I haven't been in contact with my ex for over a year but he has just got in contact

[Binky62]

Me and my ex broke up nearly 1 and a half years ago. Near the end he was on and off with me, and i had found out he had cheated on me (kissed a old uni girl friend) and at the time was talking about going travelling. We broke up and never contacted each other and deleted each other from facebook etc. We also didn't have the same circle of friends so I never met up with his again. At the time i was very hurt. He went travelling and stayed in australia. I started a Masters course and got on with my life. I didn't dwell on it as I was set on never seeing or talking to him again. At the time i was 22 and he was 26.

 

This week out of the blue I received an email from him saying:

 

it's been along while so I hope you don't mind me getting in touch. How are things? I've been thinking about you alot and just wanted to say hi. Much has happened since I saw you last, I went travelling and worked in australia for a while, which was alot of fun. I know you probably hate me but I hope not, I miss you so I really wanted to get in touch. Let me know you're ok and what you're up to!!

Hopefully hear from you soon

 

I cant understand what does he want from me? And what would we both get out of this? I haven't replied yet and and am not sure if I want to. Afterall his he only trying to clear his concious. And if I did what would I even say.

 

Has anyone been in this situation before? And if so what happened?

Edited February 18, 2012 by Binky62
Wrong wording

[EgoJoe]

That email is an obvious move to reconnect. To what end I do not know.

 

I'll bold the important parts and add my interpretation of intent.

 

 

it's been along while so I hope you don't mind (reservation) me getting in touch. How are

things? (move to reconnect) I've been thinking about you alot (statement of fact) and just wanted to say hi (minimalizing to save face to whatever end). Much has

happened since I saw you last (thinking about that time), I went travelling and worked in australia for a

while, which was alot of fun. I know you probably hate me (saying this just in case you do so I don't feel foolish) but I hope not(you have every right to be unhappy with me), I miss

you (I miss you) so I really wanted to get in touch. Let me know you're ok and what you're up

to (please respond)!!

Hopefully hear from you soon (please)

 

 

My advice is to let it sit for a week, vent a bit and see how you feel then. This is a move to reconnect and start over to whatever end while using the past as a reason.

[smokey bear]

That email is an obvious move to reconnect. To what end I do not know.

 

I'll bold the important parts and add my interpretation of intent.

 

 

 

My advice is to let it sit for a week, vent a bit and see how you feel then. This is a move to reconnect and start over to whatever end while using the past as a reason.

 

 

 

Your very good at that joe

[Cocollective]

wow great interpretation Joe!