NeverSettle Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I’m still angry. I can’t believe that whore had her f-buddy (Om) drive over my house to pick my kids up to go to her whore sisters’ kid’s b-day party. I guess he just doesn’t know how I’m angry enough to break his f-ing jaw. It’s bad enough she has him moved in with her in her new apartment and is now pushing him on the kids even when she has our daughters for the 50/50 custody week. I just didn’t want that stinky stuff on the bottom of my shoe to even know where I live, much less have the balls to pull his crap car in my driveway. Man this sucks. 20 years together 17 year marriage D-day October 2011. 2-daughters 12 & 15. Big fog didn’t know. Found out after I was told to move out so we could try a separation, that there was a year long E affair and P affair that she still doesn’t admit. (Facebook) (old boyfriend) I was a stupid doormat while she saved enough money from October to early December to get her own apartment because I wasn’t moving out fast enough for the whore b. Put up with ten years of her pity party being depressed, her constant happy pills, her sending sprees and her manic episodes. Spent all my money trying keep our family from being bankrupt and homeless. Left me with the mortgage and the over 30,000 debt. I know I’m better off with this passive aggressive cheating whore out of my life. But I’m still F-ing angry! It is still upsetting to have to watch her take off to her whore sister’s to play NEW family, but to have that low-life prick drive in my driveway to pick up my girls just really ticked me off. Dammit!
alphamale Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 so she is bipolar then? that gives her license to do about anything. if its documented no court will convict her
Author NeverSettle Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 She doesn't know if she is bipolar or not. I'm thinking she was/is now that I have finally researched the subject enough. Never knew much about the subject, but looking back now early on, she would be very happy one minute and come out from taking a shower acting like I kicked her puppy or something. Now that she has been on these f-ing meds so long I think something in her brain is gone now. All I can do is watch from the sideline now. However, I still hurt and avoid having to talk to her. I just can't get past my anger that this prick had the peas to drive over here. I can't get past the feeling that if this prick knew what I was able to do to him he would be more concerned. I dunno, I just want to brea his f-ing face. Ya know?
alphamale Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 She doesn't know if she is bipolar or not. trust me, if she was she would know. its like not knowing you have szichrophrenia
Author NeverSettle Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 Well, her mom is bipolar. I found that out just a couple years ago when her mom decided to just waltz back into her daughters lives after being absent somewhere around 25 years. It's like she is repeating what her mom did to them in a way. Her mom ended up sending her girls to live with thier dad one after the other so they wouldn't be in the way of her mom and her boyfriend. At least that is what I was told but she lies, so who knows.
KathyM Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I'm sorry. I know this must be really horrible for you, but I hope you won't do anything that will get you into trouble, like beat up the guy or something. It's too bad the way it turned out, but at least now you do get a chance for a life with someone normal who's not going to pull this crap on you.
Author NeverSettle Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 Yes, I hope I wont also. I wont. But man it's hard to stop thinking about the brass on this jerk. Not only did he have a hand in destroying my marriage, but he destroyed his own and his kids. It takes a certain kind of human being to be able to do that knd of thing and feel comfortable with themselves. Something inside me wants to let this prick know somehow. But I can't afford trouble right now it's all I can do to get by on my single salary and keep up with the debt I get to pay by myself now and I'm trying to refinance this house so I can at least afford to live. I'm trying to show I'm strong for my daughters and don't even really mention any of my feelings toward this prick one way or the other anymore. But it's something inside that just makes me feel like I need to do something other than let it roll, get over it, move on...blah blah blah. I just want to hurt this guy. Kinda wish I lived in one of those states where I could sue him at least.
