Hafer Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 If I think of this, probably what bothers me the most is the fact that she no longer thinks about me, maybe she doesnt even remember me (its been 2 months, February 19, and 1 month NC), but, I also know that this has a lot to do with validation and ego, so this doesnt really bring me down, just a little bit what about you?
Feelin Frisky Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Mine is being in a relationship where I feel I earn trust through my consistency of temperament and thoughtfulness only to be periodically treated as if guilty of what some other male figure has done in her life to oppress or diss her. Then I'm put in a position of feeling like I have to defend myself and prompt reason for why I deserve better and that merely translates as me being the one finding fault. I have no recourse whatsoever except to disengage and deal with the sense of being taken for granted, shut out and misjudged. If I say anything, all i do is play into the teeth of a trap and I have to suffer my own emotional hard time. I know I don't deserve this treatment but this is what I have gotten time and again in relationships. I'm just better at not stepping into the trap and defending myself when if fact, I did nothing to deserve this kind of treatment. Other than that what hurts most is it ending badly in the number of ways relationships end badly.
CopingGal Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 The thought that hurts me the most is thinking about how throughout the relationship, he portrayed himself as someone who had almost no time, because of his son and job, but tried very hard to make a pinch of time for me...then when he got a great schedule, used his time to look for other women and cheat on me. That's the thought that hurts me the most. A close second is that he took my status as "girlfriend," changed it to "back-up girlfriend" status, and gave the woman he cheated on me with "girlfriend" status, and that he did this without telling me.
AlisaMarie Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Just falling for every single lie that was fed to me. Believing in love instead of the truth that was blatantly written boldly on the wall.
Chs Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 The only thought that i have to avoid at all cost's is the thought of holding and kissing her again, it really makes me break down if the thought of that never happening again enters my mind. Other than that i have accepted mostly everything.
Mr Scorpio Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Pleasant memories hurt the most. Memories of how the relationship ended only serve to validate the negative image of the ex that I have sought to create.
flyguy23 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 The thought of her being with another man, replacing me and giving him everything we had. That is what hurts me the most. The fact that I will never kiss or hold her again.
Bradly Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 The lack of unconditional love... And our Wedding vows are not important.
Follower Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 The fact she used to claim she loved me we worked through so much for her to just leave without any sign of emotional regret afterwords. The thought of her with someone else makes my blood boil, this makes my blood boil more because i know shes not worth the time. Im being trolled in my mind... I feel like im getting raped.
Numb79 Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 The fact that we have been in each others lives for 12 yrs. 7 yrs of friendship and 5 yrs in a relationship. How we will never cross paths again because she lives in Canada and I live in the USA. How we will never have that friendship we once had.... How she was able to just walk away and willing to let all that go..... It acutally makes me more sad than mad.... The fact that I had my oppurtunities to leave when she was tending to her mother because her mother was sick with cancer..... but I stuck it out because I thought she was "the one" and instead she decided to leave me....
ThatDudeXO Posted February 22, 2012 Posted February 22, 2012 For me it hurts that she is no longer loving towards me. I still dream of her, cuddling, kissing and making love to her but that thought probably doesn't cross her mind. It hurts more to think that she is investing time in conversation and social activities with people who don't love or care for her anywhere near as much as I do. She is my queen and I'm no longer of any importance to her. Why doesn't she wanna talk to me anymore? Why has she suddenly fell out of love?
jmy33 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 What hurts the most for me is that I feel like I put everything I had into her and us. Only to have none of it returned, and to have been left so cold. Now I constantly ask myself what I did wrong, and what do I do different if I am in a future realtionship?
jquest1280 Posted February 23, 2012 Posted February 23, 2012 The special treatment I used to get from him which none of our other friends got (he's quite famous among our set, see), and that I used to know all of his activities (which none of our other friends did, we were so close)..now I know nothing about him, and I'm lucky if he even says two words to me when we get together with our friends. That hurts. And the thought that I invested more into the relationship than he ever did, went out of my way, sacrificed more than he did to be together...
Darkesthour33 Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 The thought of her being with another man, replacing me and giving him everything we had. That is what hurts me the most. The fact that I will never kiss or hold her again. I think this sums it up for me too, and how she lied to me and cheated right under my nose, but I couldnt see it becuase I was blindly in love with her and believed everything she said
petal28 Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 The way he charmed himself into my life is what i am now watching him do with other girls. I'm watching him perve on other girls, chatting them up, making them laugh, checking them out, having "hot girl" conversations with his mates, etc
Kamila Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 What hurts the most is that I haven't felt like this with anyone but him. And now that he's not here anymore I'm left with this void. I wish I never agreed on dating him. But he was so persistent and sure that it would work between us. I couldn't believe it, it was like walking on a dream. The second that hurts the most is seeing his next conquest locked in a kiss. I still can't believe that you can call me the love of your life, the one with whom you feel connected and then hook up with a next girl. I just don't trust the guy anymore. And even as a friend, how can I talk to him ? I would just tell him that he tells crap and ****.
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