jmy33 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Ok, so i haven't been on here in quite some time, and its because i have been doing so well moving on from my ex. I hadnt been thinking of her that much, nothing seemed to bother me when i heard her name and things about her, i had actually started to feel like i was almost over her. I was completly wrong.. For the weekend i had gone to visit a couple friends who happen to go to the same school as my ex. I have been there quite a few times in the last couple months and had not seen my ex at all. So why should this time be any different, right? And since i had been feeling much better about everything, it wouldnt be that big a deal if i saw here anyways, right?....Wrong! My friends and i went to a party one night and were having a good time until i turned around only to find my ex dancing and flirting with another guy. My heart sank..Later that night we did talk a little, but it was just saying hey, how have you been and stuff like that. Of course after seeing me she began flirting and dancing with even more guys, which just made me sick and i had to leave. Since ive been back home, the only thing i can think about is her. I think about why she is still trying to hurt me by dancing and flirting right in front of me, and how she can just move on from everything we had. Is there something wrong with me that i cant move on as fast as her? Should i still hurt? We dated for 2 years and have been broken up for about 5 months and NC for about 2 months until this past weekend. Is there anything i can do to get her off my mind? I just want all the pain to end..
Follower Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 You describing my worst fears right now, and i truely feel sorry for you. I believe its natural to feel like that, your male you have a lota brovado about you, welcome to the club its part of what makes us honest. Your angry because from the sounds of it you still see her as your girl you still really want to be with her and this is natural. I think the best idea right now is to just keep the NC and keep moving on with life. She isnt trying to hurt you if that helps, its not that shes mean, she just geniunly doesnt care or she wouldnt have been flirting with others. Hope that helps buddy and keep strong.!
Darkesthour33 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 For your own sanity, you must go strict NC, dont think for a minute that she didnt know that you were watching, but like the previous poster said, she doesnt care, long story short, you have to cut her totally out of your life so you can heal, if you even get a clue that she will be at an event, then you absolutely do not go .... good luck
Mr Scorpio Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 No, there is nothing wrong with you for not being able to move on as fast as her -- assuming that she has even moved on! She may very well not be "over it", and simply acted out against you for the ego boost. As for whether or not you "should" still hurt, I dont think it is really a matter of "should" or "shouldn't". You're only human, and I think it is perfectly normal for you to still be hurt. As for what you can do to get her off your mind, like everyone else you need time to pass. How you choose to pass it is up to you, but being in West Michigan, I would think Frederik Meijer Gardens, Founders Brewery, or the Lakeshore are all pretty good options.
SimonMas Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 If you don't feel comfortable seeing her then avoid her by all means. You are in control of your life, not her.
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