kaylan Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 I'm a guy and I'd say 2-4 is what I'd expect for a woman my age (23/24). More than that is too many. BWAH HA HA HA...thats super wishful thinking if Ive ever heard it. Many are easily at twice or thrice that number.
somedude81 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Your kidding right? At 30 years old, 15 partners is fine. Say she lost her virginity at 16 or 17. Shes averaging a little over 1 partner a year. Whats the big deal? Thats HARDLY skanky. Not at all. Itd be different if she was like 21 and racked up a number that high in a couple of years. As I said before, my real question is, why hasn't she been in a relationship in that time period? If she has, why can't she hold a boyfriend for a year?
kaylan Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Holy ****, I didn't think I had NO relationship experience, but a partner a year? Huh. That's the batting average nowadays? I didn't realize everybody was hooking up around me. ****. Im usually single for a couple years or so in between girlfriends since Im very picky about girlfriends and want to make sure I find the right girl for me. Am I a whore if I have sex with a few (3) different girls each year of my single-ness and am safe about it?
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 As I said before, my real question is, why hasn't she been in a relationship in that time period? If she has, why can't she hold a boyfriend for a year? Dude, how easy is it to get into a relationship? There is your answer.
txalpiner Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Instead of judging people for their past sexual exploits, maybe first we need to decide whether we're looking for terrific sex or a "last relationship". Then we may want to decide if a zebra can change its stripes, in other words, once a person gets used to having a few dozen partners every year, can they turn off that urge?
insertnamehere Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 ^ ^ ^ I almost never gets asked my number. And I thank gawd, because it really depends on your scoring system. Such as, in a threesome, if there was only penetration with one girl, should you score both? Or, if you brought a woman to orgasm without vaginal stimulation of any kind, should it count? Jesus Christ, I couldn't even tell you the names of 1/3 of the people I've screwed. Scarily enough, I am not a blackout drunk and I generally remember everything people tell me. Now here's the thing. The longest drought of my life was two and a half years! And the best stretch of my life was five chicks in three weeks. Six if my second question comes back a yes and seven if the first one is a yes, also. I couldn't imagine the conversation that would arise from answering that question honestly. I can remember a chick who told me that six was too many. Let's just say my response did not improve my tally.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 BWAH HA HA HA...thats super wishful thinking if Ive ever heard it. Many are easily at twice or thrice that number. I figure one or two boyfriends in that time maybe one fwb or one night stand. The thing is women with higher numbers are more than likely going to hyper critical of guys with lower numbers. Or, if not hyper critical, they'll be hyper patronizing. I'm not sure which is worse. In any case it's not likely to ever be an issue as I've largely given up on ever finding someone to have sex with. Now my only hope is to find someone who will let me buy them things and never sleep with me.
kaylan Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 ^ ^ ^ I almost never gets asked my number. And I thank gawd, because it really depends on your scoring system. Such as, in a threesome, if there was only penetration with one girl, should you score both? Or, if you brought a woman to orgasm without vaginal stimulation of any kind, should it count? Jesus Christ, I couldn't even tell you the names of 1/3 of the people I've screwed. Scarily enough, I am not a blackout drunk and I generally remember everything people tell me. Now here's the thing. The longest drought of my life was two and a half years! And the best stretch of my life was five chicks in three weeks. Six if my second question comes back a yes and seven if the first one is a yes, also. I couldn't imagine the conversation that would arise from answering that question honestly. I can remember a chick who told me that six was too many. Let's just say my response did not improve my tally. ^For every penis in vagina or butt hole, that counts as one partner. If we are going by oral sex as well, then you need to give me time to count. *not a whore* I swear lolz
xxoo Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 As I said before, my real question is, why hasn't she been in a relationship in that time period? If she has, why can't she hold a boyfriend for a year? I can't believe you are judging people for not succeeding in relationships 3
aj22one Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Jeez Louise people are having a whole lotta sex. I thought I was fairly middle of the pack (ok maybe bottom half of the pack) at 4, but goodness gracious... Anyway, my gf told me I'm only second. Maybe she's lying I don't know, but considering she's Muslim I'm inclined to believe her.
