drama6 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I posted this also on dating forum with no bites, thought maybe more appropriate on this sub forum. Need help calming my fears. I noticed that this woman was looking at my profile on Linkedin and did not know her. I noticed that she lives in a town 5 hours away from me. Then noticed she is in same industry as husband.. hmmm? Asked husband if he recognized name, he said yes I have to see her when I go to that town on business. Then later told me he has only seen her about 3 or 4 times for business and has no clue why she would look me up. (change of story) So my husband travels up there every other week for business for a few days...always has drinks and dinners (not uncommon for his job) Btw husband and I do have an infidelity past. Ladies we are all stalkers at some point.... but think about the times you yourself have stalked. Okay maybe she is not stalking.. but still. Should I investigate this further?
bentnotbroken Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 The last time I remember stalking.....I was 18 years old. I guess I am odd. Stalkerish behaviors are for the insecure or unbalanced IMO.
SidLyon Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I read your earlier posts from more than 2 years ago. Did you ever find out whether or not your H and your friend were in an affair? If so how did you reconcile/rebuild your marriage? Did you just rug sweep? If he's got form, and you didn't ever get to the bottom of what happened back then, then it's possible he's at it again. Sorry I can't help with calming your fears because they may well be justified. 1
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 I posted this also on dating forum with no bites, thought maybe more appropriate on this sub forum. Need help calming my fears. I noticed that this woman was looking at my profile on Linkedin and did not know her. I noticed that she lives in a town 5 hours away from me. Then noticed she is in same industry as husband.. hmmm? Asked husband if he recognized name, he said yes I have to see her when I go to that town on business. Then later told me he has only seen her about 3 or 4 times for business and has no clue why she would look me up. (change of story) So my husband travels up there every other week for business for a few days...always has drinks and dinners (not uncommon for his job) Btw husband and I do have an infidelity past. Ladies we are all stalkers at some point.... but think about the times you yourself have stalked. Okay maybe she is not stalking.. but still. Should I investigate this further? Bolded part..Care to expand on this? You both have cheated? or he has cheated, or you just have cheated? Your red flag went up, rightfully so.. I would definately talk to him about this and find out what is going on, watch his reactions closely.
18Years2Late Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 So how can u see if someone is simply viewing your LinkedIn page? Please share...that would b good to know...I got an email 2 weeks ago from linkedIn suggesting people I might want to connect with...out of the blue there's xMM's pic staring at me top of the page...does that mean he's viewing mine or is there another way to tell?...I don't think he is...I'm sure it's W using his acct if so...bc I blocked her from my FB page bc she was continuously trying to change my password...I never ever use LinkedIn...and xMM & I not in same industry at all...don't even live in same state...
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 If someone is logged into their account and they view your page, their name will appear that they took a peak. It is possible that your exMM has looked at your page. Hopefully someone else can answer you with more details on this. (Though maybe you should block him if it's possible.)
18Years2Late Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 If someone is logged into their account and they view your page, their name will appear that they took a peak. It is possible that your exMM has looked at your page. Hopefully someone else can answer you with more details on this. (Though maybe you should block him if it's possible.) I didn't know I could do this...but I checked and u were right...however I have one "anonymous" member who looked...guess I'll just have to assume who that was and I'll probably be right...that explains the daily email which suddenly showed xMM's page for no apparent reason...uuuugh...will she ever stop?...I don't think blocking is possible but like I said I RARELY use LinkedIn...all I have in it is my name, position, and where I'm employed...no pic...nothing else...so I guess she can look all she wants...she did send me one of her random psycho texts a month or 2 ago and said "I wonder if your new employer would like to know what u did?"...that makes total sense now as well...not good but I guess I deserve it...
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 all I have in it is my name, position, and where I'm employed...no pic...nothing else... Is it important to keep the account? If yes, then change your settings to private and only those who are on your list can see all details. It could be your exMM, not his wife. There's no proof (unless her name shows up) who it is behind the screen.
MissBee Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 I posted this also on dating forum with no bites, thought maybe more appropriate on this sub forum. Need help calming my fears. I noticed that this woman was looking at my profile on Linkedin and did not know her. I noticed that she lives in a town 5 hours away from me. Then noticed she is in same industry as husband.. hmmm? Asked husband if he recognized name, he said yes I have to see her when I go to that town on business. Then later told me he has only seen her about 3 or 4 times for business and has no clue why she would look me up. (change of story) So my husband travels up there every other week for business for a few days...always has drinks and dinners (not uncommon for his job) Btw husband and I do have an infidelity past. Ladies we are all stalkers at some point.... but think about the times you yourself have stalked. Okay maybe she is not stalking.. but still. Should I investigate this further? Are you trying to ascertain whether or not your husband is having an affair? If so, I think you should watch him further and not her...it's a lot easier to notice your husband's actions than gain much information about her. Unless you were to contact her or something and ask her outright if she's having an affair with him...lookign her up won't glean much, as he has already admitted to knowing her. You know him...you know his history...if you're suspicious...there may be a good reason. But what to do with your suspicion is the question. Take it up with him or be more observant of him and his behavior.....if you can't trust him and if you have to investigate beyond his words, that's already a problem that needs addressing.
KathyM Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 It could be that she is interested in your husband and nothing has come from that. I wouldn't automatically assume he might be cheating on you with her. I wouldn't suggest you question your spouse any further. He's not likely to be truthful if there is something going on. Just keep your radar up, and maybe check his phone records from time to time to see if there is anything suspicious on there when he's out of town. Just to put your mind at ease, or to pick up on something that might be there, since he has had a history of unfaithfulness. So what I'm saying is, it might be nothing, but it wouldn't hurt to do a little investigating of the phone records when he's out of town, just in case.
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