Freddys Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Hi people, A few days ago suddenly met this woman on the street and she was so cold(!). She didn't even want to shake hands and her choice surprised me a lot. We had a quick chat and then she started walking away . . . I felt really annoyed from her attitude (I gave her no reason to act this way) and some hours later I called her to ask if everything is ok and what's the reason to behave like this . . . I asked her if I did something that bothered her that much (?!) and at first she said she acts this way when she is tired and other generic stuff. And then she said: "Well, I don't feel something for you and I don't want to give you fake hopes or something" She surprised me saying this, and I said to her there wasn't no reason telling me these things . . but she insisted that she wanted to tell me no matter what. I felt really frustrated having her telling me these things for reason at all. . . The fact is that we did speak on the phone some days earlier before I suddenly met her but she wasn't cold or something at all, we had a good phone talking for an hour. *We have been seeing - contacting each other for months now, there were some private moments but truth is that things didn't move forward. **I never pushed her emotionally or physically and I believe there was no reason for her to act this way. ***Well, the fact is she was giving me many hopes but I didn't grab some chances. Why she choosed this way to turned me down . . we were somewhat cold anyway since things didn't work for both of us. How do I act from now on in case we meet again suddenly? Was it wrong to call and ask her why all this attitude?
Cracker Jack Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Her acting this way likely had nothing to do with you. There was simply nothing there and she probably was annoyed by it or something. You're better off knowing this, anyway, since you won't have to continue wondering. Don't focus on meeting her again at this point--just focus on moving on and meeting another woman.
Emilia Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 She doesn't want to date you, she doesn't want a relationship with you. She isn't interested in you romantically, move on. 2
Author Freddys Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 She doesn't want to date you, she doesn't want a relationship with you. She isn't interested in you romantically, move on. We did date a lot the past months, we both wanted a relationship, she was interested BUT things didn't work cause both we played games. It was obvious things didn't work and I find no reason for her to act that way, I felt really annoyed having myself on this sudden situation . . I didn't ask her on a date or something when we last talked on the phone, and I made her obvious I didn't want to date her either. . . She could just be friendly . . .
Emilia Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 We did date a lot the past months, we both wanted a relationship, she was interested BUT things didn't work cause both we played games. It was obvious things didn't work and I find no reason for her to act that way, I felt really annoyed having myself on this sudden situation . . I didn't ask her on a date or something when we last talked on the phone, and I made her obvious I didn't want to date her either. . . She could just be friendly . . . She doesn't want to be reminded of any of it and just wants to move on.
Author Freddys Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 She doesn't want to be reminded of any of it and just wants to move on. Yes, I may agree with you . . Note that last time we spoke via phone she said we should go a trip together later this year . . (!!) Does anything make sense to you? And then suddenly I receive this attitude. Well, she doesn't want to be reminded of any of it cause she is under a major health issue and I said I could be anything to her no matter the problem, but later on her expectations went down cause of my passive attitude to her femininity. Her "anger" I received when we met still hurts me . .
Author Freddys Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 She wasnt attracted to you OP. Simple She was, now she isn't anymore. We had some private moments together, we 've been dated for months now with friends, but I was mistaken not to grab the chances she gave me and she ended frustrated and angry with me.
kaylan Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 If she was attracted to you things would have moved forward. She would of either jumped your bones and made super obvious signals that you should jump her. Again, she wasnt attracted to you. Keep it moving and dont dwell on this.
Author Freddys Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 If she was attracted to you things would have moved forward. She would of either jumped your bones and made super obvious signals that you should jump her. Again, she wasnt attracted to you. Keep it moving and dont dwell on this. Kaylan, the fact is she did super obvious signals . . . That's why I find myself guilty enough for things didn't move on.
Emilia Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Kaylan, the fact is she did super obvious signals . . . That's why I find myself guilty enough for things didn't move on. I remember your threads about her. The two of you are not compatible, that's all. You need to meet a girl who takes things a little slower because that's what you are more comfortable with. Don't beat yourself up over this, she is more aggressive, you are not. Find a girl who is similar to you, that's all.
Author Freddys Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 I remember your threads about her. The two of you are not compatible, that's all. You need to meet a girl who takes things a little slower because that's what you are more comfortable with. Don't beat yourself up over this, she is more aggressive, you are not. Find a girl who is similar to you, that's all. Hey Emilia, thanks for your support. Yes now you can remember of her via my posts. Well, me being so passive doesn't make her too aggressive, she was normal. And to be honest she was trying to make things beat to my rhythm but then again I was acting either cool or aloof. Maybe, isn't healthy enough to feel guilty myself but that's the truth. I can understand her attitude but then again didn't expected to act that way. Well Emilia, when a woman doesn't want to be reminded of you, sounds hard.
Emilia Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Hey Emilia, thanks for your support. Yes now you can remember of her via my posts. Well, me being so passive doesn't make her too aggressive, she was normal. And to be honest she was trying to make things beat to my rhythm but then again I was acting either cool or aloof. Maybe, isn't healthy enough to feel guilty myself but that's the truth. I can understand her attitude but then again didn't expected to act that way. Well Emilia, when a woman doesn't want to be reminded of you, sounds hard. I meant aggressive compared to you. None of us want to deal with the past to tell you the truth. Not until a certain amount of time has passed. I always want my exes to get lost for a while before getting back in contact again. It's too disturbing otherwise. It's not whether it's healthy, it's just not your fault. Human nature
Author Freddys Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 I meant aggressive compared to you. None of us want to deal with the past to tell you the truth. Not until a certain amount of time has passed. I always want my exes to get lost for a while before getting back in contact again. It's too disturbing otherwise. It's not whether it's healthy, it's just not your fault. Human nature Truth is I really wanted to offer her many things, and her health issue didn't matter to me at all (Is a very serious illness). Perhaps, when you have so many dreams already in your mind things get blowed away in a "sec" without even you realizing it. . . Her ex's dumped her because of the health issue, and now she had to do the same with me because I wasn't that strong enough to move things forward. Wish I could go back in time for just once...and I mean it. She wanted it so much.
Emilia Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Truth is I really wanted to offer her many things, and her health issue didn't matter to me at all (Is a very serious illness). Perhaps, when you have so many dreams already in your mind things get blowed away in a "sec" without even you realizing it. . . Her ex's dumped her because of the health issue, and now she had to do the same with me because I wasn't that strong enough to move things forward. Wish I could go back in time for just once...and I mean it. She wanted it so much. Everything happens for a reason. I truly believe that.
FitChick Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 How should you act if you accidentally meet her in public again? The same way you would with a neighbor or co-worker. Be polite, keep the meeting brief and walk away.
Author Freddys Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 How should you act if you accidentally meet her in public again? The same way you would with a neighbor or co-worker. Be polite, keep the meeting brief and walk away. Where we accidentally met was a totally lonely place . . . outside a city building. I suppose she couldn't avoid me that evening, in case she could avoid me she would do it for sure. But anyway, I was polite that day and my talking was brief, and for sure I had no pressure to her at all. I'm afraid next time happens to meet she won't talk to me at all. I'll be careful and try to avoid pumping heads cause I'll get hurt even more. Things were cold anyway, and she had no reason to act and say what she said. In my opinion, she wanted an ego boost so she feels some power to dump me "official".
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