harkkam Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Im a 25 y.o single male and something about a blog I read just bothered me and mad me almost angry at all women in general but I know better than painting everyone with the same brush. Thats why I came here to get some help on my opinions on dating itself. This is the blog I read btw 2011 November « Misadventures in Cleveland Dating It just seems that this woman's opinion of men is very poor and she commonly refers to men that don't meet her standards as "losers" and that bothers me because quite frankly she has no right to demean other people just because they don't fit her idea of what she finds attractive. I have seen other women refer to men as "losers" if they don't have XYZ traits and what not and I think to myself, "What in turn makes you a great catch, the authority to label others as losers" When I don't like a woman, I just think "Okay I didn't like her and thats okay, on to the next one" I also see the word confidence thrown around quite often, as an attractive quality but I equate confidence to a very primal ability to defend your territory in physical combat. But most women see confidence on a surface level and really has a very undefined definition to the point where they don't understand it themselves. I feel like the label of confidence that is given to some men, and not others boils down to showmanship, can you make her laugh, can you say things without really caring what others say, can you puff your chest and walk around and be loud and brash. Unfortunately if you are a quite soul reserved and yet brave ready to defend your's and your loved ones its interpreted as weakness. So bottom line, I know what true confidence is, but what does "confidence" mean to women? I read an article about a 23 year old woman that used men on dating sites to buy her meals and one person's stupidity doesn't bother me, but there were at least 20 women comments that were supporting her. Comments like "the sex was blah so worthless" and "he was so boring yeesh he should be lucky I'm spending time with him" and "Another dud" These comments made by women just irritate me I just get this feeling that for some reason women feel superior to men and its upsetting me and how I look at women. I feel like women believe their beauty gives them value, making them more valuable then a man. If you go to a club or bar this type of attitude is very obvious. I counteract it by not giving any special treatment to attractive women, I treat all women the same because I don't believe attraction can make one person inherently more valuable than another person. I guess what I'm looking for is some comfort that there are woman out there who are sweet, gentle and don't saying things like "XYZ is great in bed and I think I love him, I'm left wondering where he learned all this" this comment bothers me when this woman has slept with 20+ guys over a ten year span and boils love down to sex. Quite frankly I think its because I know men act that way, I know men who routinely say "Man that girl knew how to F*ck, I think I'll keep her around" and it bothers me when women act like that. I don't want a woman that acts like men, I don't act like men today and talk about woman like men do. I refuse to have one nights stands, I believe in relationships and have had three in my life so far. Are there woman out there that are gentle, kind and little reserved and don't act "empowered" because quite frankly this women in the blog above is repulsive to me. I just feel discouraged to even try and look for a "good" woman if this is what society is becoming. Not saying men are perfect, I just want to know if there is enough women out there who aren't like that woman who wrote that blog
Leigh 87 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 a lot of people are arseholes. Deal with it. The important thing, is that your not one, and there ARE enough people for u to associate with, that also are not A holes.... it saddens me, the way people are like this too. However, I simply feel sorry for them, as I re ally feel that kind hearted people have a more rich life. I like your attitude, of how u do not treat attractive women any differently. So u shouldn't. It is why so many beautiful women feel entitled and feel they deserve things, because they are better to look at. I think, in this day and age, womens agression and flippant attitude regarding men, and such remarks as " ah, he was ok" or " yeah, he is pretty good, but it is just early days... besides, I am still looking at my own options ( TRANSLATES: I have feelings and hope he feels the same about me) This attitude comes down to a coping mechanism: to protect themselves and make them super cool and, to some extent, women in todays age DO have options, and like to keep them open before settling down.... Personally, I am a little above average and get guys wanting me regularly, yet I would NEVER. NEVER refer to guys in this manner... I would NOT tell my friends if he was bad in bed, and I would only talk about them in a positive way.... Although, I am of the belief, that if u have nothingnice to say, DON"T SAY IT. Seams like people in general, waste a lot of energy saying nasty or negative things asbout people. For purpose. What a waste:) Me? I move on if not interested. I would not broadcast it to my friends, even if he had a really small dick or something that WOULD make people react. I get off on being a nice person, and feel ashamed when I lower myself to the level of talking about others down points, as a means to connect with people. People are just b*tches, I say.
Seneca Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 So bottom line, I know what true confidence is, but what does "confidence" mean to women? To answer your question. I think it is a guy who has the balls to walk up and talk to a woman. As for the ladie's blog... I found it rather entertaining. Hilarious at some points. I'm not really bothered by her use of calling men losers, that's her own opinion. Albeit, it's a little rude but she has a right to say what she wants.
Woggle Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 This is why in my darker moments I have admired players. I figure at least if you are playing them they are not playing you. I know how wrong it is but it is a knee jerk reaction. I also notice that she complains about the death of chivalry on here blog. If she wants to know where it went look in the mirror. People like her are why men are such cheapskates these days.
Emilia Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I just feel discouraged to even try and look for a "good" woman if this is what society is becoming. Not saying men are perfect, I just want to know if there is enough women out there who aren't like that woman who wrote that blog Are you sure you are 25? You sound like someone twice your age. There are 7 billion people on this planet, we are all different. I'm sure there are plenty of women who fit within your old-fashioned good woman image too. Perhaps it's time to quit complaining, suck it up and just keep looking?
thatone Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 just read the blog the OP is talking about for about 20 minutes and thought it was great, actually. lighten up, OP.
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