Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I sometimes hear both men and women say, "men are simple". But this just hasn't been my own experience. Even this board is a good example of how much more multi-demensional men can be. But I am curious how other people see it. Men, do you consider yourself simple? If so, why? If not, why? Women, do you consider men simple? If so, why? If not, why? I don't consider men simple. I think when we over generalize men like that we give a lot of room for misunderstanding about what men need or who they are. I do think men can be simplier then women sometimes. But I don' think that equates to men being "simple" all around. What do you guys think?
johan Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 In areas where women are complex, men are simple. In areas where women are simple, men are complex. 10
Gold Pile Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 In areas where women are complex, men are simple. In areas where women are simple, men are complex. Well said my green friend, well said.
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Yeah johan pretty much said what I was going to say.
Author Disenchantedly Yours Posted February 19, 2012 Author Posted February 19, 2012 In areas where women are complex, men are simple. In areas where women are simple, men are complex. such as???
johan Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Football. Shopping. Emotions. Talking about things... You name it.
carhill Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Men, do you consider yourself simple? If so, why? If not, why?In my quest to simplify in the new year, I'll opine I'm not, and I think my exW had the best 'explanation', that I'm 'abnormal'. That's it.
Woggle Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I think that men are complex but once you have a man figured out it is pretty easy to please him. It's not that we are simple but more straightforward. 1
Badsingularity Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Women are more complex. The way they become attracted to men as compared to the way men become attracted to women is much more complex. They are also much more complex emotionally.
verhrzn Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Women are more complex. The way they become attracted to men as compared to the way men become attracted to women is much more complex. They are also much more complex emotionally. I'd second this. I think guys may be more complex in the way they approach jobs or success, but when it comes to dating, they want a hot, nice girl who takes care of them, the end.
Krios Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Well as a man I believe in keeping things as uncomplicated as possible. I like simplicity, because life is already complex enough. So I tend to strive to the most simple yet elegant solutions in life. As a man I simply want to be happy, so when people around me unnecessarily complicate things, then that tends to annoy me.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 My husband is. Very very smart, but simple.
xxoo Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 My H is complex in a lot of ways. Our relationship isn't one of them. He is very easy to please. In over 20 years, I don't think he's every been truly angry with me. I wish I could say the same! :love:
Kamille Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I have used the "men are simple" line in situations when a friend and/or LSer were working really hard to make themselves believe that Mr. Unavailable was lying when he told them that he wasn't looking for anything serious. My answer, inevitably, would be: 'Men are simple: they mean what they say. If he says he doesn't want anything serious, he means he doesn't want anything serious'. And, in general, that is one thing I do appreciate about men. When it comes to commitment, they rarely bull**** women. Once that is said, I think humans are complex. I'm not interested in trying to paint all guys with the same brush. There's nothing more enjoyable than getting to know a guy for who he is, discovering what makes him smile and what makes him tick. There's nothing more magical than realizing that what makes a guy unique is precisely what makes a him the right man for me. Gosh, writing this makes me think I'm about ready to get back on the dating scene.
Ninjainpajamas Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 (edited) From my point of view people are very simple. If not it would be extremely difficult to understand them and predict what they'll do and who they are or represent. I'm a call it like I see it kind of person...I just think people have their own ideas about that, most want to believe that generalizing is flawed because one guy likes green instead of blue, or one likes hockey instead of football. I think people hit a wall when their ideals conflict with reality. And the truth is clouded by denial. Because most don't have any kind of explanation to what they believe in other than that's just what they believe or how they feel. People are like every other animal on the planet, they have habits, affecting by their surroundings and environment...their trauma, we're just more complex and able to take it to another level due to our social interaction and ideals of a perfect world. Life is like a movie....and everybody is an actor. Edited February 19, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
kaylan Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 (edited) It all depends on the person. Some men and women are simple, some are more complex. Least thats how I see it. Women are more complex. The way they become attracted to men as compared to the way men become attracted to women is much more complex. They are also much more complex emotionally. I used to think this. But then I started to notice how women respond to a good looking guy almost as bad as dudes respond to good looking chicks. They drool and fall all over themselves just as much haha Edited February 20, 2012 by kaylan
Emilia Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Men, do you consider yourself simple? If so, why? If not, why? Women, do you consider men simple? If so, why? If not, why? I think men are just as complex as women but often more easy going because of peer pressure from other men.
