Author insertnamehere Posted February 23, 2012 Author Posted February 23, 2012 You don't respect her so a relationship is out of the question. . . . By the way, FWB is a relationship, no matter what sticker people put on it. I know. Do you know how many people on this forum would kill to be in your shoes? I know. Then get her a purse or something. Never consent to putting a label on the relationship. I'd suggest not buying a gift every time you bang her. Maybe once every couple months. FTR and from experience, the trick to FWB with gold diggers is to never buy them anything. You would be astonished how many of them melt when a man asserts control over his money. Gold diggers can be a lot weirder than guys expect. A lot of them actually lose it completely for a guy who can tell them no. Fact is, there aren't a lot of women who are 100% in it for the money. Gold diggers, in my experience, break up in to two groups. There are the old school princesses, who haven't had a man tell them no since they hit puberty. And there are the women who see wealth as inherently hypermasculine, a reaction not dissimilar to how men respond to physical cues of hyperfemininity such as soft skin, large breasts, hip-to-waist ratio, etc. As much as people will see some short, fat, hairy old guy in a nice suit with a trophy wife and reflexively assume she must be screwing him for his money, you'd be surprised. My brother does construction and one of his steadier clients is a guy who owns a small defense contractor and is the type of guy I just described. Here's the kicker -- the trophy wife is a CEO of a different company! So, why would she need the money? My point? Not all gold digging is about gaining material wealth. You can't blame women for the behavior. Women get a raw deal with regard to the fact that "masculine" is a much more ephemeral thing than "feminine". Wow . . . that was a long digression. Especially considering I don't much think my Puerto Rican gal is a full-on gold digger. Honestly, I think she's mostly just disappointed with guys her own age.
RecordProducer Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Besides, I think most people confuse "perfect" with "perfect for me". If we all thought about "perfect for me" then I think our attitudes towards finding a partner would be very different. Yes, but I am perfect and therefore, a perfect for me partner must be perfect, as well. Joke on aside, people do describe and think of "perfect" as perfect for me. For example, I might be disgusted by a high-school dropout, with a criminal record, who curses all the time and is tattoed all over; however, a person who is like that herself will think of him as a great guy - she won't care about your clean cut doctor or lawyer living a suburban life and going to museums or reading books (without pictures). Probably the only department where people don't always apply the perfect for me concept is looks.
FrustratedStandards Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Yes, but I am perfect and therefore, a perfect for me partner must be perfect, as well. Joke on aside, people do describe and think of "perfect" as perfect for me. For example, I might be disgusted by a high-school dropout, with a criminal record, who curses all the time and is tattoed all over; however, a person who is like that herself will think of him as a great guy - she won't care about your clean cut doctor or lawyer living a suburban life and going to museums or reading books (without pictures). Probably the only department where people don't always apply the perfect for me concept is looks. You have a point. In my case though, the "looks" are what is the problem most of the time LOL I have met decent and great men but the fact that they're not attractive is what kills it half the time (the other half being they have kids). I thought men were more picky with a woman's looks? By that I mean they want a woman with this or with that, but as i've recently learned they would rather settle for less because they are a) afraid of rejection or b) don't want the competition. Which is another thing I just DONT get. Don't men WANT other guys to look at their girl and acknowledge that she's great? Doesn't that make a guy proud? What guy wants to walk around and have guys look at his girl and say "meh she's okay I guess..."
ffw Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Which is another thing I just DONT get. Don't men WANT other guys to look at their girl and acknowledge that she's great? Doesn't that make a guy proud? What guy wants to walk around and have guys look at his girl and say "meh she's okay I guess..." Personally, what important to me is what I think & feel for her rather what other guys think of her.
FrustratedStandards Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 Personally, what important to me is what I think & feel for her rather what other guys think of her. I know, and I get it. But I have seen posters say "I don't want a great beautiful girl because I don't want the competition" or something along the lines of "it would be too much stress thinking that other guys want her too". This really took me by surprise.
ffw Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 I know, and I get it. But I have seen posters say "I don't want a great beautiful girl because I don't want the competition" or something along the lines of "it would be too much stress thinking that other guys want her too". This really took me by surprise. Well, even I am suprise. Smells like insecurity.
eleanorhurting Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 I find your attitude towards hispanics really rude. Do this girl a favor and don't date her if you are going to have such a derogative attitude toward her race/ethnicity.
LovJoy Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 I think he should hit it and quit it....maybe more than ones. Then tell her she is ugly and her vagina smells and it is like a dry doughnut. Should fix all the problems.
Alexanda Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 I didnt even read everything you posted, but I read enough. You just need to completely leave her alone. You two are at different stages in life and you have a lot more life experiences than she does. She should really date guys her own age. I think its a bad idea if you have sex with her and or you date her. You should just leave her alone. Im sure there are some quality women around your age that you could date or have casual sex with if thats what you are looking for.
Author insertnamehere Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 She should really date guys her own age. I don't necessarily disagree, but this is not the pattern of our species at all.
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