Wesker Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Like what they use to say about Jordan, or Barry Sanders. "You can't stop them, but only hope to contain them." Just like the flashbacks/memories of my ex, I know I can't stop them from coming up, but only hope to deal with it. But damn, it seems like lately, more, and more flashbacks seem to be hitting me. Strangely it's the good memories that get me angry, and the bad ones that gets me down. I suppose being with someone for over 7 years, any little thing, and place is going to bring back some kind of memory. Maybe if things would have ended better between us, they wouldn't be bothering me as much?
kwoman99 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 just try to stay busy. over time those will fade
Mcnulty Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I hear you. I get them all the time, so hard and frustrating. I remember the good parts more than the bad now. Miss her dreadfully...her personality, her little quirks and the fact i could have surreal conversations about daft things...I dont do that anymore...lost part of myself when she knifed me in the back. Time i guess and for that we need patience. As much as i try to keep busy and go out, these thoughts haunt me, as she does.
Mr Scorpio Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 Maybe if things would have ended better between us, they wouldn't be bothering me as much? Perhaps. But what is a good ending? If things had ended amicably, you might hold out hope that they can be reconciled. If things ended terribly, you might conjour those unpleasant memories to counteract the good ones when they arrive? That's what I do.
Author Wesker Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 Perhaps. But what is a good ending? If things had ended amicably, you might hold out hope that they can be reconciled. If things ended terribly, you might conjour those unpleasant memories to counteract the good ones when they arrive? That's what I do. I think if things ended better, I'd be more appreciative of the good memories instead of getting angered, and feeling like I wasted over 7 years of my life. I guess it also doesn't help that we work at the same place, so I still catch glimpse of her now and then, and a recent kick in the nuts too by hearing her new "last name" getting paged. Ughhhh. But I guess on a plus side, her chump she left me for got a job way out west, so I won't have to deal with that soon. Outta sight, outta mind as they say. Of course I doubt that will stop those damn flashbacks from popping up:sick:
worldgonewrong Posted February 24, 2012 Posted February 24, 2012 and feeling like I wasted over 7 years of my life. That's one of the key things to contend with -- that x-number of years have been wasted. I was with mine for 20 years total, so I understand. Part of becoming unshackled from that is by trying not to perceive those years as a waste. By being more philosophical. Looking at this whole thing called 'Life' as a transitory theater, like Shakespeare said but better.
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