An incredible irony - very first hearbreak comes back.. after 23 years apart

[sweetheart5381]

The strangest irony has occured in the last 2 weeks - having a hard time knowing what to do.

 

Some background - My most recent bf broke up with me a few weeks ago; he wanted space, I communicated with him, he got angry and broke it off completely. We work together to complicate matters worse. I have been heartbroken over this, I thought that we were great together and love him deeply as both a friend and a lover. This hearbreak is the reason I am here in the first place.

 

Then suddenly out of the blue, last week my very first love and first heartbreak has re-appeared 23 yrs after he broke up with me. I was devastated back then, I offered my love and virginity to him, he accepted and then he dumped me a month later saying he didnt really want a girlfriend. We were just teenagers then, and he has rarely crossed my mind (go figure, it has been many yrs since I was left a crying mess of pain and sadness, but I still remember it well - he in retrospect reminds me of how resilient I can be about love and loss) That's the irony.

 

He has confessed to me in the last week that I was his first love too ( I didnt know that and it caught me off guard) and that he deeply regrets breaking my heart. He told me that he has always thought about me, wondered where I was and hoped I was happy. (we both moved several times, had no idea where each other could be).

 

Bottom line is he would like for us to get to know one another again. Even as just friends. I told him about my recent breakup and he is just fine with hanging out, talking, etc. I am confused about what to do here - 23 years is a long time, people change alot in there life and I dont have feelings for him at the moment but I am concerned about being hurt again, am very vulnerable right now.

 

I swear, life can hand you the strangest ****, almost like a weird soap opera - but its REAL!!

 

Any opinions would be appreciated, this one blows my mind.

[Philosoraptor]

Guilt can stay with us for a long time, and he seems to have felt it. If you want to get to know him again then do so. If he makes intentions clear he wants more than a friendship let him know your thoughts on on, but heal first.