Saraswati57 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I'm pushing 27 (little over a month), and still, I don't have any experience with women. Although, I've been isolating myself pretty heavily the past several months since I lost my job, so I wasn't expecting successes in that area. I'm not the most outgoing person, I actually have severe anxiety issues. Without the anxiety issues, I'd most likely be significantly more extroverted. At least, I'd imagine I'd be so. I suppose the point of all this is I'm contemplating whether or not my lack of experience at my age is an extreme hindrance concerning physical or romantic relationships with women. Is this so? I'm assuming it to be, and this post is more than likely wishful thinking. Any replies welcome.
Author Saraswati57 Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 That hopeless, huh? Figured so.
Seneca Posted February 20, 2012 Posted February 20, 2012 I suppose the point of all this is I'm contemplating whether or not my lack of experience at my age is an extreme hindrance concerning physical or romantic relationships with women. Is this so? I'm assuming it to be, and this post is more than likely wishful thinking. Any replies welcome. It's only an issue if you THINK it will be. Plus, I've heard of a guy who lost his v card when he was 60... You already know what you need to do which is to get out there and meet a woman. So what's holding you back?
beautifulearth83 Posted February 21, 2012 Posted February 21, 2012 I think the most important thing is keeping love in your heart and the yearning alive. Seek romance, not just with Women, but with life and a appreciation of it. That should be primary. Focus on becoming the best and fullest YOU you can be, then you will find another who is on the same path, and if not, you will have a wonderful relationship with yourself and life. No rush with these things. Life is good and admiring the opposite sex is a beautiful experience whether or not anything happens. And when it does, if your heart is in the right place, it'll be for the right reasons and under the right circumstances. 1
Author Saraswati57 Posted February 24, 2012 Author Posted February 24, 2012 It's only an issue if you THINK it will be. Plus, I've heard of a guy who lost his v card when he was 60... You already know what you need to do which is to get out there and meet a woman. So what's holding you back? Anxiety. I think the most important thing is keeping love in your heart and the yearning alive. Seek romance, not just with Women, but with life and a appreciation of it. That should be primary. Focus on becoming the best and fullest YOU you can be, then you will find another who is on the same path, and if not, you will have a wonderful relationship with yourself and life. No rush with these things. Life is good and admiring the opposite sex is a beautiful experience whether or not anything happens. And when it does, if your heart is in the right place, it'll be for the right reasons and under the right circumstances. There seems to be some underlying pessimism there, hehe.
Seneca Posted February 25, 2012 Posted February 25, 2012 Anxiety. Can you describe how it feels? Is it close to being like a panic attack? For me when I first started approaching very attractive women, my heart would feel like it was going to explode. And I felt light headed. Is that a similar feeling that you get?
Author Saraswati57 Posted March 15, 2012 Author Posted March 15, 2012 Can you describe how it feels? Is it close to being like a panic attack? For me when I first started approaching very attractive women, my heart would feel like it was going to explode. And I felt light headed. Is that a similar feeling that you get? Sorry for the delayed response, yeah, I'd say it's an anxiety attack, but more of to the effect that I shut down (low self-esteem) and don't really attempt to have a conversation with them.
FitChick Posted March 15, 2012 Posted March 15, 2012 You need to read counterman's thread about approaching women. It is inspirational to men like you. He used to be anxious but has become more confident.
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