Wicket Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I'm 4.5 months out from a 2.5 year relationship. Things were getting stale, I was working and studying obsessively, my girlfriend felt neglected. She became vulnerable to the advances of her co-worker, ended things with me before she started sleeping with him. I was pretty torn up about it for a while, but now I am able to keep my emotions in check. The strangest thing happened. I was getting used to the idea that it was completely over and she really didn't want anything to do with me anymore. Then, the night before Valentine's Day, she calls me for help moving an old couch out of her place. The reason she turned to me was I own a truck that she loaned me money for, so I reluctantly obliged. What transpired afterwards: She offers to take me out for dinner and drinks as a reward for my help. I agree, and remain distant and aloof in my conversation with her. She then invites me back to her place. Keep in mind that she has a boyfriend now, the same guy she basically left me for. Her boyfriend is texting with her throughout the night, and she seems rather uninterested in talking with him. We end up drinking more at her place, and eventually having sex. I was reluctant to sleep with her at first, but she was VERY aggressive about it. Despite the sex, I never inquired with her as to "what it meant". I listened to her talk about why she broke up with me, what I did wrong, etc. But I didn't try to convince her of anything, I just said "you're right" and remained calm and disinterested. She kept asking me why she cheated on her boyfriend with me. I asked "Are you trying to wreck your relationship?" She says "I don't know". Before I left, I agreed to keep my mouth shut and she assured me that she wouldn't tell her boyfriend that we slept together. I'm not sure how to feel about this. She didn't cheat and lie to me during our relationship. Now 4 months in with her new guy and she's already sleeping around on him with her ex! Is this a sign that she wants to keep the door open for me? Is she using me for some purpose? I'm really confused by the situation. If she loves her new boyfriend, why would she sleep with me on Valentine's Day?
rAFC Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I'm 4.5 months out from a 2.5 year relationship. Things were getting stale, I was working and studying obsessively, my girlfriend felt neglected. She became vulnerable to the advances of her co-worker, ended things with me before she started sleeping with him. I was pretty torn up about it for a while, but now I am able to keep my emotions in check. The strangest thing happened. I was getting used to the idea that it was completely over and she really didn't want anything to do with me anymore. Then, the night before Valentine's Day, she calls me for help moving an old couch out of her place. The reason she turned to me was I own a truck that she loaned me money for, so I reluctantly obliged. What transpired afterwards: She offers to take me out for dinner and drinks as a reward for my help. I agree, and remain distant and aloof in my conversation with her. She then invites me back to her place. Keep in mind that she has a boyfriend now, the same guy she basically left me for. Her boyfriend is texting with her throughout the night, and she seems rather uninterested in talking with him. We end up drinking more at her place, and eventually having sex. I was reluctant to sleep with her at first, but she was VERY aggressive about it. Despite the sex, I never inquired with her as to "what it meant". I listened to her talk about why she broke up with me, what I did wrong, etc. But I didn't try to convince her of anything, I just said "you're right" and remained calm and disinterested. She kept asking me why she cheated on her boyfriend with me. I asked "Are you trying to wreck your relationship?" She says "I don't know". Before I left, I agreed to keep my mouth shut and she assured me that she wouldn't tell her boyfriend that we slept together. I'm not sure how to feel about this. She didn't cheat and lie to me during our relationship. Now 4 months in with her new guy and she's already sleeping around on him with her ex! Is this a sign that she wants to keep the door open for me? Is she using me for some purpose? I'm really confused by the situation. If she loves her new boyfriend, why would she sleep with me on Valentine's Day? Don't listen to her words, because her actions prove that she is untrustworthy.
Frank13 Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 She didn't cheat and lie to me during our relationship. ...... that you know of.
Mcnulty Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 She's just proved what she is and yes I bet she did cheat on you. Would you like that done to you....your gf sleeping with an ex? daft question eh?
CaliBabe Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 This is horrible. She is testing to see if she can still have you, and obviously you proved to her that she can. You are cheapening yourself. You knowingly slept with her while she is in a relationship. She can have her cake and eat it too. She knows now that she can have you as a fall back whenever she wants. If I were her, I would have lost alot of respect for you as you showed just how desparate you are.
NeverAgainDC Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 This woman's game is easy to see. Personally, I'd be glad that I got a piece and never talk to her again. What is there to gain? She left you for this other guy and then cheated on him with you. Sounds like a quality girl. You got your moral victory. Relish in the fact and leave while you're on top.
Author Wicket Posted February 20, 2012 Author Posted February 20, 2012 Well, she showed up at my house today bawling her eyes out claiming she was going to quit her job and kill herself. She had promised her boyfriend the day before that she would never see me again. The boyfriend did a drive-by and saw her car parked in front of my house. She talked to him on the phone and he's raging. Apparently he's done with her. She left my place, said she couldn't stay, and I slammed the door on her. The drama continues...
NopeNah Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 It's continuing because you're allowing it to do so
fetish1980 Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 The girl is talking about killing herself? Manipulation. All she wants is you to feel sorry for her. She made her bed, now she has to lay in it. And i wouldn't believe anything that came out of her mouth since she's just proven that she will lie and cheat to get what she wants. This girl is bad news. And if she's really serious about killing herself, i hope she can just go drive her car in a lake and with no bloodshed. Sorry, but i have no sympathy for suicide talk. fetish
Philosoraptor Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 You should have called the authorities as suicide talk needs to be taken seriously. You need to also cut this girl out of your life as she seems very unstable.
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