GG3 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Guys...do you like it when a woman asks you out? What are some of your reasons for not asking her out first?
fortyninethousand322 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I don't ask women out because I'm scared of them. If a woman asked me out I'd assume she was just messing around to try to make a fool out of me. I wouldn't believe she was actually interested.
ThaWholigan Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Was asked out twice. I said no both times.
ThatDudeXO Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I love it if I'm attracted to her. It's only happened a couple times. Not enough! 1
Fondue Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I don't think a woman ever "asked me out." A lot of women would do the whole suggesting bit, "oh, you know, we should get a coffee sometime," or "I think it would be great to have dinner one night." Many women do this and did this with me. I don't think I ever had someone ask, "would you like go to _________ and do ________ on ________ evening with me?" This is good though. If they merely suggesting ideas, you are able to not act on her hints if you're not attracted to her, therefor leaving things unharmed. I just choose to avoid these conversations or avoid these recommendations if I am not interested in the woman. 1
alphamale Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Guys...do you like it when a woman asks you out? What are some of your reasons for not asking her out first? only if i like her already and was planning on asking her out but she got to it first
ThaWholigan Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I love it if I'm attracted to her. ^^^^ Basically. I feel bad rejecting girls though, I actually understand how a lot of girls feel when they have to do it so many times.....
alphamale Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I feel bad rejecting girls though, I don't, its nice to have the shoe on the other foot for once
ThaWholigan Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I don't, its nice to have the shoe on the other foot for once LOL could it be the autistic man has more empathy than the alpha male?? Stranger things have happened :laugh:
Jynxx Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I guess I would like it. Never happened to me and odds are against it happening in this lifetime tho
turt Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Yes, I do. If I like you, I'll go out. Considering I've only asked one woman out (which is rare but possible), you always have a chance he likes you.
counterman Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Yes and no. Out of every girl that has asked me out or hinted at it, I've said no. I felt a little bad rejecting them, but also appreciated their confidence. At least they don't have the what ifs. If I was getting interested in a girl and she asked me out first, that would be awesome.
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 A guy likes being asked out by a woman under certain circumstances. Those circumstances are no different when a woman likes being asked out by a guy. Back when I was extremely shy, there were cases where I liked a girl but never asked her out. These included but are not limited to: --my shyness around women. --not wanting to disturb her (ex: she's sitting down, intensely reading a book). --not wanting to flirt with her while she's at her job. --she is dating or is dating a close friend or acquaintance. --I find her physically attractive but something about her personality is throwing up red flags. --she's a coworker, and I don't date coworkers. --she appears unapproachable and standoffish (always having a grouchy look). --feeling she's so attractive that she must be approached by a dozen guys every other hour, and I don't think I offer much competition. --I had gotten over a bad breakup and wasn't ready for something new, nor did I want to make her a rebound woman. Although I don't give myself so many excuses for not flirting with a woman nowadays, the reasons above were the general reasons why I didn't approach a woman I found attractive.
EasyHeart Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I don't like or dislike it. The times I've been directly asked out (as opposed to someone I'm flirting with saying "We should get together sometime") it's been women that I had zero interest in. If I'm interested in a woman I'll flirt with her and then ask her out. The only time I can see it working is if there's someone I'm attracted to but haven't asked her out because she not available. In that situation, if she said, "Bob and I broke up and we should go out," I'd like it. But generally, if I don't ask her out, it's because (1) I'm not interested, (2) I don't think she's available or (3) I'm not available.
unuh Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 The times I've been directly asked out (as opposed to someone I'm flirting with saying "We should get together sometime") it's been women that I had zero interest in. If I'm interested in a woman I'll flirt with her and then ask her out. It's been my experience that guys are quicker to ask out a woman they like than a woman will ask a man she likes. Personally, I've always felt if he likes he he'd ask me out. I've asked out guys. A couple times things went well. A couple times it was obviously he didn't want to be there. And, sadly, I've had a couple of rejections, too. But seeing how many guys here say they said no when they've been asked, I think I'm a little less likely to ask another guy. Yikes.
alphamale Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I basically reject girls who flirt with me by disregarding them
El Brujo Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Guys...do you like it when a woman asks you out? Do bears poop in the woods??? If a woman ever asked me out, I'd think I'd died and gone to heaven! :lmao:
carhill Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Guys...do you like it when a woman asks you out? What are some of your reasons for not asking her out first? I'll let you know when it happens. No reasons. If I find her attractive and she's single, never had an issue asking her out.
somedude81 Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Getting asked out by a woman is such a rare occurrence for me, that there really isn't any reason to have an opinion on it. What are some of your reasons for not asking her out first? Odds are very low that a woman would ask me out before I ask her out. Though if it actually happened, there are a couple of reasons why she beat me to the punch. Most likely I'm not attracted to her and would never ask her out. The other was that I wasn't sure about if she would accept a date or not so I was waiting for the best moment.
