fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Would you choose to masturbate over no strings attach sex? I am asking this question with the idea that your belief system may not go against this. I think sex is only for relationships not casual flings. So yes I would not choose to engage in nsa sex.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 And I suppose nobody ever dated someone for a relationship, and the other party lost interest after sex. Never happened to me. Fair is fair.
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 I think sex is only for relationships not casual flings. So yes I would not choose to engage in nsa sex. Ok fair enough
mesmerized Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 I think sex is only for relationships not casual flings. So yes I would not choose to engage in nsa sex. Translation: I can't get women for casual sex even if I want to and therefore, casual sex is bad and nobody should do it. lol
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Translation: I can't get women for casual sex even if I want to and therefore, casual sex is bad and nobody should do it. lol Lol I've never wanted casual sex. It just seems so...cold and uncaring to me. You're free to change my mind though.
somedude81 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Nobody masturbates by choice, come one. Really if you had the choice of getting some, you will rather masturbate? Really? Of course not. But I don't have that choice. And ideally, I wouldn't be having casual sex. I'd love to say that I could turn down a girl who is offering casual sex, but I can't simply because it's years for me. But somebody with a healthy sex life/past should be able to.
Titania22 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Never happened to me. Fair is fair. Well it happens alot, by both men and women, because we aren't automatically going to be sexually compatible with everyone we meet, even if we are compatible in other ways. So the only way to test sexual compatibility is by having sex, and that can increase peoples numbers really quickly. I am neither in the 15+ group or the virgin group, but I would have loved to have more sex over my sexual peak, and also to have not had sex at 18. So I don't judge people for either extreme. And I think there is a huge difference between someone picking up and having casual sex every week, and someone who is feeling lonely and horny and chooses to break the drought and ward off the loneliness once in a while.
mesmerized Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Lol I've never wanted casual sex. It just seems so...cold and uncaring to me. You're free to change my mind though. Oh you would if I offered you, believe me
Queen Zenobia Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Translation: I can't get women for casual sex even if I want to and therefore, casual sex is bad and nobody should do it. lol Translation: some people have a rigid sense of sexual morality and can keep control of their animalistic urges and not sleep with every Tom, Dick, and Harry. 1
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Of course not. But I don't have that choice. And ideally, I wouldn't be having casual sex. I'd love to say that I could turn down a girl who is offering casual sex, but I can't simply because it's years for me. But somebody with a healthy sex life/past should be able to. Umm no, just because it has been years for you doesn't mean you are more allowed to have casual sex. Double standard much? Since I can get sex easily it is wrong for me to take it but since you can't it is ok, o rly?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 This is a bit of a complicated question to answer. A man's numbers use to matter to me. But what really matters more is his current mind frame then his past numbers. Is he still at a place where he is racking up numbers or is he at a place where he is now more discriminate and just doesn't sleep with every woman because he can. Where he treats sex more seriously. Because people change. They aren't always who they were in their younger years. So if I met a guy that racked up numbers while young but was more discriminate as he wa now older, and put more stock in a solid relationship, that is worth more then just a simple answer of high numbers vs low numbers. Overall, I don't want to be with the type of man that is in the current mind frame that he needs to take every sexual "oppurtunity" offered to him. I want a man that will exercise some self control. As for the reverse, I could and have easily dated men with very low numbers.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Oh you would if I offered you, believe me Good thing for both of us that'll never happen.