kaylan Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 I figure one or two boyfriends in that time maybe one fwb or one night stand. The thing is women with higher numbers are more than likely going to hyper critical of guys with lower numbers. Or, if not hyper critical, they'll be hyper patronizing. I'm not sure which is worse. In any case it's not likely to ever be an issue as I've largely given up on ever finding someone to have sex with. Now my only hope is to find someone who will let me buy them things and never sleep with me. Dude, once you start having sex...your mind opens up about this whole numbers game. Im no whore, but Im no prude either. But I understand where you are coming from. People usually judge others sexual behavior based on the standard of their own behavior. When I was a virgin I couldnt stand that my first gf wasnt one too. She had a few guys before me. As my number grew, and as I hooked up more, I cared less about certain number ranges. But today I am generally comfortable knowing a girl is within my range....shes not a slut, and not a prude either.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 If I thought there was zero chance of me ever seriously dating her? Yes. How is that hard to understand? I was actually directing my question specifically to somedude. I think he has many posts around here about how much he NEEDS some woman to relieve him of his burden of pent-up sexual energy. I have plenty of respect for people who make the decision to keep sex within serious relationships, and I am one of them myself. But, I am not "against" people having casual sex, as long as the people involved have the same agenda. I don't think it is "wrong" in general, just because it is not right for me. 1
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 ^ ^ ^ I almost never gets asked my number. And I thank gawd, because it really depends on your scoring system. Such as, in a threesome, if there was only penetration with one girl, should you score both? Or, if you brought a woman to orgasm without vaginal stimulation of any kind, should it count? Jesus Christ, I couldn't even tell you the names of 1/3 of the people I've screwed. Scarily enough, I am not a blackout drunk and I generally remember everything people tell me. Now here's the thing. The longest drought of my life was two and a half years! And the best stretch of my life was five chicks in three weeks. Six if my second question comes back a yes and seven if the first one is a yes, also. I couldn't imagine the conversation that would arise from answering that question honestly. I can remember a chick who told me that six was too many. Let's just say my response did not improve my tally. Come on, do you really tally the times you can't remember. lol
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Dude, once you start having sex...your mind opens up about this whole numbers game. Im no whore, but Im no prude either. But I understand where you are coming from. People usually judge others sexual behavior based on the standard of their own behavior. When I was a virgin I couldnt stand that my first gf wasnt one too. She had a few guys before me. As my number grew, and as I hooked up more, I cared less about certain number ranges. But today I am generally comfortable knowing a girl is within my range....shes not a slut, and not a prude either. I mean I definitely know people are having sex and I have no doubt that if I ever get to date someone they'll probably not be a virgin either especially at my age. In fact I'd probably prefer that they not be so it own't be the blind leading the blind. I'm just not interested in hooking up, only relationships. I'd hope to find someone with a similar outlook. Maybe I should try to date older women...
somedude81 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Dude, how easy is it to get into a relationship? There is your answer. Smile, I honestly have no idea how easy it is for a woman to get into a relationship. Right now, I can only assume that most women know at least three guys who want a relationship with her, and with a little bit of searching, she can find more. I can't believe you are judging people for not succeeding in relationships Nobody is more aware that I have issues than myself.
kaylan Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Just to spite this thread, (and to feed my ego), I am going to have lots of sex this year. While Im screwing whichever girl I am with, I will be thinking of all you here. I will, myself be screwing some of you deeply for your prudish transgressions against contemporary Western culture. You will thus be vicariously screwing me through the experience of these women. Deal?
xxoo Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Just to spite this thread, (and to feed my ego), I am going to have lots of sex this year. While Im screwing whichever girl I am with, I will be thinking of all you here. I will, myself be screwing some of you deeply for your prudish transgressions against contemporary Western culture. You will thus be vicariously screwing me through the experience of these women. Deal? Sounds hot 1
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Smile, I honestly have no idea how easy it is for a woman to get into a relationship. Right now, I can only assume that most women know at least three guys who want a relationship with her, and with a little bit of searching, she can find more. Not true but I don't really mind the search and don't need to bitch about my search for a relationship. 1
Imageiko Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 lol somedude you bitch about a double standard then totally through another double standard right back in a girl with experience's face. You need to seriously work on yourself dude. Stop pursuing women and get rid of the demons that are living inside your head. Whether that's through therapy or another avenue they need to be addressed asap. As for OP the only question that matters if they've been safe man or women. Any thoughts other than that are out dated views and leading to poor treatment of your partner and unnecessary judgement.
xxoo Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Smile, I honestly have no idea how easy it is for a woman to get into a relationship. Right now, I can only assume that most women know at least three guys who want a relationship with her, and with a little bit of searching, she can find more. It is easy for most women to get sex. It is MUCH more difficult to get a lasting relationship. It's tough for everyone to find a good match.
ScreamingTrees Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Im usually single for a couple years or so in between girlfriends since Im very picky about girlfriends and want to make sure I find the right girl for me. Am I a whore if I have sex with a few (3) different girls each year of my single-ness and am safe about it? Well, I wouldn't ever think of you a whore if they're on the same page as you. If I'd found out that a girl suddenly did a 360 with me, going from being all about casual flings to suddenly wanting a relationship, I'd be a bit wary, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it if your intentions/desires are known and mutually shared. I'm just paranoid about diseases that can apparently be transmitted through condoms.. So being safe makes no difference. Maybe that's just fear mongering, but I wouldn't know for sure until it could be too late.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Perhaps this warrants its own thread, but have I been a fool to look for relationships this whole time instead of looking for casual sex? That seems to be the message I get from this thread...
Titania22 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Smile, I honestly have no idea how easy it is for a woman to get into a relationship. Well let me assure you finding a relationship can be very hard for women, for different reasons. Obviously now mine is age and not being attracted to older men (assuming older men even want relationships). But for someone younger it could be different reasons, like their attractiveness, maturity or their willingness/non-willingness to have sex. I know when I was 18-19 guys always just tried to have sex with me as soon as they met me, my husband was the first guy I came across interested in a relationship, and the only one who still wanted to talk to me after the sex. Now if you consider I got hit on every single time I left the house no exceptions. It also depends on peoples social circles and opportunities. I went to girls school growing up. And I didn't have a social circle when I finished school. So it was just me going out into the world alone. And I didn't go to university until a decade later.
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Perhaps this warrants its own thread, but have I been a fool to look for relationships this whole time instead of looking for casual sex? That seems to be the message I get from this thread... NO that is all I will say to that
ScreamingTrees Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Am I the naive fool for not settling for casual encounters if that's not what I ultimately want? Will it (ironically) make me less dateable to someone looking for a relationship? Should I have had some "fun" to show that I'm perfectly normal and have sexual experience.. ? (I'm not going to change. I'd just like to know. I'm surprised at some of the posts.)
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