Michael225 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 My ex broke up with me about 2 and a half months ago. I was devastated, it was my first heart break and I was awful at handling it. I was annoying and clingy. She was dating someone else with the next month and still is dating him. Even though she is still dating him about a months ago she started texting me and telling me she wanted to break up with her boyfriend and get back together. We started hanging out, she came over to watch movies and we got lunch together and stuff like that. Every time we hang out she does not tell her current bf. She texts me tells me how much she loves me, misses me wants to marry me and have kids with me but a month later she still has not broken up with him. She tells me the reason she hasn't done it is because she is afraid, of what I'm not sure. I know this is my fault for acting so desperate when she first broke up with me but what do I do? I want to be with her but if that's not going to happen then I need to get over her. She won't let me do either.
Love_sick_me Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 (edited) Do you want to get back together with her? I don't think it's your fault that she is confused. Break ups can be confusing as it is. Right now obviously there are a lot going on in her mind. I'd say keep your distance until she wants to commit to more. She might be acting greedy and seems like she's playing games, but she might not even be aware of any of these. Just be sure of what you want, and be cautious about what you're doing. I'd say keep your distance until you can approach your relationship issues with a leveled head. By then if you still want to be with her, then go and get her back. Right now, don't buy into what she's doing too much, because she's quite torn up inside. It seems like she still trusts you and wants comfort from you, but she's still not ready to commit to you. Just be careful. Wish you luck Edited February 21, 2012 by Love_sick_me
Tiera D Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 My advice,Go NC until she 100% breakup with this new guy (probably a rebound anyway) then go LC.Actions speak louder than words i think shes stringing u now no matter intentional or not TD
RonChalant Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 "she won't let me do either" Uhh...I'm going to need you to man up and not let her have control over you...wtf do you mean she won't LET you? Oh course she wants to have her cake and eat it to (never understood that phrase, if you have cake why wouldn't you eat it) so you need to tell her point blank...I don't want to be your friend. If you want to work on getting back together then let's do that but I'm not going to sit on the sideline until you've had your fun and decide I'm finally worth your time. When you say this you have to mean it. She will say all that she can to still have her way, even get mad and say forget about it then...STICK TO YOUR GUNS she's confused because she is no longer in power and will do what she can to make you feel like your the one ****ing up. I did the same thing as you did for 2 years on 2 sep occasions with my ex and when a woman feels like she has all the power (which you are giving her sorry to say) she will walk all over you because she knows she can have you whenever she wants. Take back the power while you still can...tell her if she's not going to get back with you to let you get over her. THAT LINE IS GOING TO STING HER wether she shows it or not.
That Z Guy Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 I agree..My ex has been pulling the same crap for awhile now. When you talk to them hang out with them and even sleep with them when THEY want only your handing them all the power and your manhood. She will mess around with both of you until she decides on one guy or shes bored..When I cut my ex off and got a rebound she came running back..It was too early to date and she went back to her rebound but still hangs out with me etc..As soon as I stop talking to her for awhile she keeps texting me back even more..Women are for the most part predictable..Cut her off see what happens..Eventually you may not care anymore like most guys I talk to haha..Good luck
Author Michael225 Posted March 14, 2012 Author Posted March 14, 2012 Here's an update. I didn't really follow anyone's advise but I should have. Today I was drunk and I texted her and told her she had made me wait far too long. I threatened to show her bf texts if she didn't break up with him or give me full closure. Again I was drunk I really regret doing this. I also found out that she has now had sex with this guy who before her was a 22 year old virgin. So now I have my closure. It stings but at the same time it's like a weight has been lifted of my shoulders. My advise to anyone who might be going through a similar situation is get out while you still can. You think this girl is the sweetest and theres no way she could be playing you. I promise you if your telling yourself that then she is 100% without a doubt playing you.
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