somedude81 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Umm no, just because it has been years for you doesn't mean you are more allowed to have casual sex. Double standard much? Since I can get sex easily it is wrong for me to take it but since you can't it is ok, o rly? Willpower. As I said before, I'd expect somebody with a healthy sexual past to be able to refrain from casual sex. I'd also point out that I haven't gotten my basic needs met and I doubt that it's the same for you.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Casual sex is "bad"? Who knew. WHY??? Personally, I would not ask for the number, unless it came up as part of an interesting conversation. I don't know how many women my husband has slept with, but I believe I have a higher number than he does. Mine is not super high, either. And no, he does not care. 1
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 I'd also point out that I haven't gotten my basic needs met and I doubt that it's the same for you. Well not recently but its not like I am out there having casual sex right now so I guess my argument is void. I have will power. I usually go a good 8 months with out sex. However I am not against casual sex, just not with random people if that makes sense.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Willpower. As I said before, I'd expect somebody with a healthy sexual past to be able to refrain from casual sex. So, just so I understand … If a woman you found very attractive really wanted to have hot, wet, wild sex with you and used every trick in her book to seduce you … you would exert your willpower, and refrain from having casual sex with her?
SmileFace Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 So, just so I understand … If a woman you found very attractive really wanted to have hot, wet, wild sex with you and used every trick in her book to seduce you … you would exert your willpower, and refrain from having casual sex with her? No he is allowed to have casual sex with her since his needs haven't been met. Obviously. Be reasonable Chaucer 1
somedude81 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 So, just so I understand … If a woman you found very attractive really wanted to have hot, wet, wild sex with you and used every trick in her book to seduce you … you would exert your willpower, and refrain from having casual sex with her? Before I answer your question, answer one of mine. Do you think I've had a healthy sexual past?
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Oh, okay. Thanks for clearing that up. If a woman is sexually frustrated, though, she should refrain?
somedude81 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Oh man, I'm just cracking up over here Oh, okay. Thanks for clearing that up. If a woman is sexually frustrated, though, she should refrain? A sexually frustrated woman, what's that?
Queen Zenobia Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Casual sex is "bad"? Who knew. WHY??? I grew up in a very conservative culture where sex outside of marriage is extremely frowned upon. Sex itself isn't bad, but outside the bonds of marriage it is. I ended up a bit of a "rebel" and had sex with my boyfriend (who is now my fiance). Given all that, I think it's best to keep sex within the realm of committed relationships. It's much more healthy and makes sense more enjoyable and meaningful.
aj22one Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Haha. The dudes in here are right in my book. haha So, just so I understand … If a woman you found very attractive really wanted to have hot, wet, wild sex with you and used every trick in her book to seduce you … you would exert your willpower, and refrain from having casual sex with her? Yeah I would and have. Those days are likely behind me though.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 So, just so I understand … If a woman you found very attractive really wanted to have hot, wet, wild sex with you and used every trick in her book to seduce you … you would exert your willpower, and refrain from having casual sex with her? If I thought there was zero chance of me ever seriously dating her? Yes. How is that hard to understand?
kaylan Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 (edited) When you grow up and get older than 14, you find that people don't ask those stupid questions anymore. All of us have had sex partners ask us "how many" before, but those questions don't get asked by adults over 18. Every woman I have slept with, with the exception of 1, has asked my number. Some girls I hadnt even slept with asked me. So your statement is very untrue. I ask women the same question as well. This question is such a double standard. I'm betting that the vast majority of women would not answer truthfully. And that's because they know that their number is too high. My guess is that most women around 30 have been with at least 15 guys, and that's just bad. Your kidding right? At 30 years old, 15 partners is fine. Say she lost her virginity at 16 or 17. Shes averaging a little over 1 partner a year. Whats the big deal? Thats HARDLY skanky. Not at all. Itd be different if she was like 21 and racked up a number that high in a couple of years. I think it's just as bad if a guy has a high number. Though if a guys number is high, he had to work for it. A girl, lets just say she didn't... Getting sex is not as much work as you think =P And guys get stigmatized for sleeping around too little. Both are well deserved stigmas. Both genders get stigmatized for being whores or virgins nowadays. People need to just keep it moving and not give a fudge. Do you and Ill do me. Simple. Edited February 21, 2012 by kaylan 1
ScreamingTrees Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Holy ****, I didn't think I had NO relationship experience, but a partner a year? Huh. That's the batting average nowadays? I didn't realize everybody was hooking up around me. ****.
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