EasyHeart Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 It's been my experience that guys are quicker to ask out a woman they like than a woman will ask a man she likes. Personally, I've always felt if he likes he he'd ask me out. I've asked out guys. A couple times things went well. A couple times it was obviously he didn't want to be there. And, sadly, I've had a couple of rejections, too. But seeing how many guys here say they said no when they've been asked, I think I'm a little less likely to ask another guy. Yikes.Please don't draw that conclusion. Lots of other guys said they would like it. I think you have to try and get a read on the other guy. Some men are more shy and/or inexperienced and don't ask women out for that reason. If it seems like the guy falls into that category, then by all means go for it. The other thing you have to learn is to deal with rejection. Guys start dealing with that when we're 12 (or whenever it is we start noticing girls). It's pretty miserable the first few thousand times a girl shoots you down, but after a while you realize that the world isn't going to end just because someone doesn't want to go out with you. NOT asking is the same as getting an automatic "no", while asking means that you have a >0% chance of getting a date. You have absolutely nothing to lose by asking another person on a date.
Anela Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Some of us girls also deal with rejection at that early age - we get the lovely treatment of guys pulling faces and teasing each other about us being their new girlfriends, as though that would be the worst and grossest thing in the world. Or we're asked out by boys who make it sound like they're doing us a favour "I heard you had a crush on me..." after they've actually liked us for two years, but have been too afraid to ask us out - partially because their friends would give them hell about it. In the meantime, they love the company of the popular girls, if they can get it. That didn't just happen in high school - and I have a sister who had a guy swooning, "She came out of her room!" when she was extremely shy, and I had been, too, but I'd been down there, being polite. I do know of one young woman who is happily married, and she had to ask the guy out. He admitted that it woud have taken him a while to ask. Other women have made it known that they wouldn't mind going out with their partners, but didn't ask directly. Right, slight bitterness activated. I need to get out of here.
somedude81 Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Some of us girls also deal with rejection at that early age - we get the lovely treatment of guys pulling faces and teasing each other about us being their new girlfriends, as though that would be the worst and grossest thing in the world. Or we're asked out by boys who make it sound like they're doing us a favour "I heard you had a crush on me..." after they've actually liked us for two years, but have been too afraid to ask us out - partially because their friends would give them hell about it. How come it sounds like your talking about 10 year old's? Ohh, you have a girlfriend, that's so gay...
Oxy Moronovich Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Some of us girls also deal with rejection at that early age - we get the lovely treatment of guys pulling faces and teasing each other about us being their new girlfriends, as though that would be the worst and grossest thing in the world. Or we're asked out by boys who make it sound like they're doing us a favour "I heard you had a crush on me..." after they've actually liked us for two years, but have been too afraid to ask us out - partially because their friends would give them hell about it. In the meantime, they love the company of the popular girls, if they can get it. That didn't just happen in high school - and I have a sister who had a guy swooning, "She came out of her room!" when she was extremely shy, and I had been, too, but I'd been down there, being polite. I do know of one young woman who is happily married, and she had to ask the guy out. He admitted that it woud have taken him a while to ask. Other women have made it known that they wouldn't mind going out with their partners, but didn't ask directly. Right, slight bitterness activated. I need to get out of here. You do sound bitter. I don't know when you graduated high school. I graduated in 2003. And it was a big high school. Even though it was grades 10-12, there were over 2500 students. Even in a big school like that there were no privacy. If you were an unpopular kid, your dating life would be spread out amongst other unpopular kids, which were alot. If you were a popular kid, both the popular and unpopular kids knew. There was alotta anxiety about who you liked and didn't because so many people knew. I've actually said to a girl, "So I heard you like me." But I wasn't thinking of it as an ego trip. For me it was a relief because I had felt she didn't really like me prior to that. The same thing you moan about guys acting bad is what I experienced with girls. One girl liked me but her friend openly stated, while I was there, "You'd be lowering your standards if you went with him." So in grade school boys and girls were equally bad. We were too inexperienced to have ego or understand our behavior. I don't look back on those times with bitterness, but I am glad they are over.
Shaun-Dro Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Guys...do you like it when a woman asks you out? What are some of your reasons for not asking her out first? I don't exactly have a problem with women asking me out but I prefer that she drop a clear hint that she wants me to do it. I've come across women that seem to drop hints, only to discover that it was just a ruse to see how many men they could get to ask them out, as some kind of test into how attractive they are. Some of these women, in my experience, were already in relationships. So yes, it's good that a woman be direct with a man she's genuinely in to, and not play with his mind if she doesn't want to be the one asking him on a date or any kind of hookup. I've always stuck by my belief that the man should do the asking and the woman should make it easy for him to do so.
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