Ash23 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Ok so, this is a pretty long story, with a pretty long history so I'll try to be brief! Seven years ago (Yes, 7!) I met this man out.I ended up going back to his house, and I never forgot him. I met him subsequently after that but it was only a one night stand really. Although, he wasn't like a normal one night stand. He was really loving and tender. Anyway, I became friends with him on facebook, but we're not in contact that much. He likes a few of my posts, and me, likewise, his. Last week, he tagged me in a music video of a song. When I went to check which song, he had deleted it! So, I sent him a message asking what the song was, and he said it was a Spanish version of "Perhaps Perhaps Perhaps." Maybe my mind is going into overdrive, but the lyrics to that song are very suggestive. Anyway, he said he had deleted it by mistake...hmmm.... So after that we had a small conversation just about life and what I was up to now, etc, and his replies were full of emoticons. I thought about him every day since I met him and I still do. I don't know why this is. I have been with a few other men but no one ever came close to the feeling I got when I was with him. So, after discussing this with some friends, they told me to take the first step, and ask him for a coffee or something! So I texted him on Valentines Day (it wasn't deliberate, It just felt like the right time). After waiting agonisingly long between texts from him, we agreed to go for a few drinks last Saturday. I thought the date went well. He maintained good eye contact, and he wasn't glancing around or any of that. He seemed nervous at the start, he was drinking his drinks really fast! However, he was playing with his phone a few times, and I did mention it, and he kinda laughed guiltily! Anyway, I'm not sure if he thought the date was an actual romantic date, or a "friends" date, but we went to three different bars and were out for nearly 5 hours together. After the second bar, he was like "do you want to go somewhere else or do you have to go home?" He had mentioned that a friend of his wanted to meet up, and he did, about a half hour before I went home. So we were chatting away, I felt at ease and he was really after opening up at this stage, and his friend mentioned to me when my date went to get a drink that "he seemed really excited!" Now...here's where it gets a bit confusing.... I had to go at 11 to drive home, and the two guys offered to walk me to my car. Then my date just detours into a chipper to use the loo. I had to go too so I went in after him (to the ladies!). His friend was ordering a burger at the time. When I came out, his friend was still there but no sign of my date. His friend had a missed call from him but when we tried calling him back, there was no answer. I have to admit, he was after getting a bit merry at this stage! The friend walked me to my car and I went home. I haven't heard anything from him since, and I don't wanna be the first one to text or call. He seemed to have enjoyed his time with me, and I presume he would have left sooner in the night if things were going badly? I really really like him. I've liked him for years, and I can't believe he actually agreed to go out with me even! But now..I'm so anxious waiting for him to call. Should I just be patient with him and ride it out? Do you think he is interested and simply didn't see us in the chipper so presumed we had left?
TigerCub Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Even if he presumed that you left - if he cared, he would have at least texted you to find out. I'm sorry, but it doesn't sound like he's interested. Don't initiate anything else with him.
veggirl Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Okay...well.... 1- You had to wait agonizingly long to set up a date 2- He essentially brought a friend on your date 3- He disappeared at the end of the date 4- You haven't heard from him since :o It's not looking good, OP, sorry. Don't reach out to him again, he's just not interested. In fact, I'd be livid that he disappeared at the end of the date and would write him off myself just for that.
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