SJC2008 Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 (edited) Had my second date with her recently and it went well! This is the second time I've gotten second date in a row so I've come a long way lol. Anyway, she's nice, funny, a good conversator, I'm attracted to her. She accepts my advances, e.g, holding hands, putting my arm around her and letting me kiss her goodnight (1st kiss was at end of 2nd date). The only thing is, is that she dosen't ask any questions about me. Nothing about interests, hobbies, music, siblings or anything. Due to my limited exp I want to ask if this is something I should expect or is it just "the way it is" in the dating game? Also, how many dates in should I expect her to initiate contact? Edited February 19, 2012 by SJC2008 left something out
FitChick Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I am the opposite. I interrogate everyone I date! Is she shy or maybe is afraid of being perceived as nosy? You could always say "Is there anything you'd like to know about me?" Or when you ask her questions and she answers, answer your own question. Example: "How many siblings do you have." She says "Three." You say, "I'm the youngest of four." Do that a few times and then don't answer the question and see if she gets the idea and asks you instead. Give it time.
Author SJC2008 Posted February 19, 2012 Author Posted February 19, 2012 @Thefinalword: We joke around a lot which is great! When we conversate we talk about anything and everything. Things like tv shows, politics, career, normal "adult" conversation IMO. The convo flows pretty well for the most part. @Fitchick: That's great advice! Do you think the 3rd date is to soon to tell her what qualities I like in a woman and what I value in a relationship? I just feel out of touch and don't wan't to scare her off.
Ranchero44 Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 The only thing is, is that she dosen't ask any questions about me. Nothing about interests, hobbies, music, siblings or anything. Due to my limited exp I want to ask if this is something I should expect or is it just "the way it is" in the dating game? I know that for me, if I really like the guy, I get very nervous. When I get nervous, I can't relax I sometimes forget to ask him questions about himself. That's just the way it goes for me sometimes. Don't know if the same thing is going on with your girl . . . .
FitChick Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 @Fitchick: That's great advice! Do you think the 3rd date is to soon to tell her what qualities I like in a woman and what I value in a relationship? Don't rattle off a list of qualities you like in A woman. Tell her what you like about HER, followed by "I'm so glad we met" or "I feel so good/happy/relaxed (use your own words) when I'm with you." Then squeeze her hand, give her a hug or tender kiss (depending on where you are). Then see what happens. One step at a time! 1
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