complicated. Everything gets more complex after a while, it either becomes more serious as a result or it ends 1
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