Art_Critic Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Chin Up CG... You're amongst some friends here... ** hugz **
EgoJoe Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I'm jaded, disillusioned and happy to be alone.
sanctun Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I'm Lonely. I feel lonely too,I know the feeling,you don't feel as 'alive' when you're with that special someone,but you know what time waits for no one,so just take it one day at a time and soon enough you won't feel as bad.It comes and goes.
Author CopingGal Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 Hi. Thank you all. It's hard and I feel empty sometimes. I am grateful for the support I have here.
SoulFinger Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Chin up girl..I know that's easy to say but trust me as you can see from the replies you are definitely not alone feeling lonely or blue from time to time. I still have many days like that..you are not alone:D
Buttercup84 Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I know hun , me too. I think we all are , we are all here for you xx
foolishlover Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 i thought i was doing ok 2 weeks in NC, but now i suddenly feel lonely and depressed also. I think its cause it is a saturday night and he is probably out clubbing. I wanna go out and just drink away but am scared it will make me feel worse or that i might bump into him.
Cocollective Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 I'm no stranger to feeling lonely. I felt like that today actually. What got me over it was finding something positive to occupy my time. For me it's music and spirituality. Never fails in buoying my spirits. Focusing on things other than yourself or your situation always works; so focus on God if you believe in his existence, on helping other people around you, or take up a new hobby- preferably one where you can meet other people. Or start more threads on this site
Exit Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Count me in. I'm lonely as well, but I've lost track of how many weekends I've already spent entirely alone. All I can do is watch movies and visit forums and try to fight off the depression...
geegirl Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Count me in. I'm lonely as well, but I've lost track of how many weekends I've already spent entirely alone. All I can do is watch movies and visit forums and try to fight off the depression... I know how you feel. I fill my days up on the weekend but when the evenings come around, I get lonely. Watch TV alone. Cook alone. Eat a whole cake alone. I hate bars and clubs and while I love the peace and quiet at home, I miss spending it with someone.
Exit Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Yeah, that's part of my problem too, the typical "social scene" just isn't my thing.
geegirl Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 You're trying to break up a pity party. In 6 months, I'll be 41. My mattress is hollowed out on the right side. It's a sign I've been alone for far too long. I bought that mattress 5 years ago.
Art_Critic Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Time to flip the mattress I've been where you are.. I used to believe that it was a conscious decision where I was at so to change I needed to change, I would start going out more. With me the most important thing was I needed to stop the things that kept me by myself.. ie:.. I always created large construction projects that would last me months and then do them by myself... Start putting yourself out there more.. The new SO is around the corner..
geegirl Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Flip mattress...check. Put self out there...trying. Where's the exhausted emoticon? Thanks Art. You're right. I think I've been hiding behind my comfort zone for far too long. And while I do love my aloneness most times, it depresses me occasionally. It doesn't come knocking on your door, that is for sure. 2
dicky_fish Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Whenever I feel lonely I just watch this song: Team america I'm so Ronery HQ - YouTube 1
Author CopingGal Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 I'm no stranger to feeling lonely. I felt like that today actually. What got me over it was finding something positive to occupy my time. For me it's music and spirituality. Never fails in buoying my spirits. Focusing on things other than yourself or your situation always works; so focus on God if you believe in his existence, on helping other people around you, or take up a new hobby- preferably one where you can meet other people. Or start more threads on this site Hi. I have tons of schoolwork to do, plus I do several volunteer projects. Usually I'm not so bad...but yesterday I took the day off from school work. I had a volunteer project in the morning and I watched some TV on YouTube and laughed and laughed and laughed. I felt pretty good. But then later, my mind was at rest because I wasn't doing school work or one of my volunteer projects. I wanted to rest and relax. However, the consequence for being relaxed and quiet is that the memories slip in. I'm better today. Thanks.
Author CopingGal Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 Good morning and thanks again to everyone. My roommate has pointed out to me several times that when I feel that way, it's almost always on the weekends. Weekends are much harder...even when I have lots of school work. Friday has been my day of rest. I think I might shift it to Monday. I think working all day on Friday will help me. I already usually work through the day on Sat and Sun, although lighter than during the rest of the week.
Author CopingGal Posted February 18, 2012 Author Posted February 18, 2012 I think that people who are lonely, or need to cuddle, or need to relax can do things that help with the pain and angst. I am allergic to cats and you have to pay a HUGGGE deposit here to have one. There are no dogs allowed here. If my situation were different, I would buy a cat. Even if I was on allergy medicine all the time, I still could not do it...I would have to pay over 600 dollars to have one cat. But here are some possibilities: -dog -cat -fish: Fish lower the blood pressure and are relaxing to watch. When I was younger, my fish would only last for a few days. I had noooo idea that you could not put fish in water that just came from the tap. There's a lot to taking care of fish that I did not know about until I started reading up on them. -bunny. I don't like it when people buy bunnies during Easter (without doing research) because they think they are so cute. People don't like it when they find out how much care they need. I'm actually against bunnies and rabbits being sold in pet stores, but I would love to open my home to a bunny or rabbit living in a shelter that needs to be rescued. An interesting sideline- I foud out bunnies/rabbits who were rasied in doors should never be taken care of out doors. It could be very harmful to them, even if they are just in a backyard. I read that bunnies could be trained to use litter boxes. I would just want to buy wee-wee pads for mine, because I read that bunnies/rabbits also like to lay down in their litter-box. After I bunny/rabbit proof the house, I don't see myself as keeping that lovely creature in a cage. I'd let it hop around the house always. I think I would love to have one. Rag dolls and teddy bears and other stuffed animals: are very nice and helpful to cuddle with at nighttime. I only hug my ragdoll when I go to sleep, but if I held her during the afternoon on Friday, I would have felt better. My sister thinks I'm ridiculous for sleeping with my rag dog, but it helps so much. You can also hold yourself too. It has been a long time since I have done that. White noise from an air purifier or other instruments can help people relax Vanilla in the home, such as vanilla air freshners...smelling vanilla helps people relax Cool jazz- very relaxing Trouble is, as I said, when I relax too much, I think. But if I concentrate on the music and just let the notes of cool jazz take me away, I'm sure that will be much better.
Thatguyintx Posted February 18, 2012 Posted February 18, 2012 Trouble is, as I said, when I relax too much, I think. I am the same way. I have to take back my downtime from the thoughts though. That's my time! The sad emotions can't steal the relaxation time! I have to face the thoughts head-on. (Hurts more upfront, but seems to pass faster, at least for me.) When I first got divorced years ago, I didn't want to go certain places because they reminded me of my ex-wife. Then I got pissed and decided I wanted to go to those places to overwrite the memories of them being special to me and her together. Eventually the "us" places became "me" places. Hope ya'all don't feel too lonely knowing there are many others in the same boat.
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