pretty_petal Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 My bf and i have been together ages and as far as i can see we have a perfect relationship. We are very young and we only fell in love properly after 7 months, slowly fell in love over the summer *perfect*. Anyhow, another 7 months on and luckly things are still going very well. Recently tho i've noticed that when i say 'i love you' on IM he writes 'ditto', or 'you too'. If i say 'i love you' to his face he says 'you too'. And when he says 'it' he says 'love you'. I know that he doesn't mean that he doesn't love me. It just doesn't feel as special when he says it now. I always say 'I love you' because i do. he does say 'i love you' still though. but only occasionally. Pls can i have some input on what people think? Is that what guys normally say? is it just him being a bit lazy with words? Thank you in advance x
pocoestrella Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 You know what sweetie... I really wouldn't stress over it. It sounds as if the two of you have a pretty good relationship and just because he doesn't say it the EXACT way you want to hear it doesn't mean he doesn't feel it, or that he doesn't mean it... If it bothers you that much, talk to him... ask him if everything is okay with him... then tell him that you really love it when he says those words to you... Good Luck
azgirl Posted June 4, 2004 Posted June 4, 2004 I understand, but I agree with pocoestrella. Don't worry about it. At least yours can say the actual "L" word. Mine told me he loved me a couple of months into our relationship - independently of me saying it, and then we said it all the time. Well, after time he suddenly became afraid of the word. When I would say it to him most of the time he would say "And I, you." I got the picture, but still ... So we talked about it one night and he said "I love you. You know I love you. I just don't feel I should have to say it all the time. You should just know and I try to show you with the things that I do, not what I say." Incidentally - his communication skills are a joke, so I just had to accept this. He has a hard time opening up in the first place so I let it go If it bothers you that much then talk to him.
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