Dayzdnconfzd626 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 (edited) In regards to a persons past sexual experience, how much should you reveal? Everything, nothing or just a little? Too me complete honesty should be whats valued most. But it seems that women once they find out seem to judge you and see it as a bad thing. I recently told the girl im dating that i had a threesome a long time ago, now she doesnt want to talk to me. Would i have been better off not mentioning it? Edited February 21, 2012 by Dayzdnconfzd626
ditzchic Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Unless she asked you specifically she probably didn't want to know. We all realize that our partners have pasts, we don't want to always know about them though. Never just volunteer information like that.
oldguy Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 (edited) In regards to a persons past sexual experience, how much should you reveal? Everything, nothing or just a little? Too me complete honesty should be whats valued most. But it seems that women once they find out seem to judge you and see it as a bad thing. I recently told the girl im dating that i had a threesome a long time ago, now she doesnt want to talk to me. Would i have been better off not mentioning it? It totally depends on the person, their comfort zone & the relationship. Aren't you glad you aren't married to this girl and have a couple of kids before finding out she has issues with your past? Credit rating; your past is just like a credit rating, your SO's beliefs or feelings are the currency & if someone is going to invest in another person they have the right to know. And to be honest that question usually doesn't come up unless the relationship has advanced a bit. If you maintain a lifestyle that is incompatible with someone else s then the two of you are.... "incomparable". And that's fine. What's not fine is keeping a secrete from someone because you think they'll walk. If we where proud we would be bragging so the fact that we are hiding or saying it's no ones business is a good indicator we, ourselves, don't feel good about whatever it is we did. Now, if you had a lifestyle or did things that where objectionable to a potential SO, It is their right to determine for themselves if enough time has passed for them to feel comfortable that you have changed or are a good risk. The past IS the past, however, if there is a chance that your past may still be a part of your present beliefs or behavior, or that past may be totally unacceptable to a potential SO beliefs or comfort zone, then they should know sooner not later. Weather we like it or not we are all accountable for our pasts. All of us have done things we wish we would have done differently but the truth is we own our pasts and we should, it's the how and why we grow & change, hopefully for the better. Now; RJ, is a little bit different phenomenon that goes into a bit of a different direction & effects judgement in a little more obscure way. Edited February 21, 2012 by oldguy 1
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