xztjohn Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 (edited) plz read this i know its a little long. to keep a long story short, i was the first to dump her but wanted her back. her roomie who was a guy took advantage of the situation an did all these nice things to get with her. throughout that whole period i tried my best by not contacting but she always contact me by email, phone an text. during that time span we hooked up like 2 or 3 times while they were dating. first one she came over we talked and got seduced and second it was my fault when she said she had sex with him i wanted to see her and we had emotional sex that night, that was myfault. days after we did it i said it is really over between us. thats when she wanted me back sooo bad and wanted to get back with me. i refused and just ignored her for a month not responding to her. after the month i saw her and we chatted and i got my old feelings back and i wanyted jer back which she refused. so its been almost a month now she still txts me twice saying "i hope urdoing well" and "hey can ucall me? i need help on a hw." i didnt respond to her first one but responded to her second one by text cause infelt guilty that she helped me with hw when we broke up. she said he is ugly but he treats her well an that she doesnt really love him like she did with me. he does so much for her and takes her out to fancy restaurants an stuff. he seems obsessed with her cause all of his fb wall is like all about her. its been 3 months now. i know i shouldnt care but just please aswer my question. is this a rebound? will they last? iwhy she still contacts me? im just curious for ur guys opinion on the whole situation and i have been doing alot better now and in a happier place. im just curious. Edited February 20, 2012 by xztjohn
NopeNah Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Sounds like a user to me..him for fancy dinners,gifts,ect.. you for hw, emotional tampon,ect..cut her out of your life.
Author xztjohn Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 i think the hw was a way to get me to talk to her because her hw questions were lame like. when does the grades come out, whats the average, and do u remember this question. i ignored her for awhile and i think she knew that i would respond with her with this. i think she jus genuiley miss me. those questions he asked anyone could have helped her. we have been dating little over 1 and a half years btw. more opinions plz.
NopeNah Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I'm sure she does miss you....but...she's still with him! She should have asked someone else those ?'s not you..don't let her have you both at her feet doing whatever she feels like..be a man..have strength and stick up for yourself! There's no motive behind this except she's selfish.
Author xztjohn Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 she seemed to insis that i call her i just texted her. what u guys think she is doing?
Author xztjohn Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 yeah ima just continue to ignore her. only reason i helped was cause after we broke up i asked for hw help which she helped me immensely so i felt really guilty if i did not help her. plus when we were together she helped me alot with my classes when i was having a real tough time woth it :/
rach24680 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Seems like you both only want each other when you cant have each other. It seems like shes using this guy to make you jealous too. People break up for reasins not for nothing, think about if u want to be with her if she wasnt with the other guy, its not about being guilty! good luck!
veggirl Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 ew please keep ignoring her. Don't feel bad for her. She wants to have her cake (this guy who buys her stuff and fawns over her) and eat it too (you on the wings). Don't let her use you like that! She is a huge cheater!
Author xztjohn Posted February 21, 2012 Author Posted February 21, 2012 i know i shouldnt care but do you guys think what she has with him is real? would you classify it as a rebound? they started goin out days after a year and a half relationship. i just see alot of downsides to it like they didnt meet on good grounds and plus they are roommates in a household with 3 other girls and 3 other guys. i remember they established a rule that there would be no roomie relationship.......and look what happens lol
Follower Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 Your grasping at straws mate, move on, you need to learn to not care what she is doing, easy advice to give extremely hard to follow but keep working at it!
Author xztjohn Posted February 21, 2012 Author Posted February 21, 2012 yeah i think abou herfrom time to time. sometimes it just hits me and i think about her alot. i also check her fb sometimes i need to stop that cause i end up getting hurt and think about it alot if i see something i dont like. can you guys answer this question, would you consider this a rebound relationship?
Author xztjohn Posted February 21, 2012 Author Posted February 21, 2012 the guy seems real obsessed with her he took her to six flags and they got a hotel and stuff. he probably spent most his money on it. i know i shouldnt care but it makes me little jealous since i didnt take her out to do stuff like that cause i dont hav a car. we r both 20 years old btw
EgoJoe Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 It sounds like he doesn't stack up to you. Try this when she contacts you. Make fun of her and then tell her how/when/where she can go to figure out her HW issue. Whether you want her back or not doing this will rebuild your confidence. She is your Ex, she is with someone else and she is not your problem. But, you can have a little fun at her expense. Let me give you a tip: Young women are clueless and at the mercy of their emotions. A lot of the things they do that seem evil, malicious etc. are just their selfish motivations. It is not an excuse, just the way it is.
Author xztjohn Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 i think you hit it right on the head with the manipulation thing. i felt she got manipulated by that guy during a time when she was most vulnerable. what does hw issue mean anyways?
Author xztjohn Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 hey egojoe u seem veryknowledgable about this stuff. is there a way we can talk ore in private?
Author xztjohn Posted February 22, 2012 Author Posted February 22, 2012 hey egojoe u seem very knowledgable about this stuff. is there ant way we can talk more in private?
Author xztjohn Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 i dont know whats going on with me these past couple of days ive been thinking about her a bit. so i couldnt help it so i checked her fb and saw she went to six flags with that guy, i have her blocked btw and my friend left his fb on so i got really curious and just checked her wall. i was studying and decided to long board to catch some air and longboarded to where she works which i found her new bf there. i saw him from far away but he didn see me. just kinda hit me how i got replaced like that u know? i used to be the one sitting there in her work place. its been 3 months now, its getting alot better but a part of me still misses her why???
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