classdude Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 So I'm a gay guy and I met this guy who's really nice and very similar to me. We both bluntly state that we are extremely attracted to one another. We had a really nice night talking and had some fun with making out and stuff...but obviously thinking back I regret some stupid little comments that I might have made or said (I told him that I was "falling for him", even though I knew it was too soon..). At the end of the night he walked me back to my car we kissed on the lips. The next day I texted him telling him that last night was really nice and he responded saying that it was very nice and enjoyed having me over and that he'll let me know the next time we can hang out. Would you think that he is still interested and would want to pursue something? How should I go about doing this? Should I ask him to hang out again? Any suggestions would be great...thanks! Sincerely, a very nervous dater.....lol
veggirl Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Well, was it a first date / hang out? If so, saying "I'm falling for you" was too much, but it's not something you can't recover from. Hold off from making statements like that... Him saying "I'll let you know when you can come over" or whatever is a little "huh?" but maybe he didn't mean it the way it came out. When did you last talk to or see him? I say give it a few days and see if you can set something up for the weekend. If he responds less than enthusiastically, you pretty much have your answer. No need to play games by forcing him to come to you, I see nothing wrong with cautiously putting yourself out there / initiating, but it should be balanced between the 2 of you. If you find yourself putting in more effort, then he is not as interested as you'd like him to be and you should cut your losses.
Author classdude Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 Well, was it a first date / hang out? If so, saying "I'm falling for you" was too much, but it's not something you can't recover from. Hold off from making statements like that... Him saying "I'll let you know when you can come over" or whatever is a little "huh?" but maybe he didn't mean it the way it came out. When did you last talk to or see him? I say give it a few days and see if you can set something up for the weekend. If he responds less than enthusiastically, you pretty much have your answer. No need to play games by forcing him to come to you, I see nothing wrong with cautiously putting yourself out there / initiating, but it should be balanced between the 2 of you. If you find yourself putting in more effort, then he is not as interested as you'd like him to be and you should cut your losses. It was definitely a "hang out," two days ago. And he did in fact use a smiley face in the text if that means anything... Do you think I should wait for him to text/contact me first or should I make the first text?
veggirl Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Okay, 2 days ago isn't long at all! I think it's okay to initiate, but I think you should wait a couple days from now! And initiate with specific plans in mind, ask him to do something, don't just be all "hey hows it going"
TigerCub Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I actually don't think you should initiate anything at all because: 1. you said I'm falling for you on the very 1st make out/ hangout 2. he said I'll let you know - which to mean implies, leave it to me, I'll get back to you. If you initiate anything, he may think you're being too clingy because of the "I'm falling for you" thing. This right here, is kinda the test - if you contact him too soon, and want to do stuff, it'll just prove to him that you're so head over heals for him and that you're clingy. Let him come to you. If he doesn't, maybe that says something, because after all, he knows where you stand. Good luck, I hope he gets back to you soon
Author classdude Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 I actually don't think you should initiate anything at all because: 1. you said I'm falling for you on the very 1st make out/ hangout 2. he said I'll let you know - which to mean implies, leave it to me, I'll get back to you. If you initiate anything, he may think you're being too clingy because of the "I'm falling for you" thing. This right here, is kinda the test - if you contact him too soon, and want to do stuff, it'll just prove to him that you're so head over heals for him and that you're clingy. Let him come to you. If he doesn't, maybe that says something, because after all, he knows where you stand. Good luck, I hope he gets back to you soon I feel the same way. I let my emotions get the best of me...ugh. I was stupid and you learn from your mistakes. But hopefully he'll overcome that error, or maybe he doesn't even remember it because we talked so much afterward. Thanks for the input, Tigercub.
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