maylis Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 When my boyfriend and I started dating he had just gotten out of a relationship 3 months prior (6 year relationship, he broke it off) and I expressed to him my concern right away. He of course said I had nothing to worry about. He wanted to move things really fast. Well we hit one problem and that was it for him, he bailed on me. We have been broken up for 3 weeks now as of yesterday. Earlier this week we met to talk and he said: -he has built a wall around himself, he had to do that for himself -he's no longer in love with me (only two and a half weeks we had been broken up!) -he realized he doesn't want a serious relationship I was a rebound right? Also, he is already sleeping with some chic, I am facebook friends w his brother and his brothers gf and some chic stated that my ex is staying with her this weekend in their hometown (normally he stays at his brothers place). This girl is the same age as his ex, same body type, same tastes (my ex told me I was the complete opposite of his ex before me). This is really frustrating for me and quite painful because it is so selfish. Anyone have any info/advice/thoughts?
Author maylis Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 I've never been a rebound before, it's really awful. I think he is rebounding again (obviously as it has only been a few weeks). I can't imagine doing that..
mike588 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 When my boyfriend and I started dating he had just gotten out of a relationship 3 months prior (6 year relationship, he broke it off) and I expressed to him my concern right away. He of course said I had nothing to worry about. He wanted to move things really fast. Well we hit one problem and that was it for him, he bailed on me. We have been broken up for 3 weeks now as of yesterday. Earlier this week we met to talk and he said: -he has built a wall around himself, he had to do that for himself -he's no longer in love with me (only two and a half weeks we had been broken up!) -he realized he doesn't want a serious relationship I was a rebound right? Also, he is already sleeping with some chic, I am facebook friends w his brother and his brothers gf and some chic stated that my ex is staying with her this weekend in their hometown (normally he stays at his brothers place). This girl is the same age as his ex, same body type, same tastes (my ex told me I was the complete opposite of his ex before me). This is really frustrating for me and quite painful because it is so selfish. Anyone have any info/advice/thoughts? Oh do I know how you feel! and yes you were a rebound such as I was. I met a woman (actually an old friend from many years ago)just weeks out of a relationship and we started dating....things were going great and she told me how wonderful I was..how happy she was etc. etc. The 1st few months I also was concerned that she was still in love with her ex. but l was assured then reassured that I had nothing to worry about. Well about a year later she dumps me to get back with him.....3rd time they had broken up and then gotten back together. It's been 6 1/2 months now and I'm over it...Finally! Hang in there...I know the pain...the frustration but it does get better..that I promise you. Is that the kind of guy you really want? someone that bails on you that easy/fast? You can do better..focus on yourself now..don't contact him just try to move on and learn from this.
Author maylis Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 Oh do I know how you feel! and yes you were a rebound such as I was. I met a woman (actually an old friend from many years ago)just weeks out of a relationship and we started dating....things were going great and she told me how wonderful I was..how happy she was etc. etc. The 1st few months I also was concerned that she was still in love with her ex. but l was assured then reassured that I had nothing to worry about. Well about a year later she dumps me to get back with him.....3rd time they had broken up and then gotten back together. It's been 6 1/2 months now and I'm over it...Finally! Hang in there...I know the pain...the frustration but it does get better..that I promise you. Is that the kind of guy you really want? someone that bails on you that easy/fast? You can do better..focus on yourself now..don't contact him just try to move on and learn from this. I am not contacting him, I told him I am going to heal myself now. He just nodded and told me to take care. It's incredible how wrong we can be sometimes.
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