Author NeverSettle Posted February 19, 2012 Author Posted February 19, 2012 I guess it's a pride thing that I need to deal with. When my whore left me in Dec. to move in her apartment she took our daughters to spend the first week with her and then they come back home for a week, etc. The first week they came home, my whore let them know that the Om was going to be staying there but he would go back to live at his parents the week my girls would come back. She kept this up for a little while but I think she is getting ready to move this om in with her full time now. I want to tell the kids how wrong it is what my whore is doing, but without anyone else to back me up, I'll just look pathetic. I did tell them that one should be separated and divorced before one goes dating and such. Guess I'm just living in the old time morality of the past. I want someone to say THIS IS WRONG! I have finally stopped feeling the loss of my dead whore to a degree with the NC. However, not moving very far along in the getting over the betrayal and lies. Just don't want to even have to acknowledge the whores existance anymore, much less this om but because of the kids, I'm going to have to figure some way to get a handle on my anger. Don't anyone here get the idea that I beat my wife either. Damn Lifetime movies.
KathyM Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 Yes, I hope I wont also. I wont. But man it's hard to stop thinking about the brass on this jerk. Not only did he have a hand in destroying my marriage, but he destroyed his own and his kids. It takes a certain kind of human being to be able to do that knd of thing and feel comfortable with themselves. Something inside me wants to let this prick know somehow. But I can't afford trouble right now it's all I can do to get by on my single salary and keep up with the debt I get to pay by myself now and I'm trying to refinance this house so I can at least afford to live. I'm trying to show I'm strong for my daughters and don't even really mention any of my feelings toward this prick one way or the other anymore. But it's something inside that just makes me feel like I need to do something other than let it roll, get over it, move on...blah blah blah. I just want to hurt this guy. Kinda wish I lived in one of those states where I could sue him at least. Your daughters need you to be strong for them and not vengeful. As hard as this may be for you, your daughters also need to be able to have a good relationship with their mother, so I would suggest you try not to badmouth her in front of them, for your daughters' sake. You may want to assure them how much you love them, and that you are sorry they have to go through this, and that their mother was wrong to leave you, but you both still love them very much. I know it may hurt to be civil to your ex, but for the sake of your daughters, you should try.
Author NeverSettle Posted February 19, 2012 Author Posted February 19, 2012 I’m doing my best to be strong for them. Can’t think of anything anyone could claim where I was vengeful, yet. Don’t badmouth the mother of my children and have told them many times how both their mother and me love them very much and how sorry I am they have to be put in this situation. Although this whore in one of her fits just before d-day, told me how I forced her to have the second child that she never wanted and how she blamed me because we had daughters instead of boys because they demanded so much of her and she couldn‘t go out with her whore girlfriends. Not to mention she threatened to throw our first child of our balcony one day while I was at work. She let me know how she wasn’t going to be that kind of mom that was always there for her kids. Part of this whole divorce is so she can have the girls out of hair and out of her butt for a week. (her words) How do I have a "good relationship" when I just want to pretend she is dead to me? Trust me, I have been doing my best.
KathyM Posted February 19, 2012 Posted February 19, 2012 I’m doing my best to be strong for them. Can’t think of anything anyone could claim where I was vengeful, yet. Don’t badmouth the mother of my children and have told them many times how both their mother and me love them very much and how sorry I am they have to be put in this situation. Although this whore in one of her fits just before d-day, told me how I forced her to have the second child that she never wanted and how she blamed me because we had daughters instead of boys because they demanded so much of her and she couldn‘t go out with her whore girlfriends. Not to mention she threatened to throw our first child of our balcony one day while I was at work. She let me know how she wasn’t going to be that kind of mom that was always there for her kids. Part of this whole divorce is so she can have the girls out of hair and out of her butt for a week. (her words) How do I have a "good relationship" when I just want to pretend she is dead to me? Trust me, I have been doing my best. You don't have to have a good relationship with your wife, and under the circumstances, I'd be surprised if you did, but you do have to be civil to her for the sake of your children--meaning not mean and nasty, but coldly polite. When the parents trash each other to the kids, it's the kids who suffer for it. It sounds like you are trying to put your anger aside in front of your children. That's good.
Sugarkane Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 This woman sounds like a nutter. Threatening to Throw the kid off the balcony? WTF?
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