Els Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 In areas where women are complex, men are simple. In areas where women are simple, men are complex. Oh so apt
phineas Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I'm 2nd generation walking upright. LOL! When it comes to women I'm Binary at worst, IF,THEN,ELSE at best.
TheBigQuestion Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Most men will be happy in a relationship if the woman he is with is on the same page with him. What that means is: 1. The woman doesn't view having sex with him as a chore, and doesn't have totally unreasonable hangups with her body and/or with performing plain vanilla sexual acts. An addendum to this is that the frequency of sex doesn't taper off after a few months of being in the relationship. I'm amazed at how many of my male friends put up with having sex with their girlfriends a handful of times a month and try to paint me as the abnormal one for having sex 5 to 7 times a week (despite living 60 miles away from my GF). 2. He feels supported by the woman. In other words, he doesn't get the vibe that the woman will jump ship the second something goes wrong. 3. If you genuinely share at least some of his passions to the same degree that he does, and you don't try to fake the depth of your passion or understanding initially only to reveal that you actually don't care much. You need to have things in common. Some men are more complicated than that, but that depends on the individual. Given that those 3 things and subtle variations of them are the main things a guy feels he needs, I think that men are quite simple overall. I think most women are deceptively simple as well. It's just an unfortunate aspect of modern culture that makes men put the "pussy on a pedestal," for lack of a more refined description, that makes it seem otherwise.
veggirl Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I think that men are complex but once you have a man figured out it is pretty easy to please him. It's not that we are simple but more straightforward. I agree with this. I think straightforward is a great way to put it. I think men are easier to please than women are, does that make them more simple? Eh I don't know about that. Maybe more realistic?
EasyHeart Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 When it comes to dating and relationships, I think men are much more simple in the sense that they analyze things way less. Speaking for myself, the only things I really look for in a girlfriend are (1) is she cute? and (2) is she nice to me. That's pretty much it. I am newly boggled every day when I come to LS and read what latest microanalysis you ladies have subjected your men to. Sheesh!!!
phineas Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Most men will be happy in a relationship if the woman he is with is on the same page with him. What that means is: 1. The woman doesn't view having sex with him as a chore, and doesn't have totally unreasonable hangups with her body and/or with performing plain vanilla sexual acts. An addendum to this is that the frequency of sex doesn't taper off after a few months of being in the relationship. I'm amazed at how many of my male friends put up with having sex with their girlfriends a handful of times a month and try to paint me as the abnormal one for having sex 5 to 7 times a week (despite living 60 miles away from my GF). 2. He feels supported by the woman. In other words, he doesn't get the vibe that the woman will jump ship the second something goes wrong. 3. If you genuinely share at least some of his passions to the same degree that he does, and you don't try to fake the depth of your passion or understanding initially only to reveal that you actually don't care much. You need to have things in common. Some men are more complicated than that, but that depends on the individual. Given that those 3 things and subtle variations of them are the main things a guy feels he needs, I think that men are quite simple overall. I think most women are deceptively simple as well. It's just an unfortunate aspect of modern culture that makes men put the "pussy on a pedestal," for lack of a more refined description, that makes it seem otherwise. Bolded. I'm 40yrs old and divorced. I'd rather spend 5 mins. flogging the dolphin to porn every day then spend the rest of the day doing what I want to do then spend my time with a woman who doesn't want to sex me daily or almost daily.
Woggle Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 When it comes to dating and relationships, I think men are much more simple in the sense that they analyze things way less. Speaking for myself, the only things I really look for in a girlfriend are (1) is she cute? and (2) is she nice to me. That's pretty much it. I am newly boggled every day when I come to LS and read what latest microanalysis you ladies have subjected your men to. Sheesh!!! Exactly. We don't feel the need to pick apart a generally good situation until there is nothing left.
verhrzn Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 When it comes to dating and relationships, I think men are much more simple in the sense that they analyze things way less. Speaking for myself, the only things I really look for in a girlfriend are (1) is she cute? and (2) is she nice to me. That's pretty much it. I am newly boggled every day when I come to LS and read what latest microanalysis you ladies have subjected your men to. Sheesh!!! What if there are multiple cute girls, and they're all nice to you?? Then what?
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